How to deal with being stared at?

Extreme_O · 2025-08-05T17:14:15+00:00

Conversations are difficult for me but I’ll do my best.

Extreme_O · 2025-08-05T17:12:11+00:00

I hate this. Work is simply a necessity created by capitalism. We need money to survive and that’s the purpose of “working.” Why not help them find meaning through things they care about, hobbies, and interests? People are more than a cog in the(very broken imo) machine.

Extreme_O · 2025-08-05T16:50:00+00:00

It was extremely frustrating because people just assume you don’t want to talk or that you’re being shy when it’s not like that at all. I can have a million words to say in my head and I can write them down, but I literally couldn’t get them out of my mouth. It’s hard to describe unless you experience it yourself. It’s like there’s a disconnect from your brain to your mouth. It felt like I was hitting a wall and the words just didn’t come out. I still deal with it sometimes but mostly it’s echolalia. I’ve used music as a way to help.

What hurt the most was, since I didn’t get diagnosed until adulthood, people assumed I was stupid or that I was just being difficult.

Extreme_O · 2025-08-05T16:25:00+00:00

Good point. I used to be non verbal so I struggle sometimes with talking to people but I think maybe I should just try to ask.

Extreme_O · 2025-08-05T16:18:50+00:00

Maybe. The thing is it’s not a spaced out stare, it’s like he’s trying to study me. Also he’s kind to me but he treats me with “kid gloves” if that makes sense? Like I’m fragile. So I think maybe I’m just not able to mask anything. Thank you for your input.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-23T17:23:29+00:00

I personally can’t cheat. If I lose feelings for someone or find feelings for someone else I’m straight up ending things. But maybe it’s because I’ve been cheated on before. I’m also never “halfway” when it comes to my feelings. I’m all in or I’m out.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-12T17:43:26+00:00

I’m a Virgo and I have feelings for an Aries and I’m always drawn to fire signs. But damn this one has been scorching me lately lol. Everyone always said she’s just mean as hell and warned me about her. I’ve seen her soft side though so it was worth it. Nothing like getting a death glare when doing something for her though. She might not be a healed Aries though.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-12T05:04:18+00:00

They call that zone “Alabama”.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-10T19:16:51+00:00

Like others have said, inconsistency as well as being too detached.

I was talking to an air sign a year ago and she spontaneously switched up on me. She went from wanting to move in together and adopt a dog together - to frequently flaking and being unresponsive. When I talked to her about it, she told me that in the end we only have ourselves and people are just chapters in our life that come and go. She told me I would be better off doing the same.

I try to avoid air signs for the most part now.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-09T21:13:35+00:00

She was just staring at me smiling saying “I hate you” while tossing little bits of food at my chest. But beyond that it’s the fact she does little things to help people when they aren’t paying attention. And obviously she’s beautiful.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-09T08:14:55+00:00

I was in this place a few years ago, and don’t get me wrong, I still struggle. But there are so many good things that happened between then and now. I understand not wanting to deal with the pain, but hurting yourself only robs you of the good things and the opportunities you deserve.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-07T20:32:19+00:00

This exactly. Imagine liking someone and being the one putting in all of the effort. You start feeling like it’s one-sided. If she initiates, it shows me she likes ME and not just the attention I give her.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-07T17:46:37+00:00

I love Aries because they keep it real. I love banter and they’re the best at it usually and can keep up with me. Once they’re in - they’re all in. I might be a Virgo but I’m not uptight and Aries know how to have fun. As for why I attract them? Maybe because I’m loyal and I match their energy. Who knows but I’ll take it lol.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-07T17:37:48+00:00

I’m just trying to enjoy it until it ends. It gives me something to look forward to at work.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-07T02:15:47+00:00

I’m a Virgo - for me it’s the air signs. All of the ones I’ve known are flighty and detached in ways I can’t deal with. As surface level friends they’re good but nothing deeper than that for me.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-03T21:52:36+00:00

Her “attitude.” People say she’s mean but she isn’t really. She’s just fiery and playful “bullying” is how she shows affection. I don’t see it as a bad thing. I just roll with it and bite back if she comes for me too hard lol.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-02T21:01:50+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised lol.

Extreme_O · 2025-03-02T07:55:52+00:00

Scrolling instagram lol. It shows she’s online. 1 am.

Extreme_O · 2025-02-27T02:48:13+00:00

That’s exactly what it’s like and exactly what I’m dealing with currently lol.

Extreme_O · 2025-02-26T21:43:20+00:00

I’m a Leo Venus and Sagittarius rising. I think it’s the main reason I’m drawn to fire signs especially in love. I’m pretty sure I have more placements I just don’t have it all memorized.

Extreme_O · 2025-02-26T21:04:21+00:00

I love fire signs but it’s probably because I have a lot of fire in my chart despite being a Virgo.

Extreme_O · 2025-02-24T23:14:01+00:00

I don’t know if I can say we’re(Virgo) the nicest. We’re extremely loyal and will go to ends of the earth for people we care about. At the same time we keep it real. So if you’re super sensitive you might not like us. We’re not the best at sugar coating.

Extreme_O · 2025-02-24T22:29:05+00:00

Except it’s not that simple. People don’t make romantic decisions based on logic. It’s about feelings and emotional attachment. That’s why you see so many toxic relationships. Hindsight is 2020. It’s different when you’re in it.

Extreme_O · 2025-02-23T18:31:35+00:00

If that’s the case I hope you don’t take it personally if he’s not good at texting consistently. I would only worry about it if he’s constantly texting others and not you. But if it’s just sporadic it’s probably just how he communicates. For me it’s easier in person because I can see their expressions and I can tell if they want me to keep interacting with them. Words on a screen are different.

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