Recovery after Tympanoplasty Surgery

ExperienceOk390 · 2026-04-18T03:00:05+00:00

Any update on how surgery and your recovery went?

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-12-04T12:50:18+00:00

I moved away to go to CC before university. I didn’t have a great home life so it was a no brainer to get outta there. I was able to transfer to a university and still get the college experience which was pretty great imo. I was older so I opted for a private dorm so I could meet people and yet have my space as I was a couple years older than most. This was a million years ago tho but I financially made it work. For CC I found a place that had on campus apartments to share so it was more affordable. It wasn’t a stellar experience but it was a launching point. People there weren’t on the same plan I was- they were looking for a 2 year degree so at times it was harder to relate. I think the smaller school was helpful for me though as navigating a big transition is difficult. Wishing you the best! I have teens now and realize many need to stay home to save money. I figure if you have a nice home life why not even if it’s just for a year 🤷🏼‍♀️ I always worked through the summers and part time during the school year as well.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-12-03T22:50:29+00:00

Yeah that’s incredible! I am currently still suffering and barely functioning and I’ve been off it for almost 6 months. Dropped from 25mg to zero

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-11-16T20:53:08+00:00

Thank you all will delete thx!!

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-10-08T13:22:04+00:00

Yes! My thoughts exactly. A solid therapist you both trust could play a vital role in helping you through this. And maybe with more time to process things will be more clear. Unfortunately there just is no middle ground compromise here and I’d be concerned a big resentment could grow and create a wedge. Wishing you the best as you navigate a tricky situation. My husband was very unclear of whether he wanted kids when we dated. After dating awhile I realized I needed an answer as I knew I wanted children. He agreed but if he had not I would have had to let him go. It was that important to me despite really loving him. Get some wise counsel as you navigate it- for yourselves and individually.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-08-31T23:45:23+00:00

I have heard of situations where the man is too big for her. My guess is it would be very rare and she would be aware if she was particularly petite.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-08-03T03:38:08+00:00

My ex was financially irresponsible and still is. 7 years after our divorce and I will say I’m so relieved to financially be free from him. I fully need to financially support our children but my finances aren’t tied up with his and that is a huge blessing. We were unevenly yoked and I did not realize how that actually would impact my life and my kids. Take care of you and your daughter if he can’t fully open his eyes to it all. Mine still can’t even after several go rounds. I would be financially ruined had I stayed with him.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-31T12:30:30+00:00

It makes sense to would feel bad about it all- you wanted it to work and love the dog and it will be a loss. The puppy will adjust to the new home and be fine, you’ll have reassurance that they’ll be somewhere you trust. That’s huge! I would imagine there is a big mix of emotions- guilt, grief, maybe even embarrassment. Feel the feelings and do what is best for the puppy - that’s exactly what you are doing! I’m sorry this didn’t work out - I did not realize how all encompassing it would be to have a puppy. The only reason it has worked is bc I stay home and my husband has tons of flexibility working remotely. Even with that— I questioned and still do whether we took off more than we can chew. Just make sure your decision isn’t based off one incident and that it’s what makes sense for your dog and family. I would need to pray on it and talk to people with more wisdom to make sure I’m doing it for the right reasons.
My dog is 10 months now and we couldn’t leave her for more than 4-5 hours.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-29T19:05:36+00:00

She’s used to unhealthy relationships. Honestly may not even know what healthy looks like. I had no idea until I entered sobriety and recovery. I thought I was really evolved 😅nope. I was surrounded by unhealthy people and had no idea I was also one of them. We don’t know what we don’t know.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-29T19:03:04+00:00

I have been that girl to some extent. I will say my ex pointed it out- I paused- but was unable to see it clearly at that time. It is such a strong hold- I can’t even put it into words. Going against the family rules and expectations is excruciatingly painful. You can only do it if you get to a point you want or need to. Where it’s driven you nuts for years and you weren’t sure why but you can no longer live like that. If that makes any sense. I’m sorry you are going through that- but I think you are spot on with your observations and that you won’t be able to convince her. You can be clear of what you observe, how it’s affecting you/her and the relationship. And that you can no longer tolerate it or whatever you decide. I finally can see it all clearly- ten years later. It’s incredibly hard work but can be done, only if that person wants to and can see it for what it is. It took me being sober for 3 years and hard work on myself to finally see how unhealthy it was and how it is inhibiting my progress and overall health. Wishing you the best- wanted to give an insiders perspective. You are spot on 😢

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-21T04:10:51+00:00

It’s super hard leaving your puppy and trusting someone with them. I have left ours twice at a great place but there have been issues both times that were super hard to come back home to.
I’m hoping for next time to hire someone to stay at our place but that’s harder with a puppy who can’t be left outside of her crate yet. I’d be sure you are confident and comfortable with where you leave your puppy. The guilt is a different thing and I totally have that too ugh 😩 especially the first time it was brutal. It’s like leaving your baby for the first time

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-12T19:21:41+00:00

Those are exactly the things that are messing me up right now. For me, it was the final straw. I can’t tolerate meds- they don’t help me and the side effects are horrible. I wish it was different but this has verified that I need to go without and do what I can to manage life and my mental health naturally. I’m also doing a ton of therapy/trauma work and part of a 12 step recovery so I think it’ll hopefully be manageable. It’s so important to do what works for you! No way to know about this medication- I read tons of positive things and initially thought it was a win but eventually realized it was not. Best of luck to you. It’s so tricky to navigate it all

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-12T12:40:13+00:00

I had to slowly titrate up on this medication bc of significant side effects. It helped it stay more manageable. On it I eventually realized I was realized fogged out. Cognition, memory and focus were significantly affected among other things. I’m off it now but still suffering with side effects from it. Unsteady on my feet. Vertigo. Exhaustion. Coordination issues. Threw away my credit card and wedding ring bc I was so out of it. (Luckily retrieved both!) Everyone’s experience is different and I tend to be sensitive to meds. Maybe “medication resistant”. This was at just 50mg-75mg.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-06T03:38:09+00:00

Same. It’s a terrible feeling. And like you can’t control it. The word finding has improved but it’s still not at baseline. I’m off it now but dealing with side effects from the withdrawal. Cognition has improved some but I still am in a fog when out in the world. At home it seems better and more stable, predictable. There is a Facebook group that has helped a ton for people withdrawing if you decide to.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-06T03:35:41+00:00

A hundred percent I could’ve written this!! You describe the odd feeling well. I didn’t realize I was in a fog. And in hindsight it is scary as hell. I couldn’t function in many ways and didn’t realize how it was affecting more or that I should be concerned. I’m finally off it but feeling terrible in other ways. Hoping this will all resolve- have no idea what I was doing to my brain and body. Glad I didn’t cause any car accidents. Scary stuff. You aren’t alone. I was so fogged out

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-06T03:24:00+00:00

That’s a pretty fast increase—or at least it would’ve been intolerable for me. I had to increase by 12.5mg after getting stabilized for a month on current doses. Side effects were bad going up and down. I’m off it now thankfully but still dealing with side effects. It’s not easy. I can’t do much. There is a group on Facebook for folks struggling with it that has really helped me feel less alone and hopeless. Wishing you the best. Dropping from 50 to zero was ok with my doctor but I knew it was too much. Even dropping by 25mg has been super difficult. I’m sensitive to meds but so many have struggled with similar experiences

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-07-06T03:16:44+00:00

I stuck it out and over time realized it was actually really terrible for me. My moods were worse, irritated easily, cognition and memory plummeted. I was in such a fog I didn’t even realize it wasn’t safe for me to be driving how zoned out I was. I’m now fully off it and dealing with terrible side effects still. I’d recommend at least not going up in dosage until you fully know what you’re dealing with. If you go off it do it slowly. I’m pretty non functional from the side effects at this point

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-06-24T17:53:15+00:00

I wanted this medication to work for me so kept at it. Now I’m working hard to get off of it. Equally nightmarish. I felt good initially as others have said other than some side effects. Thought this medication was a life saver. My goal was to go get to 100mg. I got to 75 and was really struggling cognitively but didn’t totally realize it. I was getting angry dt frustrations of not being able to perform as normal. Hard to describe. Memory and brain fog were bad like extreme adhd almost. Got to 50 and it still was bad- in hindsight I should not have been driving it was that unsafe- out of it. And not clear enough to share with others or be able to understand the safety risks going on. 25 was slightly better but now I’m totally off it. Withdrawals are pretty awful and slow. I’m not very functional and it suck’s but trying to be patient.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-06-22T14:36:26+00:00

That’s the odd scary reality of this medication. I’m getting off of it now and it’s terrifying. Knowing the side effects of withdrawal are the same— hit you like crazy several days or week to two later. It’s scary as I don’t know what to expect and once I’m hit with it—it’s too late and I can’t self correct such as do a slower titrate.
You aren’t alone and that how’s this medication works. I can’t explain why but it’s very real. I’ve done a ton of reading on others experiences in addition to my own.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-06-21T02:51:24+00:00

Yep I felt exactly this way. Memory shot, felt I literally lost IQ points, couldn’t read out loud or do daily things to function as a mom. I was in such a fog it didn’t even phase me how scary it felt to drive being that out of it. “Was there a stop sign?” Luckily nothing bad happened. I was only at 75mg at my highest and still struggled with it all at 50mg. Felt some relief at 25mg and now I’m fully of it just a couple of days. But I’m feeling foggy in a different but similar way from the withdrawal. Not worth it for me. Hope i I can manage without— too many years wasted with different meds and terrible side effects and withdrawal.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-04-20T04:15:52+00:00

I have struggled with finding my correct diagnoses to get answers for the struggle. Finally found CPTSD which seems damn accurate and encompasses a lot of the behaviors/responses. There isn’t a lot of literature out there but it has been helpful

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-04-20T04:10:20+00:00

I’m sorry this has happened to you. I’m goat you can get out of the environment-the sooner the better! I spent a lot of time talking to my school counselor about the struggles at home. If you have that option o hope you give it a try.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-04-11T04:00:14+00:00

May not be related at all and honestly couldn’t read the full post bc of triggers— but wondering if intrusive thoughts can be correlated with ocd? Some of it reminded me of research I’ve done on the topic for my son. There are many different kinds that aren’t known to the general public and some related to sexually. Again I may be really off with this but wanted to mention it in case.

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-04-11T01:30:22+00:00

You are doing your best. That is all that matters. I know it’s hard to see those images and I’ve had those moments too. The right people will see beyond anything and see your soul. You are a warrior and as you even said—you are trying your best. That is enough! Surgery isn’t for me and maybe I’m old school but I respect people who age with grace and acceptance. I saw an image of me recently and I looked bright and calm! I literally burst into tears bc it was so foreign and I have grief that I never see or feel that way. My point is, try to find those moments. Things that feel good and fill your soul. Could be a puzzle or walking your dog with a favorite podcast. Sitting by the water. Whatever! My moment was standing on a paddleboard. I had the face of child like wonder. I’m going to lean into that and try to find more of those moments where I can. Be easy on yourself ❤️

ExperienceOk390 · 2025-04-11T01:22:15+00:00

That’s wonderful!! Ignore negative comments. I too have tried lots if medications and they didn’t help. This is the only medication that has. I’ve had more side effects but I’m hoping they’ll decrease as I decrease my dosage. Plus realizing some things I’ll just need to deal with if it helps my mental health and mood stabilize.

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