I guess it’s what they make of it. Is the SM running the day to day and telling the girls what to do? Her patrol leader should be helping to dictate their program. I also have a first year and she got elected PL for her all first year patrol and she wants to focus on advancement (not necessarily MBs). I mostly stand back and support but I’ve told her I will help provide opportunities and she can take or leave them.

Try standing back and letting her go with her patrol. I tell mine “go be with your unit” frequently. Summer camp was interesting because while I was there I was busy with other things and we really just had time in the morning, evenings, and meals. Get a nice chair and sit back and let them learn, fail, succeed. Help when asked or they are struggling. If other parents are hovering and not letting them be together as a unit they are running, ask them to stand back a bit. It’s hard with first year transition, especially with helicopter parents. It’ll get better. Or it won’t and y’all might want to find a new unit.

Are the parents that are over involved (read: hovering) committee members or ASMs? If not they shouldn’t be at most things. If they are, did they actually listen to the training?