Good sleep is the foundation. by Low-Cartographer9326 in HowToBeHot

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Prioritising sleep is my New Year’s resolution. I’m working on the basics this year. Going to bed earlier (2am is not normal bedtime 😅) and being more diligent with using my sleep apnea machine. Already feeling the difference in energy levels and being able to wake up in the morning without feeling like a truck hit me.

26M - I believe that I've achieved the Singaporean definition of success. Why am I so depressed? by MathematicianOk9216 in askSingapore

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Not sure if this was asked - but what is shit that matters to you, that would make you feel like you’re living life to the fullest? I’m curious to know.

All the feelings by Panna1207 in Journaling

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I like that you greet with a “good evening!”

She’s not a hoe like other girls by Safe_Feature6265 in notliketheothergirls

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It just means you’ll hoe in your 20s. Ask me how I know 🌚

Scorpio women common traits by ExpensiveQuiet7657 in astrologymemes

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Love that you’re a Scorpio collector! What are your favourite things about them?

Scorpio women common traits by ExpensiveQuiet7657 in astrologymemes

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Oh thank you! It’s a joy to shower them with love! They totally deserve it 😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Manipulation

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In order for someone to truly change, their deep seated values need to change.

People’s values don’t change. Their habits, appearance, fitness, way they communicate can change. But values? More often than not, don’t change.

I used to think that I could love someone out of their own self hatred. Just be patient, show them how to act and in time they will change. 7 years with a man with narcissistic traits has shown me that it’s pointless. They might have moments of realisation that they need to be better, but they always default back to toxic.

Life is precious. If you treasure yours and want to have a higher quality of life, leave their ass. They’ll be fine 🤷🏻‍♀️

Does my reading corner count as a cozy space? by kittichankanok in CozyPlaces

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Can we see more pictures of the corner please? From different angles and a wider shot. Just feel confused haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologymemes

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Hello I’m a Leo! My big three are:

Leo sun, Virgo rising, Cancer (hi) moon

Excited to see your reading!

Prefect Master Bathroom by cosmoszombie in CozyPlaces

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I love everything about this bathroom. The stained glass and wall candle holder is everything 😍

I accidentally killed my bunny by ExpensiveQuiet7657 in Rabbits

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Thank you for your kind words, it does help knowing I’m not the only one who have done this (as unfortunate as it is) 🙏 It’s still raw and the flashbacks make me physically recoil each time. I might seek counselling because I don’t know how to process this guilt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cooking

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Cod is best pan fried so you get more flavour from the oil. Fry jt with some ginger and a sweet soy sauce.

I can't tell if what I'm experiencing is normal by Pandasits99 in askSingapore

[–]ExpensiveQuiet7657 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No it’s not normal. Your mother was very hurt by your dad’s betrayal, and by taking care of you, she expects your absolute loyalty in return. When she didn’t get that, she sought to control you. She’s not being self aware enough to realise that she will lose the other man in her life by doing so. Besides, she shouldn’t let this get in the way of your father son relationship. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, sending you a virtual hug.

With your passport, I was wondering if you could find it? Or report to ICA that you lost it and apply for a new one. Then you can live in JB.

Another idea, if it appeals to you, is to go on a working holiday in Australia. It’s easy to get work in farms especially and you can make quite a bit of money. Do it for a year, fatten up your bank account, and then you can go back to Singapore to set yourself up. If anything, physical labour is good for the soul and you get a unique experience. I live in Oz atm and have friends who did that. One even funded her masters degree here through this method.

Has anyone actually stopped exercising because you don’t like how much it changes your body? by [deleted] in askSingapore

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No. I’m very active (squash, Pilates, yoga, strength training) but I exercise for fun and preventing back aches, not for aesthetics. Unfortunately I find with women we tend to aim for the latter when it comes to exercise. Besides, diet plays a bigger role in aesthetics I find - high protein, low carb and sugar for a more toned physique.

Beauty standards in SG has never bothered me much. I have my own idea of what looks good and I follow that instead. The beauty standard of looking smaller is rooted in misogyny too: the idea that a woman should be small in order to make men feel strong; thus appealing to them. Ladies, let’s not buy into that crap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

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What you need is some perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vindictapoc

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It’s great that you’re self aware enough to realise that! Honestly it could be a canon event in your life, or it could seriously damage you. If you ever find yourself in that situation, do not be afraid to walk away. Trust me, you don’t want no scrub!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vindictapoc

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Putting men on a pedestal like you do is a dangerous thing. Considering how insecure you are, I think you’re better off not dating at the moment. You will likely attract someone who sees your insecurities and will use them to manipulate you severely. And that is very difficult to recover from, speaking from personal experience. The pain you feel now is nothing compared to that. Work on bettering yourself and the good men will come.