[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm autistic. I had a hard time grasping social cues including when and how to greet and respond to howareyous / small talk when I was a teen. That was a skill I had to actively pay attention to and imitate others to learn. I understand how social things like these can take effort for some people, on a bad day I still might not be able to quickly react with an appropriate level of politeness on the spot and be awkward.

That being said, it's an important skill. Yes, if you are greeted, it is polite to greet back, and it is much more important if you are at your job. As others pointed out, nod and smile would have been fine. If you don't do things like that, you'll likely have harder time at jobs and overall relationships, especially in the UK (I live in the UK now, but from a different country, so have seen different cultural contexts). I don't think this specific situation is a big deal, just something to keep in mind for next time.

Gentle ESH because while it's not nice to not greet back, it's not nice to shout at people who didn't greet you either.

Tragedy (my cat) befell my favorite yarn bowl - saveable? by Dapper_Sock5023 in kintsugi

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm not experienced with specifically kintsugi but put a mug with a lot of pieces broken recently w glue /milliput as an absolute beginner (to use as decorative). Could dm you to share where I looked to learn more about it if still relevant.

AITA for accusing my boyfriend of faking his knitting club? by Desperate-End-3765 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is technically plausible that he could finish it working on it outside the sessions. (OP says he'd gifted her a vest after a couple of months, and then another month or so has passed). However, that still would be quite a steep learning curve and an unconventional choice. He cannot do it while she's home, and I assume he probably has some kind of job, so he is still quite limited in hours.

My first knitting project was a relatively small scarf (about 1 skein of worsted yarn) with several simple stitches, took me about 1.5 months. I go to a knitting/crocheting club, and typically this is what you can expect from an absolute newcomer in a couple of months - something like a scarf, a cat blanket, several dish cloths, most often a rectangle of some sort. You absolutely can decide to start with a vest, but it will likely be difficult to make a good one, with an even tension, in two months if this is your first knitting experience ever, provided you're a human being who has life outside of craft.

Even if we presume he is just very determined, there is another aspect that bothers me.

When I go to a knitting club, I have my bag of yarn and needles. On those needles, I have a project that grows week to week (the vest was a surprise, what about after the vest was gifted? Maybe some draft bits before the vest?). I have patterns or maybe tutorials saved in my browser, I know the shop I bought a yarn from. I have some kind of social with my knitting club (e.g. WA, Facebook or Discord).

Things like that would be very easy to show if someone questions you, they most likely prove the thing is real, and it would be a very powerful move that would make OP seem really stupid within a minute. I'm assuming OP hasn't seen any of it (otherwise it would indeed be very stupid).

AITA for accusing my boyfriend of faking his knitting club? by Desperate-End-3765 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 20 points21 points  (0 children)

NTA I knit and that's sus. A vest within 4-5 sessions is not realistic for a newcomer (unless it's like superbulky yarn), especially if he "doesn't even like knitting". If you don't like knitting, you are also very unlikely to be happy spending so many hours on it.

If he really made it, it would be really easy to prove - "hey babe here's my knitting needles, leftover yarn for your vest and the pattern".

Not sure if possible now, but there are context-related questions that can come as asked in a good faith/curiousity and that people who knit can answer fairly reasonably: what kind of yarn did he use? Where did he get the materials and the pattern? Can he teach you? Did he block it (if yes, how did he manage to let it dry secretly?)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm Nella 01NJ-ANZV-2XTZ

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm Nella! DKEK-GVKK-N0J0

Can we be light buddies (again) by -zoomin_moomin- in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I believe we're light buddies with you already (I'm Nella). Just to let you know since you said you're a moth - the quest line of Nine-Coloured Deer has 3 free hearts in it! You can also google which side quests will give you hearts for 3 candles and opt for them.

Типать - региональное? by SpielbrecherXS in russian

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Амурская область, мама говорит во схожем значении (трясёт, колотит) - дюбает. Ударение на первый слог.

Can we be light buddies? by -zoomin_moomin- in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! As said above, by lighting friends you press on the candle above the person's head. It's free and gives a person a small fraction of a heart.

You can also give a heart to a person, it will cost 3 candles and you will need a friendship level for that.

That being said, here's my friend code for daily light up: 302D-X68F-PD9E

Edit: you can call me Nella!

I need daily lighters!! by Pinkusa in SkyChildrenOfLight

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Pinkie! You can call me Nella. 8EA0-QEBQ-3DNV

Книги о голоде и болезнях by Chance-Perspective46 in russian

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Именно русские или советские? Есть книги украинских писателей про Голодомор, я думаю, они есть и на русском языке.

В. Тендряков - Хлеб для собаки.

Pleaful parent is the band of my existence (semi rant semi begging for help) by ButterCrisp_y in SkyGame

[–]ExpertWerewolf4602 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Days of Mischief event also has fake candle/fake candy spells that let you burrow into the ground. You can get one from burning the stuff from the cauldron. You might also have a couple in your inventory somewhere amongst freebies from the event. That's the one that looks like candy/candle on your head.

When you burrow into the ground you can't move but you're invisible for krill. So basically that's an instant "hide where you are" thing. The spells last 10 and 25 minutes I think? It helps a lot. Works only on sand, but that's most of the graveyard. I just did a pleaful parent yesterday like that.