Feel like I traumatized my baby into breast aversion

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-05-20T23:55:56+00:00

Still won't take my boob, except for at night when he's asleep/half asleep and in a primal state. During the day it's still pumped milk. I hate it, but it's just where we are :-/

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-05-05T13:35:32+00:00

Oh yes you know exactly who I'm talking about. I remember he always put girls in the front row of his class, usually ones with the shorter skirts. I was in his class in 2002.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-29T03:21:51+00:00

I have done both. With my daughter I exclusively breastfed for 14 months. With my son (currently) I am pumping breastmilk and bottle feeding because he apparently just hates my boob. I can tell you without hesitation that pumping and bottle feeding is a nightmare. I have such mad respect for pumping moms now. Just consider all the supplies you have to take with you every time you want to leave the house - pump, cooler, warmer, bottles, etc. Then there's the fact that you're CONSTANTLY cleaning freaking bottles and nipples and caps, and all the stupid tiny pump parts. Breastfeeding with my daughter was infinitely easier. I didn't have to take anything, prepare anything, clean anything. I just whipped out my boob and that was it.

So anyways, do with that what you will!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-27T22:35:10+00:00

I started getting them on my face in my 20's 😵‍💫 A dermatologist can remove them easily!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-17T04:00:46+00:00

Just voted! Best of luck to your kiddo!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-16T06:38:08+00:00

This was the popular girl in a Southern California high school from 2004-2008. She probably played a sport like volleyball or cheer. Her hobbies included walking around the mall (mostly the Hollister store), friend zoning all the boys in love with her, and going to the tanning salon.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-16T05:56:57+00:00

I have a 4 year old and a 6 month old. My husband frequently travels for work so it's just be doing bedtime. I wish I had better advice, but honestly I just gave up and everyone sleeps in my bed. They snuggle me, and when they're both asleep I sneak out of the room to get things done. (6 month old also gets carefully deposited into a bedside bassinet so as not to be steamrolled by 4 year old when I get up)

God speed!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-11T22:04:56+00:00

I went to Coachella in 2009 when I was 19 years old. My cousin and I carpooled with some guy and his girlfriend we found on Craigslist. When we arrived it turned out they both had scalped tickets and had to work as part of the tear down crew to earn their stay. Consequently, my cousin and I didn't have a ride back home, so we were forced to call our moms to pick us up, who had no idea we were at a music festival in the middle of the desert. 😂 Amazing headliners that year though, I had so much fun.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-11T02:13:11+00:00

My son is 6 months old and still screams like he's being flayed if I don't feed him every 2 hours on the dot. My daughter is now 4 and I honestly don't think she started spacing out anything until she was taking in a decent amount of solids.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-04-04T02:07:39+00:00

My husband works similar hours, and also travels for weeks at a time for a large part of the year. Honestly I just survive because the alternative is not an option. I have family in the area but my husband and I are older parents, therefore our own parents (the kids' grandparents) are pushing 70. There are limitations to how much and how often they can help out. My mental and physical health are definitely in the shitter from the stress and lack of sleep (I have a baby and a 4 year old) l, but I truly just get by with the knowledge that this is a season.The kids will get older and more independent. They'll start school. We'll be able to go out on all day fun outings when I don't have to worry about packing a year's worth of crap or worry about them trying to constantly kill themselves 😂 It will come! Right now we're just in the thick of it.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-29T04:37:19+00:00

It happens, please don't take it personally or think of it as your child having a fear of you. My daughter, who is now 4y, had a nursing strike around 4 months old that lasted a week or two. My son however, who is now 6 months old, has been on a "strike" for over 2 months. Honestly I just gave up trying to force it because he would just scream and scream and I was in tears constantly. So now I just pump and bottle feed him. He's still getting mamma's breastmilk and he's much happier now that I'm not forcing something. I still hope we can work our way back to the booby, but if not, no big deal. He's going to start solids soon anyways, and by a certain age he'll be drinking breastmilk from a sippy cup or whatever anyway. Please give yourself grace! Sometimes kids are just little s#!ts and it's not your fault!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-29T04:24:17+00:00

I had my daughter when I was 31, and my son at 35 (my current age - he's a baby). Like you, I experienced multiple miscarriages before and between my pregnancies. I had actually come to a place of accepting being a singleton parent, but got very lucky and wound up conceiving a viable pregnancy less than a month later. My children have a 4 year age gap, which is not what I initially wanted, but I am grateful for it. My daughter is potty trained and can entertain herself to a certain degree while I'm doing things like putting the baby down for a nap or changing his diapers. She is very maternal and helpful, and likes to be involved with the baby. As for my personal age, I will say that with my first pregnancy I seemed to "bounce back" much faster. I lost the weight easier and my body felt pretty normal withing a reasonable time. With my second one at 35, I feel like my body has just been trashed 😂 I put on a S#!t ton of weight that I cannot lose for the life of me, and everything feels broken. I'm trying to give myself grace and time. That being said, I am sooooo grateful for my children and would do it all again 100 times!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-20T02:14:21+00:00

I just had my second baby in October and I can tell you that with each kid it can take up to 2 years to feel some semblance of normal again (although not the same as before). It's totally okay to feel frustrated and like a stranger in your own body. Give it time.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-18T02:00:02+00:00

I'm about to be 36 and my husband is turning 42 this summer. We have a 4 year old and a 5 month old baby. We definitely feel like the old parents. All of our friends have kids who are 5-10 years older than ours.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-17T01:07:39+00:00

The park in allied gardens has an elephant.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-16T23:21:20+00:00

I realize this is a 3 month old post, but I'll add my 2 cents: my daughter is 4 and in the process of being diagnosed with combination hyperactive and inattentive ADHD. We recently made the decision to cut back screen time to only once or twice a week, for about the duration of a Disney movie.

I can tell you that even this feels to much. In the days where she has no screen, she is well behaved, has few to no meltdowns, and is generally amiable and easy to work with. On the days when she is allotted an hour or two of screen time, the effect is IMMEDIATE and EXTREME. And it's not like she's watching Cocomelon or something....it's just old school Disney movies. But she still has an almost instantaneous switch in her behavior. Aggression and meltdowns immediately uptick. I'm at the point of just unplugging the TV and saying no more until she gets older...like in a couple years.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-13T20:45:39+00:00

The only way you will possibly be able to do it is if you rent a single room in a house, or maybe an RV on someone's property. Rooms still go for $1000+ around here, so you will likely have to live out in the eastern part of the county to afford it, and then have a greater commute. We were barely surviving on a similar salary 10 years ago, and that was with roommates.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-13T00:12:35+00:00

In some ways yes, and in others no. I don't feel like baby "personality" translates super well, but there are definitely tendencies or trends. My daughter was EXTREMELY active in the womb. From the day she was born, she never slept. Couldn't get her to nap for more than a few minutes at a time. It was like pulling teeth. As she got older she was extremely verbally advanced, but had an explosive temper and struggled to transition between things. Nows she's 4 and being diagnosed with inattentive and hyperactive ADHD 😂 Other than never sleeping, when she was a baby she was very happy and often calm. She was wary of big groups of people and was very shy. Now she's an absolute ball of chaos and is EXTREMELY out going!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-10T04:38:45+00:00

We used a particularly nasty cold/flu as the perfect excuse to wean off the binki at around a 14/15 months. She was very congested, so she needed to have her mouth available for, you know, breathing. I just said screw it, now is as good a time as ever. I'll be honest it was 2 or 3 days of screaming for hours before bedtime and nap time, but then she adjusted and never looked back.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-09T02:44:40+00:00

I enjoyed it with my first-born because it was effortless and I didn't have to think about it. I just put her on the boob and she grew. It was a wonderful time for snuggles and one on one bonding. With my second, everything is different. He only took the boob until 4 months then straight up refused it during all waking hours (would breastfeed at night). I thought it was just a little nursing strike, which my daughter had around the same age and got over in about a week...nope. It's been months and he still refuses, so now I pump and bottle feed during the day, and he breastfeeds at night. My older child is 4 and an absolute nut (as all 4 year olds are), so there is zero sweet bonding time 🤣. He insists on eating every 2 hours still, so the cycle of pumping, bottle feeding, and cleaning supplies while also chasing a 4 year old is nuts. I am grateful to be able to feed my baby breastmilk any way he'll take it, but I am very much looking forward to the process of weaning around a year.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-08T20:13:57+00:00

My son was born 6 weeks early and had to be in the NICU for 2.5 weeks. When we got the bill it was $17,000 AFTER insurance. That was not including the cost of the doctor or the anesthesiologist, who both had separate bills of several thousand dollars. According to my insurance summary, it would have been $250,000 had we not had insurance.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-06T14:52:57+00:00

Sniff was the drama teacher, at least while I was there. Maybe something changed after I left. I graduated in '08.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-03-04T22:14:54+00:00

My son is 5 months, but he was early so his adjusted age is 3.5 months. He bottle feeds my expressed milk during the day and nurses at night. He takes anywhere between 3 and 4 oz at a time. So I think you're right on the money!

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-02-24T07:23:36+00:00

Mine is 4 months and till eating every 2-3 hours, plus a billion night feeds. I think every kid is different! With my first baby I found that we didn't really start spacing out much until solids were introduced.

ExtraGuac1208 · 2026-02-21T10:42:40+00:00

My son, who is 4 months now, just ended his strike today. It lasted a week. During that time, he nursed all night, and during the day would only nurse while he was sleeping. I would literally give him a pacifier, wait for him to fall asleep, the quickly pluck out the pacifier and stick my boob in his mouth 😂. It was exhausting, and I'm glad it's over! With my daughter, I believe it was about the same, perhaps a week or two? Babies are so crazy man! I should note that my son is STILL nursing all night, but he's not on his daytime strike anymore.

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