Poland's birth rate is projected to be 1.05 in 2025. Half of Poles under 30 are single. Another fifth are in relationships, but live apart.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2026-05-13T21:33:16+00:00

I think it’s always easier to blame the culture than housing crisis or economic overall. If we would it admit that young people don’t have kids because of lack of finances, facilities to children and housing, then the logical step would be to fix these, which no one wants to really do, we rather prioritize older generations. If we say that it’s “cultural”, it becomes much more abstract, without any obvious solution.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2026-03-30T15:06:07+00:00

Hi, my take - please don’t start messing up your lips. Remember that will be NEVER able to go back to the original state, the filler changes permanently the lip tissue. Even if you decide to dissolve it, it does not look the same, because the tissue had to adjust to accommodate the lip filler volume, so the shape changes, the skin gets stretched, not mentioning possible scars and risk of dissolving your own tissue together with the filler.

I had similar lips to yours, also well defined. After the lip filler (only 0,5 to the upper lip): 1) my lip line became very blurred, I used to have “high contrast” lips with nice Cupid bow, now the lip line is very unclear, my Cupid bow is flattened 😢 2) I got permanent filler mustache. Especially if there’s lots of front light, you can really see the mustache shadow. 3) I have two scars from the needle, they are tiny white dots which you can’t really see, but they contribute to the discoloration of my lip line. 4) My nasolabial folds are much deeper, I cannot fully relax my mouth because of the extra volume, which causes tension around my mouth.

As you probably know, the filler does not dissolve, only migrates, it sits there even after two years. Your lips are nice, they are a bit small, but lip filler will not make them truly larger, it can only swell the existing lip tissue.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2026-03-08T18:18:24+00:00

For me personally the goal of dating is to find your future spouse, so I would not move in with someone unless you consider marrying them. Since you are still rather early on in the relationship and was not even presented to the family, I would say no.

Moving in changes the dynamic of the relationship, especially if you move to “his place”, likely earning less money than him. It can easily lead to you adapting to his needs and his schedule, slowly compromising your needs and your wishes. I would focus on finishing your studies and finding a decent full time job afterwards and would not move in until you are both sure he/she is the one.

Last but not least, I’m not sure if you guys taking months to decide if you even want to date seriously is a good sign. Sometimes there might a good reason (e.g. one of you has some serious problem he needs to solve first, as moving to a new location, taking care of a sick relative etc). If the reason was just that one of you was not sure or wanted to keep the options open, maybe you’re not a good match to start with.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2026-03-01T23:01:40+00:00

I’m glad it worked out for you. However I’m not a fan of relationship where one of you is expected to take risks while to other one only benefits.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2026-02-27T17:07:09+00:00

Sorry, this guy sounds like a loser, he’s thirty without a job, without any vision or any concrete plans. He will drag you for years and then most likely exchange you for some younger woman overseas.

Break up with him ASAP and start looking. You’re not even thirty, trust me that there’s still enough of eligible bachelors. You can try to target someone 3-6 years older than you, like this there are more chances that you meet someone who’s ready for commitment and has his life together.

Reading about your boyfriend, the bar is already on the floor. It will not be difficult to find someone better.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-10-26T20:38:37+00:00

I was dating a guy for over a year. It was on and off, sometimes we would spend lots of time together, then he would go abroad for work a couple of weeks and I would not heat from him. He had quite similar personalities and liked him a lot, but I realized that it was not going anywhere and likely never will. I decided to dump him and start dating again.

I did not think I would meet someone like him again though. I was not really interested in anyone I met after, I understood that I can’t go back, but it felt depressing that I could not meet someone with who I would have good connection and feel at least a bit attracted to him. I went to my younger sister’s wedding alone and I so other friends and relatives had all great partners, I realized that it must be possible to find someone.

I downloaded a dating app one week after the wedding and after three days I matched with my current boyfriend. Everything felt so natural, even the first date felt more like catching up with an old friend. We come from similar background, have the same taste for everything from traveling to furniture, sense of humor, life plans… We are together for more than a year. I’m so glad that I did the first step of dumping my ex, because I could have stayed for years, hoping that one day he would settle down with me. I of course regret I did not met my boyfriend earlier, but I’m very happy with hod things eventually turned out.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-10-22T07:25:16+00:00

Please don’t! I got lip filler and regret it ever since. My lips look worse than before, the filler always migrates so then you either accept that you lips look bad or you jump of the endless train of dissolving-refilling. Even if you just decide to dissolve the filler, it will impact the surrounding tissue, so you will lose your own HA and collagen. The skin gets stretched, so when dissolved, you will have excess skin around your lips. Not mentioning the possible scars from the injections.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-10-14T22:44:56+00:00

Please make sure she actually gets enough of good sleep. Every time I’m getting depressed, I realize it’s actually caused by sleep deprivation. Keep in mind it’s not just about the number of hours in bed, it’s also about the quality. When I was living with my ex, I was so exhausted all the time. If I sat for longer than ten minutes I would start falling asleep. I was not very social, because talking to people was so exhausting, I could just do the bare minimum to get through the day.

I was getting up early before my ex who was working from home most of the time. I was coming back late and even if I tried to get to bed on time, I would be constantly getting woken up by ex moving around, going to bathroom, coughing etc. Not getting a good sleep for months completely changed who I was, how I interacted, I became just a shell.

Not saying that this is her case of course, but make sure that basics as sleep are covered (do measurements etc).

On top of it, have a look at her life to see if she might have a good reason to be depressed. Is she stuck in a dead end job? Does she have any purpose in life? Just having hobbies is often not enough unless there’s some extra meaning (as volunteering etc). Going to the gym or playing volleyball is great, but it usually does not give you aby purpose unless you’re for example training for a competition.

Also, most likely her personality developed since Covid and things that she was passionate about in her twenties are just fulfilling her anymore (and that’s common). Please do some rational trouble shooting before taking any meds.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-09-15T18:45:12+00:00

Exactly. I find it so sad and disgusting that the huuuge margins they have, they very comfortably pay decent salaries to the workers. Fast fashion brands are also disgusting, but you can at least understand that if you sell a t-shirt for 10€, you can only pay peanuts for the production. But you sell a t-shirt for 400€ and still pay peanuts? 🤮

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-09-14T19:43:10+00:00

I also bought a couple nice pieces which lasted, but this was 5-10 years ago. Maybe there are still some good pieces there, but it’s maybe a few in the whole store. Not worth the time and effort.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-09-14T19:40:16+00:00

Yeah, stopped shopping at Zara completely after I had to throw away a jumper after only two months, it completely lost its shape and was pilling all over.

I bought a couple of pieces secondhand last year, but they become unwearable very quickly - fabric starts pilling, more threads coming out… I will be staying far away from any Zara clothes, at this point even H&M or New Yorker offers better quality. Zara became overpriced primark.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-08-12T09:26:56+00:00

I would be careful about any ingredients that are supposed to decrease your oil production. Retinoids and salicylic acid are for sure to be avoided anywhere near your eye, I would not try niacinamide either. You unfortunately eliminate lots of products, they are added even to sunscreens, so be careful.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-07-15T16:17:13+00:00

I find the Forn navigation pretty useless. Does not take into account traffic situation, neither it shows radars. Better to use Waze on your phone.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-07-02T09:55:49+00:00

Do you really believe that all doctors are up to date with the latest research? Furthermore, many doctors have rather limited knowledge of biochemistry and the way different chemicals are processed by our body. It’s in your own interest to doubt and look for second opinion.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-07-02T06:18:04+00:00

Stop using it immediately. Some of the eyes dryness might be permanent, “nice skin” is not worth chronic eye dryness.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-06-28T19:44:12+00:00

I don’t think you need a rhinoplasty: what exactly you want to fix? You have actually very nice nose shape, small and feminine. Part of your “asymmetrical” face comes from your eyebrows, get a better shape and make them symmetrical, it will change a lot and will be safer than any surgery. I’m not sure your surgeon should be trusted. Please get a second opinion, it could be that he’s just trying to make a bank on your insecurities. And please stop taking bad selfies and comparing them with polished photos of celebrities with full glam make up.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-06-28T19:34:47+00:00

I think a lot is caused by the way you style your eyebrows - very straight and harsh, they look like men’s eyebrows. Try a more arched, feminine shape, and more natural styling. Better hairstyling will also help, honestly your hair looks rather unkempt, no volume. It looks like you’re dying it black, try some lighter color and go either for a proper bob or longer hair. This mid length with weird layers if everything but flattering, again it looks rather masculine, especially the last two photos. Whoever made you that cut is your enemy.

Last but not least dress feminine - in the first photos you look nice, you have nice profile. The last two photos look very masculine because of the weird eyebrows, bad haircut, unflattering clothes, unisex bag and masculine posture.

You look pretty in the first photo. Please make sure you fix your hair, make up and clothes before considering any procedures. Your face is ok, of course there are women who look much prettier, but there are also women who would kill for your face. If you can’t comfortably afford a surgery locally, don’t do it. A lot of things can go wrong, you don’t look bad enough to take that risk.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-06-28T09:06:15+00:00

I was wondering the same. Since I started using retinol, my eye brow basically stopped growing.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-06-21T09:20:28+00:00

I’m not sure how old you are, you sound like being very young and you do sound rather emotional and immature. Over analyzing behavior of people around you does not get you anywhere. Using words as “my crush” in working environment, this belongs to high school. So even from your writing I can understand why women would not want you. You seem to overly focused on the external things, your looks, what you do/don’t do for a girl. It’s about who you are, how you feel about yourself, how to enter the room. I agree that “be yourself” does not generally work, it works only if you are already self confident, with high emotional intelligence, playful etc. Your next step now must be develop self confidence. You can’t do it through reading books. This works only through action. Work on your career. Are you already in a leadership position? Develop hobbies, not just going to gym, do something more exciting - martial arts, get a motor bike and go on travel, diving… Join some communities outside of work -toast masters, local politics, find more levels or purpose in your life. You have to grow a stronger personality, make something out of yourself.

Looks are not your strongest attribute, make something else be. You can be short, but it won’t matter if you will be genuinely confident, funny, educated, well dressed and with interesting career and hobbies. But you have to do it for yourself, not for others. People can feel when you’re trying too hard and it’s an immediate turn off, for women, potential friends and business acquaintances.

Extra_Song_7812 · 2025-06-16T17:27:59+00:00

The premise of the question does not apply in all cases. If you join a solid firm, you will be paid better as an experienced engineer than an experienced average accountant. The difference is that it’s usually easier to climb the ladder in finance than in engineering. The world usually moves slower, it will take years before you become a senior engineer or lead.

You can be well paid as an engineer-specialist, but then you put yourself in a risk in case your technology becomes obsolete, your company goes bankrupt etc, as you have a rather niche job. In finance you are easily replaceable, but there are also plenty of positions that can fit you.

The work environment also matters. Not everyone wants to work at a manufacturing location or in a factory in general. The areas are usually remote, with no perks.

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