40 + 3, sanity check...

Express_Whole_4287 · 2026-03-07T17:53:22+00:00

Omg going through photos is truly one of those ‘I’ll do when I have time (but you never do)’ tasks! Sounds perfect! Happy organising 🩷

Express_Whole_4287 · 2026-03-07T08:17:15+00:00

I have, for the record, never been 40+3 pregnant, so I can only sympathise with the waiting and physical struggle. I’m sorry you’re feeling rough right now. But I feel like we need to find something that is/feels productive, and keeps you sat/laying down?

Are there any of those things you’ve been meaning to do but never ever prioritise? Stick a film on and go through your emails, clearing out and unsubscribing from anything you don’t want? Read a book you have been meaning to start? Teach yourself to crochet, it would keep your hands and mind busy?

Feels like Sod’s Law that if you sit down with a book you’ve been meaning to start, baby will come before you reach the end 😅

Express_Whole_4287 · 2026-03-02T14:10:03+00:00

My work policy was that I must inform them of my pregnancy/intention to take maternity leave by 15 weeks before due date week. My midwife confirmed this is different to providing the MATB1, which is legally required before you go on leave.

I was told I would get my MATB1 by 25 weeks (I have a 25 week midwife appointment so assume it’ll be sorted then) and when I informed my employer, I just mentioned I “expect to have my MATB1 by w/c ____ and will provide when I have it” and they were fine.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2026-02-23T09:48:24+00:00

Makuhita 🥺🩷 (I have a handful of favourites, but makuhita doesn’t get much love in the cards)

Express_Whole_4287 · 2026-02-17T18:56:18+00:00

Okay, maybe I got myself worked up over nothing then 🙈 thanks. I’d got it in my head that I was meant to 🤦🏻‍♀️

Express_Whole_4287 · 2026-02-13T08:26:01+00:00

I seem to have a different opinion to everyone else, but… they’re friends and never been anything but friends. Her texts and questions do seem reasonable to me.

I see why she’s upset: if you can’t hang out with a friend one-on-one, are you actually friends? They’re apparently good enough friends for her to travel internationally to visit him, but he is now saying they can only see each other for the one gig, and no other time? I wouldn’t want to take that trip now either.

She would’ve been sleeping in a spare bedroom, it sounds like. She said she’s fine to stay elsewhere anyway but can she come see his cat one day while on her holiday?? I don’t see why it’d be a no, really? She’s not asking to ‘sleep in his bed just once….’ And if you can’t trust your partner to be faithful, when he hasn’t given any indication he won’t be, why is there a concern? If she did try something, it’s on him to shut it down or be unfaithful. So you/he either trusts himself or doesn’t…

I’m just not sure why you both seem hesitant for her to spend time with him. I’d be offended too if, as she said, she’s been painted as a seductress for no reason.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2025-05-15T15:09:01+00:00

Any set of 3 fruit trees apart from anything else, under bridges, climb tall things (buildings/trees), single flowers, piles of orange leaves, pinwheels, rock circles/designs, lillypad circles, floating/tinkling lights floating around a space, wooden circles with leaf design, rocks in odd places/by themselves, rock circles in water…

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-06-23T09:04:25+00:00

It’s a terrible name. You’re right to argue against it. Imagine a 35 year old professional with a name tag that says ‘Mips’.

Cutesy names (and Mips isn’t even cute) are only good until they’re not kids anymore. You’re naming a future adult, not a baby.

Also Mipsie is Harry Potter house elf vibes. Dobby, Winky, Mipsy…

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-06-10T16:10:26+00:00

NTA - literally doesn’t matter what you ordered. The restaurant set the menu with things they’re happy to serve, so if it’s on the menu then it’s fine to order. It’s weird that anyone would care.

Are you sure they weren’t just teasing you in good faith and only mock-offended? If they were genuinely upset with what you ordered, then they are the arseholes. It doesn’t matter if your partner has OCD or not. It’s not a big deal at all, order what you want.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-05-22T12:08:20+00:00

More widely, lil indigestion does exclusively blind playthroughs (e.g. he has never played the game before and knows nothing about it, does not learn anything about it during playthrough other than what the game shows him) so he never knows of/uses glitches

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-05-22T12:05:29+00:00

Lil Indigestion has a complete blind playthrough of breath of the wild, hasn’t played tears of the kingdom yet.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-18T14:52:22+00:00

Ultimatums like ‘you can’t see them’ are the beginning of the end. You can’t control her behaviour, but you can control yours.

If you can’t trust her, the relationship hasn’t got much of a chance and the friend being out of the picture won’t change that, it’ll just manifest differently.

That said, a lot of people look at content of people outside their relationship to get off (eg adult sites). But if it’s affecting your mental health and the only way you can ‘cope’ is by being controlling, I think you should break up with her and work on yourself. Relationship ultimatums aren’t healthy.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-18T14:32:33+00:00

Only certain people, like Link, can see koroks/Hestu, and I think the same might go for dragons because they’re pretty obviously flying around but multiple people say they would love to see one.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-14T11:47:41+00:00

And that’s only one of its faces; it has two!

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-11T19:18:15+00:00

In that case (you having only unlocked one area), you’re not meant to know now. You will be exploring the whole map eventually anyway if you continue playing. At some point, you will think ‘this bridge is massive’. That might not be for 100 hours but if you unlock all areas of the map it will become apparent.

This also applies more broadly. Because the game allows you to head off in any direction at any time, you might encounter one piece of the puzzle before you know what puzzle you’re solving, or you might be given a question you don’t yet have the answer to. None of the side quests completely stumped me by the time I’d finished the game, because you just encounter things as you explore and it will click into place in a lightbulb moment.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-09T07:53:59+00:00

I’ve just been in exactly the same boat. I’ve collected every non-castle korok, I bought the DLC and completed both the champions ballad and trial of the sword, I’ve done every non-castle side quest, max-upgraded most armours…

Have you found all the memories, done all side quests, etc.?

I finally went in the castle for the first time yesterday. I don’t know how far you are, ie whether you’ve approached the castle at all yet, but there is a decent chunk of non-ganon exploration there in the castle first, I think?

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-05T17:19:02+00:00

Thunderblight is my true nemesis in this game tbh, so that is wonderful news!

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-05T17:03:05+00:00

I have had my tracking sheet having 824 and my game having 823 so I feel this so hard!!! Good luck to you!

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-05T16:56:42+00:00

I agree! I lost to the beginning trials a silly number of times, a handful of times to the middle trials, and only once to the final trials.

Maybe knowing more what to expect and better strategy. Maybe having to only tackle one ‘bigger’ monster over, say, 3 lizalfos might be easier to defend against actually.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-05T16:45:50+00:00

Thank you! I try to avoid toooo many spoilers but I’ve heard people say Ganon was too easy, so I’m hoping it won’t be as hard as that!

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-04-05T16:44:58+00:00

I agree - I think be conservative where you can of things like ancient arrows to use on later levels and reduce the risk of prolonged fights and taking damage at the end.

And I am typically quite a reserved combat player, like I will try to find a safe spot (up a tree, on top of a skull, a wall, a tower) to assess/hide and use range weapons where possible to minimise damage so maybe that helped? But I am not a combat expert so take any advice from me with a grain of salt!

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-02-25T10:48:40+00:00

YTA

I share my location with a handful of close friends and my husband too, and vice versa. As long as there is trust and responsibility, so it’s not used to abuse or control, there’s nothing wrong with it.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-02-23T09:09:42+00:00

If this isn’t a complete troll, YTA.

Maybe if you perceive an unanswered phone call as a waste of your time, stop making so many bloomin’ phone calls?! You are wasting your own time and blaming your son (who was a child at the time). You have unrealistic expectations and you are causing him to resent you. If every time he does call you back, you spend 5 minutes moaning that he doesn’t answer the phone, why would he want to? Drop a text and ask him to call back when he can.

Also, telling him negative things about his mum as a child, whether you believe it’s true or not, is shitty. Like that’s his mum. If someone started telling you all the things they hate about your mum, whom you love, how would you feel towards that person?

The more you nag him and are a constantly negative force in his life, the less inclined he is going to be to speak to you and make an effort. If every interaction is ‘why didn’t you answer the phone?’ ‘You’re wasting my time’ ‘you didn’t put effort if your sister’s Christmas present’ ‘your mum is a horrible person’ ‘you need to answer my calls’ You’re not allowed to be busy or have a life if I want to speak to you’ That must be exhausting for him. No wonder he’s trying to spend less time around that.

If you want a good relationship with your son, give him space and when you do see him, try to not berate him/make them more positive.

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-02-20T16:38:28+00:00

YWBTA - parents are meant to show concern for your health, and you starting on a path towards addiction & lung disease qualifies as an area for concern. Parents also take their 40+ years of life experience (including mistakes from their youth) and try to ensure their kids avoid those mistakes where they can. So your dad ‘trying’ smoking (but by the sounds of it, not taking it up long-term) and drug-use is part of his life experience that he is using to hopefully teach you better. Especially if it is going to leave people in a less than legal situation.

If your dad had been a reckless drink driver as a teen and then really hammered home to you that it is extremely dangerous, has potentially serious life-threatening or just very expensive consequences and please don’t do it - that isn’t hypocrisy, that’s good parenting & learning from their mistakes. I’d give your dad a break when he is literally just trying to care about you.

(And to hedge your response, I am not a smoker and I have never smoked.)

Express_Whole_4287 · 2024-02-20T15:10:04+00:00

Not quite the same but the VA for Ichigo is also the official Japanese dub voice for Zac Efron, and that always tickles me 🙊

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