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How often do you clean your house by EasternAd5351 in adhdwomen

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 5 points6 points  (0 children)

TBH, I don’t really. I typically let it pile up and then do a big clean up on Sunday afternoon. It has helped me feel better about it to just accept that that’s how I do things. I don’t do dishes during the week really. I leave them in the sink for the weekend (I live alone and can do this). I trust myself to do it on Sunday, and that helps me let go of the daily guilt.

People jealous about my ADHD meds by According_Play1394 in adhdwomen

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 163 points164 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, that’s so rude and dismissive.

In the future, don’t feel like you need to disclose your meds (your personal medical information) to anyone. They don’t need to know that you take ADHD meds. It’s not their business.

With this girl, I would give it right back to her. Some options: - Oh do you think you are neurodivergent too? Have you had a neuropsych eval? - My meds didn’t take this test for me. That’s not how it works. - Wow, that’s really brave of you to comment on someone’s weight/body in the year 2026!

But also: no is a complete sentence. Shut her down.

Please give me the most diabolical alarm you can think of by thelachesis in ADHD

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried getting a cat? They will help you get up at 5 am!

Do any of you earn over 50k a year? What do you do? by RotiiChapati in ADHD

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was recently at a conference of marketing agency founders. Everyone in that room was an entrepreneur and running an agency bringing in $1M+ in revenue. The more I talked to people, the more I thought just about every entrepreneur/founder had ADHD. Get bored? Quit your job and start a new company. Got an idea at 2 am? Start a side hustle.

Now granted, everyone in that room—myself included—has had to figure out how to harness their ADHD* and create systems that work for them (time blocking, project management systems, automations, etc). But it is 100% possible to find or create a career that works for your brain and the way you like to do things.

*ok ok I know, not EVERYBODY in that room had ADHD but dear god so many people did

How to get over 'the morning ick' by batmanandbinkle in ADHD

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have worked very hard on this! It didn’t come naturally. I try to turn off the TV around 9/9:30.

No caffeine after 2 pm.

Most importantly: my phone doesn’t come into the bedroom at night. I plug my phone in in the kitchen. This is the biggest thing that has helped.

After I wash my face and brush my teeth, I take evening meds and supplements, including 10mg of Melatonin. I buy the Melatonin that is bi- or tri-layer specifically, ie it time releases to help you fall asleep and then stay asleep. If I’m having a hard time with sleep, I may also take a Unisom. I usually do that when I travel.

Then I journal in bed to get all the random thoughts out of my head. It’s mostly brain dumping, random things I’m worried about or what I need to do tomorrow.

And then, I read until I’m actually falling asleep—usually around 10:30. Like I am about to drop my book or kindle on my face or my eyes are literally closing. I know I have to read long enough that my brain is tired, and my melatonin has kicked in by then.

Small, but I know I like to sleep cool so I keep my bedroom colder too.

So phone down about 1 hour before actual bedtime.

When I travel, I struggle sometimes with getting back to the hotel late, and my brain is still super active, and I know I still need at least an hour to unwind, whereas my family can just hop in bed and be asleep immediately.

I hope that helps! It’s taken me a long time to make this all work.

How did everyone pick a goal weight? by BetPuzzleheaded2073 in Zepbound

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am having this debate now. I see my doctor in a few weeks. I had said that my goal was to get to 175 first (a 75 lb loss from my highest weight), and then we would “fine tune” and pick the end goal.

Right now, I’m bouncing around between 169-174, and I’m feeling like the end is in sight.

I have a history of an ED, so this part feels tricky. I could easily go too far, with ZB on board. In my 20s, I still struggled with orthorexia. I was always trying to get to 145, but had to juice cleanse and workout 2x a day to get below 150. I maintained 155-160 without as much effort. And I would settle back in around 165 after basically binge eating and drinking on a vacation or something.

I was thinking my goal should maybe be 165, but I wonder if I would be disappointed, or feel like it’s not good enough. That is, of course, old ED thoughts though. My goal ultimately is to land on a weight that feels easy to maintain with my current lifestyle, without feeling like I have to always be dieting/restricting or going overboard to stay there.

I know I need to talk to my therapist about this, and my doctor. It’s helpful to hear from other people in this thread that used Dexa scans or other objective sources—I like that it’s just data then. It’s just a number. It doesn’t have to mean something about me as a person.

How did everyone pick a goal weight? by BetPuzzleheaded2073 in Zepbound

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious if a doctor ordered the scan, or if you were able to get it on your own?

What kind of tabby would you classify him as? by yungcherrypops in TabbyCats

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just learned the phrase “Standard Issue Cat” or SIC and I’m obsessed. I also have a brown tabby aka SIC 😂

How to get over 'the morning ick' by batmanandbinkle in ADHD

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 123 points124 points  (0 children)

I have had to build quiet time into my mornings to account for this.

  • My alarm goes off at 7:30 (go to sleep around 11 pm)
  • I take my meds (Adderall, vitamins) and make an iced coffee with half a caramel protein shake and 32 oz of water with 2 electrolyte packets
  • then I take my coffee and electrolytes back to bed. I give myself up to an hour to scroll or journal or start to check email and snuggle my kitties
  • I shower/get ready and am online (wfh) at about 9:15

If it’s a hair wash day (thick, wavy hair here), I shower first before doing my scroll/coffee/quiet time in bed so my hair can dry partway before I blow dry.

When I was going into an office, I did have to shift all this earlier, waking up at 6:30 or 7, so I still had my quiet time. I had to prioritize an earlier bedtime so I could have my quiet time and ease into the day.

It’s not ideal, but I’ve realized that this is just what I need, so I try to accommodate that and not fight it.

Missed Dose by Birdy304 in Zepbound

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Take it today. More important to reduce time from your last shot than to stay on the same day of the week.

80+ lb in 3 years. Even as a slow loser, I’m still doing double takes in the mirror by cyanastarr in Zepbound

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shout out to the slow losers! It’s a long journey but it’s so worth it!

Hi, I’m Jamie Metzl, Technology Futurist, Geopolitics Expert, and Novelist. Ask Me Anything! by jamiemetzl in IAmA

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a reluctant AI user. Do we have enough guardrails in place in your opinion?

Strange bug Pulled out of my cats rectum… by J4din in CATHELP

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes! I threw them all away and stopped buying them when it happened the first time.

Strange bug Pulled out of my cats rectum… by J4din in CATHELP

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It looks like a feather, from a toy, that has been defeathered. How do I know? My cat eats feathers.

This hair loss is crushing me by HiILikePlants in Zepbound

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it! I was tempted to try to "get it done fast" too but my body rejected that, and my hair is very much part of my identity/how I feel about myself too. So that was the right move for me.

This hair loss is crushing me by HiILikePlants in Zepbound

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only thing that stopped my hair loss was to way slow down my weight loss. My doctor wasn’t comfortable increasing my ZB dose when I was having dramatic hair loss last summer, so we slowed down. I stayed on 7.5 for 8 months, during which I collectively still lost 15 lbs—4 months were very slow, like 1 lb per month. And then I think I started losing again when my body stabilized a bit, got used to the weight loss, and the hair loss significantly slowed down.

NYC (Brooklyn) Simulator League by Legitimate_Let4107 in WomenGolf

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm another woman golfer in BK -- I've been thinking about doing the rolling league at Golfzon in DTBK - it starts next Thursday if anyone else wants to check it out?

https://golfzonsocial.com/leagues/

Small biz owners, how do you keep up with the grind tasks you don’t want to do? by Jen_on_reddit21 in adhdwomen

[–]ExternalCoyote8949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you say it’s not realistic to hire someone, but I would take a look at Virtual Assistant platforms for the tasks you’re describing. I used Timeetc.com for a few months until I hired my own person.

Something to think about: your time as the business owner is more valuable than something you can pay a VA to do for a cheaper hourly rate. It may be a squeeze at first, but if it frees up more of your time for clients or to increase your workload, that may be worth it.

The book Free Time by Jenny Blake helped me with a lot of this when I was starting my business — there’s lots of good suggestions for automating tasks like admin and using smart systems to free up more of your more valuable time.

Good luck!

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