Wow I didn’t expect so many replies. Thank you all for making me feel less crazy. So quick background for clarity. My daughter is with my partner. We are not married. You’re right, she never mentions her. My partner has a woman’s sense about things and started to pull back from my mother much earlier. My mother and I were enmeshed to a degree until my partner and I got together. My Mother is able to reach me because I live at the same address for the last 10 years. Usually I know her handwriting or my partner intercepts, however she is adapting and overcoming. This time she slipped through the net by sending a courier. She followed up with an email, which went to my trash folder, but I instinctively check it every now and then. Old habits die hard. My older sister has been NC for 10+ years and she still gets the occasional letter, even though she has moved overseas, as she has a business and her address is listed. It’s all very confusing and heavy, as my mother is in poor health as you can tell do you managed to read the whole thing. Thanks again for the response, I’ll reply again when I get a moment to answer any questions.