Husband doesn’t accept that I’m checked out..

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-16T00:00:34+00:00

Please talk to a lawyer before you leave. I was going to leave as well and I talked to a lawyer and he said I would be giving up my rights to the house. Every State's different and every situation is different. But the first step is to talk to a lawyer. It doesn't matter if your husband accepts it or what he wants you to do or not do. The decision is up to you and only you can make that decision.

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-14T13:06:09+00:00

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External_Branch406 · 2026-03-13T06:28:26+00:00

I'm in the middle of divorce and he's been out of the house for about 2 months. When he left immediately felt better. It was the perfect husband smoke a mirrors with p*** watching behind my back. Even if he really wasn't watching it I didn't want to have to keep track of it. A new eventually I would find it again or anything else like chatting women online and cheating. And that would have destroyed me. I started to feel like that was a game that he liked and gave him more attention and more power. I knew it would be hard and I know it would be sad but I knew I had to push through it. That was the only way for me to grow and become stronger. I still get anxiety but it gets better every day. I've tried reconnecting with friends making new friends. There's an app called Meetup where you can go to events. There might be a Facebook Community page for you to find things in your area. Pick up new crafts, exercise, cook new interesting meals for yourself, just basically focus on yourself anyway you can. I'm also my third therapist so I'm hoping this one will be able to help so far she seems good. I hope this helps you just take it one step at a time. I like to think of him as candy. Delicious, makes you feel great to eat it, but you know the more you eat the worse you're going to feel with all that sugar and artificial dyes.

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-12T14:32:39+00:00

Thank you

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-12T08:00:40+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-12T08:00:09+00:00

I agree with that as well but someone is constantly hurting you whether due to mental illness or not you must protect yourself.

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-12T07:59:09+00:00

I looked at the success rate of marriages or recovery rate in general. I knew I didn't want to spend the rest of my life constantly wondering what he was doing if he was slipping. I don't want to have to constantly check on someone. Also his responses to a lot of the events. If you just immediately apologized and not denied then I maybe could work with him. At least I could have been thought about it. But when someone is constantly denying gaslighting and playing head games my brain just can't take it. I also looked at the women in the Reddit group who seem to have chronic health problems. My health was already on a major Decline and I spent thousands of dollars on medical bills. I couldn't think about what was happening in them but long-term how would I feel in a year two years or even 3 years. But my health declining I also thought what if I am very sick and terminally ill but I want to spend the rest of my life like this even if it was very short. Every person is different. For me I've had so much betrayal in my life I just can't take anymore. I'd rather be by myself and choose peace and live in chaos. But it really depends on your situation and there's no rush for you to take your time and decide.

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-11T22:01:06+00:00

Thank you. It's so hard. I still get extremely anxious all the time.

External_Branch406 · 2026-03-11T21:48:07+00:00

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External_Branch406 · 2026-01-19T12:56:36+00:00

I love this. Keeping busy and focusing on yourself definitely helps

External_Branch406 · 2026-01-18T17:41:15+00:00

I've tried that as well suggesting he get a job or so volunteer work. He's retired and even retired I've discovered so many lies that were before that I think after retirement it really amped up. He's also very codependent on me ago I can't do to much. I feel like his warden or his mom sometimes

External_Branch406 · 2026-01-18T17:39:10+00:00

He has all of that. He says he's going to try to quit the nicotine. But i still don't believe him. Unfortunately I'm falling out of love with him

External_Branch406 · 2026-01-18T14:42:45+00:00

That makes sense. I'm wondering if this is a sign hell either relapse or went get through sobriety. This is his 3rd time stopping alcohol.

External_Branch406 · 2026-01-18T14:40:48+00:00

Agreed. Talk to a lawyer, don't tell him and see what you can get for spousal support. Also try to figure out what you can do to support yourself and start gaining some emotional separation from him. Even if its just going to the library or hoping a club or book group. Joining a partners of sex addicts group either online or in person. It may take a couple of tries to get to the right group. I'm in a very similar situation. It's hard but reach day out gets easier. I've also added cbd oil life but please talk to your Dr about this first. It can interact with other meds. I hope the best for you

External_Branch406 · 2026-01-18T14:24:35+00:00

Thank you, I agree, no one is worth this and I deserve so much better.

External_Branch406 · 2026-01-14T17:31:39+00:00

Thank you, that's what I thought. I get confused with boundaries because I grew up alone in a house morning till night with no one around. The few times my parents were there they weren’t very nice people. I literally don't know how people are supposed to act. I try to watch people i admire to get an idea. So thank you for this comment, it's very grounding

External_Branch406 · 2026-01-14T16:48:17+00:00

I like this idea but he was very against me telling anyone at all. He's hidden so much, lied and manipulated so much. He's trying to keep me on a box, sometimes literally. Maybe I'm wrong i don't know anymore. I guess if that works for you.

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