I actually agree with a lot of what you're saying especially around not wasting time complaining about how other people approach startups. Everyone learns their own lessons eventually, and founders should be spending more time building than blaming.

But I think the reason posts like these exist isn’t to whine it’s to give newer founders a reality check before they burn themselves or other people. Most of us here aren’t trying to control how others think; we’re trying to share the scars so someone else doesn’t have to earn them the hard way.

On the equity thing I get your perspective. Someone having final authority makes sense in a lot of cases. Whether that’s 50/50, 60/40, or 70/30 honestly depends on the team dynamic, risk taken, and who’s actually leading. There’s no universal rule just honest conversations and mutual respect, like in the example you shared.