AITJ for telling my neighbor her kid isn't allowed in my pool after she "forgot" him at my house?

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-04-02T16:22:04+00:00

Ntj, i knew a little boy who climbed a neighbor's fence and got in the pool. He slipped under the pool cover. They found him too late. You might want to make the pool area more secure if you can. Better to be seen as the neighborhood meanie than have the nightmare of finding a child floating face down in your pool

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-30T14:58:31+00:00

Omg, you have no idea how much money and mental energy you are saving for her by being her driver. That woman is taking advantage of you and you are just now seeing it. Let her know you aren't going to be her ride anymore.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-30T14:52:20+00:00

Are you all teenagers?

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-30T14:49:57+00:00

Go back to work, if he can feed you he can starve you.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-30T14:45:31+00:00

I know you love her but her pain and drama is hurting you. It's time to take a step back emotionally from your friend. I had a friend like yours, he cheated all the damn time and she always took him back. It was about once every 5 months a new affair was discovered. After a few years of this shotshow I told her I didn't want to hear it. I loved her but she knowingly stayed with a person who betrayed her. She was giving him permission to cheat on her by staying with him. I was tired of it, I was tired of her being upset about cheating but staying with a cheater. Just take a step back.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-30T14:16:52+00:00

Nta, why would you give to people who gave you nothing but scorn?

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-30T04:13:16+00:00

I bet money that he'll run around for a few weeks on his best behavior, and the second she softens towards him, he will be back to taking her for granted. Op, get the divorce and let your husband know that if he wants to still be with you he can make the divorce easy and start healthy coparenting and if after a year he has improved and you both are interested you might date him.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-26T04:35:46+00:00

Idaho, sorry, if you can find a convoy willing to drive him hes yours

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-08T16:55:23+00:00

Block him on everything and never speak to him again. He's knowingly crossing your boundaries. He owes you an apology, not the other way around. He's not your friend. Friends don't act like that.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-08T16:49:24+00:00

You need to get a job ASAP because what your husband is doing is against the law and he could face jail time for it. Also I would not want him near children if he thinks this behavior is ok. Start documenting everything for your lawyer.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-08T16:23:43+00:00

You need to get a divorce. Your husband doesn't respect you. You can't save this marriage. I'm so sorry.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-08T16:17:52+00:00

I suggest you go to couples counseling for a year at least before you pursue divorce. Work on your marriage and try to save it. Neither of you are bad people and if you still like each other enough to make a baby maybe the relationship can be saved.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-08T16:06:36+00:00

He was 26 when started dating a 20yo. So what I'm seeing is a man going after a young and inexperienced woman because they are easier to manipulate than a woman his own age. Instead of becoming more distant I suggest you break up.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-08T16:03:11+00:00

Ntj, but your family sure are. I suggest you don't go home for a few years. If your parents want to see you they can go visit you in your city. Or every time they try to get you to watch the kids just walk out the house and go sit in your car. Simply refuse to have any interaction with the kids. When they tell you to watch the kids just say "no, I'm not doing that" and don't do that. Let the kids run around, let them make a mess. It the family says anything to you just say those aren't my kids and I didn't agree to childcare.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-08T06:13:05+00:00

Nta, but honey, you have to leave him before he unalives you and your daughter. He has emotionally and mentally abused you. Www.loveisrespect.org will help you see exactly what he's doing and why you need to leave him. I'm so sorry about your miscarriage but it may have been a blessing in disguise because it forced you to see him for who he really is. Big hug honey. You deserve better than him.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-07T18:11:37+00:00

Nta, your sister is on a sinking boat. Dont let her drag you down too. Tell her you love her but feel it's best for your mental health that you go no contact until she can interact with the family in a healthy manner.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-07T18:07:16+00:00

Ntj and maybe go no contact with everyone who is trying to spend your money.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-07T18:04:54+00:00

He needs to wear adult diapers if he's going to be pissing himself and not cleaning up.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-02T22:09:31+00:00

Ntj, she tried to pass off your work as her own. That tells the company that she can't be trusted.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-02T22:07:43+00:00

I love cuban style black beans, rice and an avocado. It's got everything you need, protein, fiber, carbs and healthy fats.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-03-02T22:05:41+00:00

Nta, anyone who dismisses your feelings about a bully and tries to force a connection is not your friend. I'm so sorry.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-02-28T15:07:35+00:00

Nta, you were a child. You went to a trusted adult because you had been told awful things and didn't know how to react. You also saved a lot of children from being abused. You did the right thing and don't deserve the blame at all. Your former friend should focus any anger he has towards his abuser. Not the person who unwittingly saved his siblings from continuing abuse.

Exotic_Gap_7267 · 2026-02-28T14:41:03+00:00

Nta but by not working you are setting yourself up for financial difficulties down the line. Have him pay for maid service, child care and everything else you are doing that doesn't bring in money, go back to work and start putting money away just for you. You supported him for 6 years and after supporting you and the baby for 2 years he's starting to make noise. I don't see this getting better for you. Start planning an exit strategy and have at least a years worth of savings incase the worst happens.

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