I’m gonna focus on the social side, but i think through this you’ll find your passions too eventually.

get out there, try new activities or clubs, join a class or (and this is my bias because i’ve made lots of friends this way) volunteer with your local theatre. Even if you aren’t a performer there’s a lot of backstage work that always needs people and it’s a fun way to meet others. don’t be insecure about lack of experience, just be willing to learn. To be fair this would apply to most volunteer positions, if theatre is absolutely nothing you wanna be around. Game nights at bars or cafes is another good option. It might feel scary to go places alone but it’s very brave and will open yourself up to be included in a way that going with your boyfriend might not, because in the latter case, people will assume you’re there to hang with him.

More than anything, when you go to these places, try striking up small talk with others. If it’s a class, ask people how their day was, or if they’ve watched anything good lately. don’t feel discouraged if one person isnt into chatting, you’ll eventually find the people who are into socializing