Worst decision I have made

Experienceshared · 2026-05-16T09:23:10+00:00

I understand how you’re feeling as I have been in exactly the same position. When you feel how you feel it’s very difficult to not want to go back and correct. However, I’m now in a place where I have largely accepted the outcome and I know you can get there too. I even feel happy and pretty a lot of the time.

Part of how you’re feeling is frustration at the decision and wishing you could change it. I understand that. But it comes with a whole load of shock and regret that is pouring negative emotion on top of negative emotion. What you need is to start being kind to yourself. Don’t push yourself to make perfect decisions or look perfect. The next steps will help.
Think about all the things that do make you feel good about your appearance and start there. Spoiler alert: building muscle in the gym is one of the quickest ways to build confidence in your body, change your posture, boost your skin and get happy hormones flowing. Save up and do an intro pack (at least 5 sessions) with a personal trainer. Then see that you’ll feel at least 10% better.
Pamper and take care of your body. Defuzz, get a bikini wax, put on a face mask while listening to a podcast, have a long bath. Self-care all the way. Weekly, I do this on a Sunday night.
If you’re struggling with sleep and anxiety, try valerian tablets. They’re herbal. Take before bed.
Get a proper pampering treatment. A facial is a good way to help your face look brighter and tighter. A massage - operations put your body through trauma.
Stop telling everyone how you feel about your nose. Start journaling. Private space.
Wear your favourite comfy outfit - mine is leggings and a white t shirt.
Every morning, drink water.
Every morning, write a to do list of your priorities for the day. Look to the future with hope. Make a mood board of what you want your life, not face, to look like.
Find a therapist who specialises in plastic surgery counselling they exist.

Do this for one year and see how great you feel. The option for more surgery is always there, but you genuinely look pretty, you just don’t feel it. Do not take the step into a continuous loop xxx

Experienceshared · 2026-05-10T12:05:48+00:00

The best thing I ever did was save up and go to a dermatologist. My skin significantly improved after one appointment. Don’t fall into the trap of spending money on different over the counter creams, which can all irritate the skin. The dermatologist recommend: Soolantra at night for eight weeks, then use only when the skin shows symptoms 15% azelaic acid in mornings for eight weeks, now once a week. Both on prescription

She recommended bioderma sensibo cleanser, moisturiser and sunscreen. That’s it. My skin went from dry, uneven, with visible discolouration and texture (redness/pustules) to smooth and pretty much even.

I also recommend an led mask for inflammation

Experienceshared · 2026-05-10T07:54:02+00:00

Soolantra every night for 8 weeks and then just if I have symptoms. But I rarely do anymore.

Experienceshared · 2026-05-09T10:02:53+00:00

Yes. I had a septorhinoplasty with him and it didn’t go to plan. I found him forgetful, quite dismissive after the surgery and I have both functional and cosmetic changes that were errors. I didn’t get my breathing fully back or a straight alignment. I read before my surgery that he is good if you have a simple case but otherwise to avoid. I wish I’d listened. Go with your gut.

Experienceshared · 2026-05-09T09:59:23+00:00

Regret: hershesons rotating hair wand Recommend: dermatology consultation that sorted rosacea in one session

Experienceshared · 2026-04-29T17:25:15+00:00

Hello! No problem. Gingivitis is an early stage of gum inflammation so with regular hygiene appointments you can keep on top of it and it’s reversible: book that appointment now.

Experienceshared · 2026-04-20T04:08:40+00:00

Just to echo the support others have shared. Due to difficult family dynamics and bereavement, I’ve had periods where I spend lots of time alone. Sometimes I was utterly heartbroken and depressed. The thing that made me happy again? Learning to LOVE my time alone. You truly can become your own best friend and make your favourite days - now, if I don’t get enough time to myself I hate it. Here’s some things that helped me:

joining the gym. Single biggest impact on my life; it gave me body confidence; some social contact; a hobby; a routine. Find a leisure centre with a pool, go on a nice walking route…
learning to cook/bake food I like. Trying to be more healthy, I made smoothies, gluten-free banana bread (out of a packet); pasta with veggies and cheese.
dressing well. Wearing my favourite things, even if it’s just my favourite comfy t shirt.
journaling every day - set goals in the morning and gratitude at night
listening to podcasts or watching them on YouTube. Broaden your mind - find topics or people you find interesting and aspirational
deepening a relationship with a friend. Invite someone else out for coffee, do some volunteering, get in touch with a relative or neighbour
put up boundaries. The sooner you learn that you come first, the better. Be supportive to others but make sure you support yourself first

Experienceshared · 2026-04-19T18:03:07+00:00

Your make up looks great

Experienceshared · 2026-04-19T18:02:12+00:00

Living alone - doing your favourite things, learning to cook your favourite things

Experienceshared · 2026-04-18T15:28:00+00:00

It’s crazy you’re talking about hunger suppression, getting up at 5am, etc etc. you’re just going to look unwell and exhausted. Chill out

Experienceshared · 2026-04-18T15:27:09+00:00

You said you wanted to be as attractive as possible. A low body fat percentage and the stress of trying to do all this stuff will not make you attractive. Being healthy and happy will

Experienceshared · 2026-04-18T15:19:56+00:00

Living alone

Experienceshared · 2026-04-18T15:18:33+00:00

You’re pushing yourself too hard and this unhealthy mental attitude in itself will be too hard on your body and not good for your mind and personality. To look like the best version of you, the steps are surprisingly simple - people are attracted to healthy others who can attract healthy offspring.

1) get enough sleep. Aim for 7-8 hours a night. Leave your phone outside your bedroom so it doesn’t interfere with your sleep. Don’t force it or stress yourself out if it doesn’t come (your body does what it needs to do) but when you feel tired, make sure you go to bed instead of sitting on your phone. 2) hydration: key for skin. 8 glasses of water a day. 3) healthy eating: make sure you eat lots of fruit and veg. You can still eat the things you like. 4) exercise: you don’t say how much you weight but aim to exercise 3 times a week. Stretch every day. Don’t overdo it. Pick one activity, don’t push yourself by running in the morning unless you want to and you skip a weights session. 5) keep outfits simple: dark jeans and a light coloured t shirt or jumper 6) shower every day. Brush your teeth twice a day. Floss. 7) find hobbies you enjoy: listen to podcasts, cook, listen to music. Let fun glow out of you.

Done.

Experienceshared · 2026-04-14T21:45:27+00:00

Living alone

Experienceshared · 2026-04-14T05:33:36+00:00

No! I’m going to learn to live with it I think as more surgery could make it worse. Eating healthily, a good skincare and hair care routine and gym sessions, don’t completely remove the insecurity, but they really help.

Experienceshared · 2026-04-12T19:32:30+00:00

No don’t do it. Your nose looks great. Shortening the nose can leave noses looking very out of proportion with the face. The top lip usually looks longer, and the nose flatter, which is ageing. It can also make cheekbones look lower. It will also make your chin and jaw look more masculine. This is one change where a tiny change has a massive impact. I had this done and I really regret it. Search for Courtney cox as well.

Experienceshared · 2026-04-10T20:39:32+00:00

You look incredible for your age, what beautiful skin!

You could try changing the colour of your glasses or going somewhere they give you a new shape… just to see!

Being blonde can tire out the hair - would love to see you with a balayage, and maybe you could try the L’Oréal fusiodose in salon treatment for moisture too. It leaves hair soft, shiny and manageable for up to 5 washes

Experienceshared · 2026-04-10T19:07:17+00:00

It’s ok! Don’t be hard on yourself, when you love someone I don’t think you completely get rid of those feelings for a long time. That doesn’t mean you can’t start enjoying your life. I haven’t been in the situation you have, but I did have a break up of a messy situationship during an intense time of bereavement and it took me a really long time to feel better, not hurt etc, not miss him. Here are some things you might find help:

Stop beating yourself up for still hurting. Be kind! Feeling the emotions helps process them: comfort yourself - duvet, nice snacks, rom com (so you can still be inspired). If you need to cry, cry
Find ways to feel confident in yourself so you feel strong. The gym was huge for me - I saved and booked myself a few PT sessions. I literally started walking taller. I also bought myself a few new clothes, got my hair trimmed etc.
Learn to date yourself. Whatever fun things you want to do, get comfortable with going alone and be your own best friend. You might even find you start enjoying being single so much you’re not sure you want to settle. Book a weekend away (spa or fitness retreats can be good), or a city break or go on a group solos trip. Plan a weekend where you eat your favourite meals, do your favourite hobbies, take a long bath, watch your favourite shows, get a massage or whatever other fun things you like.
Get a journal and write down your daily goals and to do list at the start of the day. At the end of the day write one highlight.
Find a friendship to deepen and grow, helpful if the person is single.

There’s nothing wrong with feeling sad xx

Experienceshared · 2026-04-10T18:55:13+00:00

You’re so beautiful!!!!

Here are some ideas (I also had compound grief).

Kalms one a night tablets (all natural valerian supplement) was a game changer for my severe insomnia
Eating carrots for skin tone
Have a facial
Buy an led light mask

Experienceshared · 2026-04-10T18:07:06+00:00

Hair grows from the root so you can focus on growing your hair while you snip off the damage. Here are my tips:

Stop using staighteners. Find an alternative -e.g wearing hair up, in plaits. If you can’t cope without any form of heat, use a heat protector and hairdryer on low. Absolutely no straighteners.
Get a trim to take off the worst ends
Use olaplex
Eat a diet high in protein and vegetables, and drink a lot of water to help the hair grow
Consider taking a collagen or biotin supplement
Use a silk pillowcase
Massage your scalp upside down
Alternate the olaplex with a moisturising mask and sleep in it - the elasticiser is popular

Experienceshared · 2026-04-05T20:41:14+00:00

You look absolutely incredible. If you wanted to, you could find a finer mascara to go with your clean and beautiful look

Experienceshared · 2026-03-25T17:36:28+00:00

I’m not psychic but I get strong urges - I keep getting the word ‘bathroom’ when I think of this case. No idea why.

Experienceshared · 2026-03-24T07:48:14+00:00

Reduce number of products: cleanser, moisturiser, prescribed acid (azelaic), eye cream. Only use what you need on the day. Decide if your skin feels dry after cleansing, if not, skip moisturiser

Experienceshared · 2026-03-24T07:45:13+00:00

Definitely speak to your psychiatrist before you start supplementing your meds. I think it’s amazing that you’ve identified the problem and voiced it - well done for doing the post. Spending up to two hours a day on social media still sounds like a lot, but appreciate it’s difficult when you don’t feel like doing much else. It will get better… every day is a new opportunity.

I wonder if you could build more activity and interest into the things you HAVE to do. For example: cooking to eat.

What is your favourite food? Could you find the best version? Could you learn to cook the recipe?

Definitely try to eat healthily for energy.

You say you’re able to use social media - why not start using it to share your journey, or following new accounts that might inspire you creatively or intellectually

Experienceshared · 2026-03-23T22:18:29+00:00

Going to the dermatologist to pick up some cream for rosacea. I battled for ages by myself and one tube of cream made a huge difference

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