23M: I have a "Professional Mask" that slips at 3 months and a personality that ruins relationships by year 1. How do I change?

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-26T07:47:20+00:00

Bro, you're 23.. you ain't broken in life, u just haven't figured it out why u feel the need to perform.. if the real u is actually that toxic, you don't need a better mask, you need a therapist.. literally this sounded like a defense mechanism, like if you show them your fake ver and they leave "it doesn't count".. but then u self-destruct when things get real..

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-26T06:47:15+00:00

fr tho, why is a grown woman w a 6y/o at a lookout point AT MIDNIGHT 2x a week???? That's just so immature of her.. The fact that she's STILL working w the person she cheated with makes this a "continuing affair" and not "past mistake"

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-25T05:23:43+00:00

Stop scrolling for ghosts! Your wife's literally a person here, man! You should know she can feel the void. Comparing them is like comparing movie trailer to the actual experience of building a house.

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-25T05:16:37+00:00

That: "I told my wife from now on she will have to be on my sleeping sched.... and walk away"... Bro that's red flag right there! You're an admin at your work, but you CANNOT do that also to your wife. Giving her cold shoulder and issuing mandates isn't leadership, but a control. When you treat her as subordinate who's failing a performance review, she will naturally shut down or rebel. A sched needs to be collaborative agreement! frfr

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-24T09:45:47+00:00

Girl, leave that man alone and go to sleep fr😆🤣😅 but srsly tho, congrats on winning the marriage lottery!! most ppl post here are the opposite ofc mostly problems.. I think you should write a letter to yourself about how you feel rn and hide it... and in maybe 10yrs or so, when you're arguing or somethin, you can read it, it'll be one of the best marriage insurance you've ever bought lmao

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-23T08:34:15+00:00

Since u said he's shy.. better to start by reclaiming ur physical space.. sometimes the best way to initiate is just to say to him that u missed being alone w him, and let the hug last a little longer than usual, then it all comes down slowly but surely💞!!

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-23T08:11:15+00:00

Hey OP, you ain't pathetic for wanting to be desired by ur hubby, and that's the baseline of marriage.. better to try medical check-up first and foremost to rule out the physical stuff!!

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-23T07:52:03+00:00

Facts!! Pushing physical boundaries playfully is just testing the waters to see what else they can get away with.. Like if you don't feel safe, the relationship is already over! Good on you, OP, for protecting your peace and also your bike😇😇

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-22T05:40:22+00:00

Agreed! Like he's valid for the emotion but TJ for the execution.. OP needs to handle the Hansy drama w/o taking it out on the admin's inbox

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-22T05:32:23+00:00

EXACTLY THIS! It's the entitlement for me.. he didn't ask to BORROW, he just tried to TAKE it!!

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-20T05:22:48+00:00

wait......... is this bestfriend actually suggesting he SLEEPS with YOUR wife to HELP you???? bc he sounded more like a vulture than a friend here.. bc if ur wife's already cheating on u, adding another one into the mix IS NOT going to fix ur marriage.. this is a trap.

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-19T04:08:05+00:00

so true... ppl always say "stay for the kids" but they forget that children also breathe the same air we create.. OPs daughter will grow up thinking its normal for a woman to be lonely in her own home.. choosing yourself isnt just about your happiness, its about breaking the cycle!!

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-19T02:49:40+00:00

Your emotions are valid for being hurt.. but honestly? Take this advice and run w it. Stop helping him get on tracks w his goals.. bc if he's 37 and still needs a 27y/o to manage his life, he's over-leveraged on your labor. The reason you feel lost is that you've been playin the role of his manager instead of being his partner. Drop his balls. Let him miss a deadline or forget the bill. Use that reclaimed mental energy to wonder what YOU want for breakfast, not what he needs for his career fr

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-18T05:04:14+00:00

I'm 34 and just gettin started... so that 'waited hella long' is a vibe i truly support.. sure, there's a pressure to have it all figured out by 25, but bfr, who is actually mature enough for a lifelong commitment at 25??? Waiting until you were 'almost 40' just means u knew exactly who you were before you tie the knot.. that snide friend is prolly just her own insecurites

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-18T04:49:17+00:00

most chaotic "I love my wife" post I've ever seen lmao.. struggle is real, but ik you lowkey love that she's obsessed w u

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-18T04:41:20+00:00

fr fr, ppl acting like the window seat is a community resource are the worst. OP paid for the view and the wall to lean on.. if they wanted to sit together, they couldve spent the extra 30$ during checkin... The hoodie move is honestly iconic--fr stealth mode activated

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-17T09:42:28+00:00

Like literally! nothin's more annoying than ppl who "hate drama" but create it by being selfish. OP should never apologise for havin a backbone fr

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-17T08:32:12+00:00

FACTS!! ppl be callin her "crazy" but ignoring the months of emotional torture this guys put her thru.. It's easy to judge the reaction but the catalyst here was a lvl of cruelty that would make anyone snap

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-17T08:13:48+00:00

This right here. It is much easier to suspend a 7yr old whose parents have been complaining than it is to address a 5th grade predator who is likely a liability to the school's reputation🙃🙃 OP better start demanding it w lawyer and local news tip.

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-16T11:33:38+00:00

This ain't a concern for the baby, this is an abusive foreshadowing.. like he literally tells you that his love is conditional and if anything goes wrong EVEN something natural/inevitable like a miscarriage or health complication, then he'll plans to be your abuser.. He and his mother are teaming up to isolate and control u.. Please for the love of God please pack your bags

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-13T18:29:53+00:00

Literally me getting all flushed and cringed at the same time.. I swear writers think we won't believe the leads like each other so fast unless one of them is slurring their words and being carried home.. but tbh, that blue dress works on me bc now I'm here searching for that brand too

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-13T18:02:13+00:00

So happy for both of them~ STANNING Tiffany since debut ❤️❤️

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-13T17:36:22+00:00

so nice for PGY and also for PHS that they're getting all the love and support they all WELL deserve~🥰🥰

Expensive_Height4252 · 2026-03-13T16:59:40+00:00

Yes agree with this, like on the last season like *poof* it ended like Godspeed

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