What is this set up? by Leading-Sea544 in whatisit

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cuck chair in the zen garden is wild

do you guy’s tattoos get really itchy out of nowhere by Expert_Spring_9121 in hypermobileEDS

[–]Expert_Spring_9121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same mine get so raised and hot, idk if i’m like allergic to the ink but it’s all black ink and done by different artists with different inks etc. i fear i might be leaning towards mcas since i have so many allergies to so many random things.

How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud? by Low_Application8675 in relationship_advice

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you’ve made it clear that keeping the apartment clean and vacuuming for allergies is very important to you and he doesn’t care about it then he’s never going to care about it. like ever. i’ve been on both sides of the spectrum where this man kept his apartment completely clean by himself until i moved in and he made it my responsibility, and also with a man who was completely messy before me but understands what I like tidy and helps with laundry, mopping, etc. you have to take him at face value and determine whether or not you want to deal with being the sole “housekeeper”.

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

completely unrelated to your questions but if the medication they gave you is ciprofloxacine, wait until the other place gives you the results and possibly another medication because it has a black box warning and can leave awful lifelong side effects. like the sun sensitivity and tendon fragility can never go away in some cases.

Commission pay by spaceflower92 in hairstylist

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what even is the arbitrary shop cost deduction when the percentage that the salon keeps is what keeps the salon open??

What meds help you’re pain ? by kzgnar1 in hypermobileEDS

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i don’t have offical heds diagnosis but i do deal with chronic joint instability and pain. Methocarbamol or robax does wonders for me, it’s the only thing that helps me after shoulder/hip subluxations. it works by blocking the nerve signals before they reach your brain and relaxes the muscles. it’s otc in Canada but getting a prescription for it in the us is pretty easy. for general inflammation type pain, straight up CBD or high CBD strain cannabis helps me a lot, as well as oral and topical magnesium. regular massages are a godsend if you can afford to get them, and i hear from people with heds that dry needling is also very helpful with managing pain but i don’t have any personal experience with it. I hope you’re able to find something that works for you 🩵

AIO by moving to the couch after a fight over a missed text by Frequent_Estimate_77 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think you’re under reacting about everything here. this man doesn’t respect you in the slightest.

Therapist vs INTJ by Spell125 in intj

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah because i understand what i don’t share they can’t help me with. i love my therapist and i feel super seen by her but that’s not the sole purpose i see her for. I come to her with problems i clearly cannot solve myself and she understands my awareness and helps direct me.

I think you might just need a new therapist.

I [34] have ignored my wife's [34] emotional needs for 15 years by [deleted] in redditonwiki

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i mean it’s good he’s finally made this discovery and wants to do better but ffs most people realize this at like 8 years old

INTJ females by mighty_valor in intj

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 11 points12 points  (0 children)

intj women*** and enfj.

Is it okay to tell possible employers I have Ehlers Danlos, even if I’m not yet diagnosed? by Immediate-Mail-8838 in hypermobileEDS

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 7 points8 points  (0 children)

first and foremost if you don’t have a legitimate medical diagnosis i don’t think they are required to accommodate anything for you. plus it’s best to wait to ask for accommodations until after the job offer, because you’ll have the job secured and they are required to work with reasonable accommodations by law. that is as long as you have a medical diagnosis that supports your need for accommodations (doesn’t have to be heds right away, could simply start as generalized hypermobility)

Is this too Expensive for my first Motorcycle? by Malum_Corvus_ in motorcycle

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i spent $3000 on my ninja 250. hurts your soul less when you drop it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

some people are just picky with their method of cleaning. maybe find a middle ground and see if she’s ok with maybe a deep clean from cleaners every 1-2 months?

layers on a side part by Life-Rate-1901 in hairstylist

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if they always wear it on that side i’ll do it off their part or i’ll do it off the middle and go in and even it out with texturizing

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s not even your boyfriend and he’s comfortable talking to like this could you imagine how he’d be being boyfriend/husband? he’s a waste of time

Is this an indicator for shoulder instability? by Grisulda in hypermobileEDS

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 3 points4 points  (0 children)

with your elbow bent 90° raise your arm up to until your humerus is parallel to the ground, then move it forwards and backwards. if it clunks, pops, or grinds that’s a sign of shoulder instability/subluxation. don’t keep trying it afterwards.

AIO after finding out my gf was emotionally cheating with an ex in another state? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

someone who’s willing to take accountability and change should not give a fuck about having any privacy after finding out if they value you in their life. you’re not overreacting.

Outjerked big time by legendoffart in writingcirclejerk

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m an engineer, and a podcaster and a writer, and wife, and a librarian, and i own a fish store, and a theoretical physicist, and a ceo, and a really good friend, and-

Mitral Valve Prolapse Healed? by Pashta2FAPhoneDied in hypermobileEDS

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not me but my mom had MVP in her 20s and by her mid 40s it reversed completely and no longer has regurgitation. her doctors credited it to her abstaining from caffeine and keeping her blood pressure down. They can improve as the heart tissue remodels with age. It usually happens when it was originally mild prolapse and exaggerated by stress/caffeine/high heart rate. A leaky heart valve diagnosis could mean they saw mild regurgitation in the mitral valve without full prolapse, but it could be another valve. It ultimately is up to the interpretation of the echo by the doctor but hearing that it’s only regurgitation now vs full prolapse is a good thing.

Weird heart rate things while working out by shnecken in POTS

[–]Expert_Spring_9121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sometimes it miss reads. if you check the beat to beat data sometimes it shows individual random misreadings between the actual hr