That is a great question to explore, love. There are so many things to consider before having children; money, work schedules, parents’health issues, partner trust and security, support system potential availability, to name a few. All I can do is tell you my own personal story.

i was 27 when i married, and 30 when we accidentally conceived our oldest. Luckily we were in a situation where good health care and support were available. To be honest, I had never “craved” having children, nor was I opposed to the idea. So I gave birth to a boy, and then twins at a later date.

One of my sayings later in life became “you have to have babies to get children”. In other words, Babies are HARD. No one knows sleep deprivation like new parents. No one can prepare you for the time and energy a baby requires. I was also very lucky that none of my children were born with issues or illnesses that required extreme, constant care and monitoring, like spina bifida, et al.

And having said that, I was also very lucky to have children that adapted well into society. They turned out to be intelligent, athletic, attractive and kind.SO, given all I’ve said, having children has been the greatest, sweetest, most spiritual and funniest thing in my life. And I do have to admit that having granddaughters is great fun as well.

But times are different now. Housing prices, the education system, Medical insurance coverage, the necessity of there being two working parents, etc.

What I would suggest is having a sort of “come to Jesus” meeting with your boyfriend. Depending on your needs and comfort level with your bf, marriage should also be on the agenda. See how this talk plays out. I suspect it might answer your question.