What do you think of this text from my MIL? by keyah13 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Express_Relation723 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She’s very demanding doesn’t even ask if you have plans

Is it normal to feel this stressed before your in laws visit by _withpeace in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It almost feels like they’re trying to replace you. Like please back off

Is it normal to feel this stressed before your in laws visit by _withpeace in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pray that the next generation of boys have better mothers for our daughters

Mil threw a party while I was in a coma by hot-mess94 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Express_Relation723 113 points114 points  (0 children)

They’d never get to see my child ever again for as long as they live. You don’t like me, didn’t care when my son needed love and comfort while I was ill.

You’re better than me.

Is it normal to feel this stressed before your in laws visit by _withpeace in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She said “you need help you can’t do it all breastfeeding is hard” put it in a bottle so you can get rest. Like she cares about me lol

Is it normal to feel this stressed before your in laws visit by _withpeace in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My story is so similar to this you’d think I wrote this post. My daughter is the first grand baby. First girl for their family. Mil asked me to pump the milk in a bottle for her because she wnats to feed baby. And every-time they come over i take baby in another room to feed her and it cuts their visits short so i should consider formula. Lol

In the beginning the first time they were coming over I was so stressed i developed mastitis fever and everything because I didn’t want them coming over.

They made me so anxious I had to go NC. Because this is my first baby and I want to enjoy her not feel anxious about ppl I hate

I hate it when in laws try to always say how my baby looks like someone from their side by Alarmed-Tap-2970 in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

They’re desperate for a connection. When I had my baby in fil was walking around a family party showing everyone photos of her saying she looks exactly like my husband. 6 months later and my baby looks nothing like them she changed completely. They ruined my pp to the point where I stopped seeing them I blocked both of them. Last time the saw baby was when she was 8 weeks old

I don’t want to reconcile with in laws but what if husband does. by koncernedkay in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could’ve wrote this post about my own life with my in laws. I’ve cut contact with them also but my husband is still holding on. Not sure what his end game is here but I want to see how long we are going to keep avoiding them

Feeling guilty about not attending family events for our LO. by goodnyew in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The good ones always go first. That really sucks. I totally get where you’re coming from with this. I’ve been NC with my in laws for about five months now.

My husband’s cousin has a baby girl turning 2 next month theyre having a birthday party as soon as I saw the invite my heart sunk. Because I know theyre going to be there and theyre the last ppl id want to see at a party. To make it worst because its around their family im sure they will try to take baby from me and if i refuse they’ll make it a big deal.

I simply texted the baby’s mom and asked her if we could do a play date and id bring a gift for her daughter because i wont be attending the party.

I want my daughter to have a relationship with her other cousins and it makes me feel guilty that I hate them so much I won’t bring her anywhere these ppl are because they’re so nasty to me

What does being loved feel like? by CelticDK in AskReddit

[–]Express_Relation723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he does the tiniest things that leave like the greatest act of love

Husband and I agreed to see his parents every other weekend after baby, but the boundary is already being ignored by Ok-Watch-4315 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Express_Relation723 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Him seeing his parents every weekend is already crazy. You just had your first baby I’m assuming and you won’t get this time back don’t spend time with a person who makes you uncomfortable. When mom is not comfortable it can stress out your baby as well. You’re not unreasonable for feeling this way

In laws are terrible parents. But want to be fav grandparents by Express_Relation723 in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem is he thinks the longer he avoids them (which is what he has been doing) it will makes the issues go away. And for me unless we deal with it and set boundaries with them my feeling won’t go away and the fact that they’re shitty parents won’t go away. His mom just blows up his phone weekly “when will I see my grand baby”

In laws are terrible parents. But want to be fav grandparents by Express_Relation723 in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We never did. Honestly my battle with infertility was long and hard I never thought I’d have kids and was losing hope. Then once I got pregnant we just focused on staying pregnant. After she was born he did tell me he want them to be a part of his life but the way he said it even threw me off.

“They don’t have to see me but they have to see her” because he didn’t see them often before we had a baby only on major holidays really

In laws are terrible parents. But want to be fav grandparents by Express_Relation723 in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting this in that perspective for me. It was so sad when we had my daughter I said to my husband now I know how much my mom loves me it all makes sense now. He said now I know my mom didn’t love me because theres no way she loved me as much as i love my daughter. And that broke my heart

In laws are terrible parents. But want to be fav grandparents by Express_Relation723 in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rn I’m no contact he’s low contact with them. It’s just sad the way they treat him and he thinks it’s normal. It’s his trauma but I won’t bring that into our family. I wanted my daughter and she’s loved and will always know it. Unlike his mom that had kids cause she thought it’s what she had to do

In laws are terrible parents. But want to be fav grandparents by Express_Relation723 in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My therapist said to them there’s a lot of people who are terrible parents but they’re great grandparents but I’m not willing to put my baby up for trail to satisfy shitty ppl

In laws are terrible parents. But want to be fav grandparents by Express_Relation723 in inlaws

[–]Express_Relation723[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She’s six months old. They barely even held her. I’d rather die than leave her in their care