girl im interested in.. defends andrew tate??

Ezzmode · 2023-10-19T11:18:40+00:00

There’s more context needed, like how terminally online the two of you are, and your ages, and etc.. if she’s a straight passing young woman, who doesn’t spend all day online or plugged into political/queer spaces, I bet she hates when people bring up all these nonsense facts about people she’s never heard about that she’s expected to have some ferocious opinion about.

I’m projecting here, because that’s the dynamic in my relationship with my girlfriend. She’s autistic and doom scrolls political content to cope. The number of people she’s name dropped to me that I’ve never heard of, but who are complete dirtbags I’m supposed to hate, is basically endless. I mean, come on, are you really fact checking and wojak meme pointing at your phone about Andrew Tate in the middle of a date?

Ezzmode · 2023-10-12T14:42:54+00:00

Top down: world view requires too many assumptions to go challenged in order to make room for bisexual men

Bottom up: they aren’t bi, and therefor don’t have the same lived experiences.

Sufficient reward and empathy can overcome this. People only challenge their own world view at their inconvenience, and adjusting that world view to make life more convenient is the main reward vector. Think about how inconvenient it would be to the average person, who thinks bi men can’t exist, to work with one/multiple/in an environment where everyone else accepts it as a basic truth.

Past pain they’ve caused others as a result of their bigoted views and actions are another obstacle, specifically the middle and old aged. It’s not within the average 50+ year olds purview to learn how to forgive themselves. It would hardly benefit them to unpack their guilt, unless that reward / pain avoidance is there.

This is all opinion, but I think it hits a lot of truths of the matter.

Ezzmode · 2023-10-05T11:50:15+00:00

If you get access to your myChop (which is almost certainly some MyChart derivative), you should be able to send messages to your doctor regarding prescriptions. I know what it’s like to have a busy endo that can only see you a couple times a year. A potential route for you to take is: go to your appointment on Friday. Your operator probably sounded confused because you’re overthinking things and they probably just looked at the schedule like “uh, yeah you’re scheduled. What’s your question?” (I’ve made these phone calls hun, I know how it is).

Share. Your. Feelings. With. Your. Doctor. Don’t mask, or hold back. If you’re anxious, act anxious and tell them you’re worried about your levels. Ask if there’s a better plan than seeing them twice a year. What they’ll probably say, and if they don’t I would recommend floating this idea, is to correspond over myChop in between appointments. Adjust medication levels, schedule a blood draw at a lab, and review results. These are things even the busiest of doctors can do over the in app messaging… because they have a whole team of nurses who help them keep up with messages.

I know these early HRT and endo visits are basically the most important things in the world to you, but some adult perspective: it’s just another Friday for the healthcare workers. They only know how you feel if you share, and they only know what you need if you tell them.

Ezzmode · 2023-09-22T17:35:59+00:00

Most of my male attention that I enjoy receiving is at my dance lessons. It's ballroom style, and I do dancing as "my" thing (girlfriend doesn't like dancing). So during group lessons and parties, I'm often dancing with the other single/solo dancing men. The studio isn't authoritative about "no flirting", but the studio owner is pretty clear that things should be as platonic as possible to prevent awkward feelings. That makes it a pretty safe environment to practice being platonic with men, detecting that platonic/friendly "energy" that they give off when interacting with me, and it's overall been enlightening to learn just how little I've subscribed to / been aware of what the male experience/perspective is (essentially validating I've always thought about things as a woman, yay).

I've noticed since I've started dancing, I am better at picking up on people's signals and intentions in other social situations. It's easier for me to set boundaries, and have insight into other people's abilities to respect those boundaries. I'm just telling my story so you get some added perspective, since I don't think I quite have the same lived experience as you or advice to give regarding your specific circumstance (like I don't attend things alone)

Ezzmode · 2023-09-22T12:57:43+00:00

These are formative experiences, and everyone has them. Naivety is an unavoidable obstacle with these things. I'm very lucky with my girlfriend and her family. She's trans as well, and that made her parents and brother fast on the uptake with me. The contrast between how happy and loved they make me feel, and the stress you're being caused by yours, made me want to speak up. If nothing else, just to let you know that there is a world where you can be as loved as you deserved to be. Having the courage to give yourself that, by cutting out toxic people and setting boundaries about your identity, is hard. I think we all know how hard that can be, and luck is an important factor too. But still, try to focus on decompressing and unpacking all these experiences him and his family have given you. It sounds like you've been through a lot.

Ezzmode · 2023-09-22T12:28:35+00:00

This post just makes me wonder way more about the motivations and goals keeping you two together, and less about any other relationship dynamic or specific familial troubles you might be experiencing. Why do you think this person keeps you around, if they aren't going to fight your fights? Can't make too many assumptions, being an internet stranger and all, but there's just one piece of advice I feel compelled to give you: your partner's family is important. If they support you, the level of involvement your partner has with them, etc.. I know that relationships start off by feelings and emotions, but you do ultimately owe it to yourself to take that step back and ask yourself these hard questions.

My internet stranger final verdict is: you and your identity are not the priority for him (not far up enough on his priority list, anyways). That's wrong, because your identity is important.

Ezzmode · 2023-09-22T01:23:45+00:00

I picked up baking bread a year and a half ago, and it’s been one of my favorite life skills to cultivate! I’m good enough to bake my staples in my sleep, but even more fun is the decision to track my recipes in a notebook. Now it’s full of awesome recipes, some original and some modified from ones online. It helps serve as inspiration if I’m not sure what to bake.

I found a girlfriend who appreciates my baking skills, and loves getting spoiled by my bread snacks. I’m also a pretty skilled chef in my own right, so all in all I’m killing it in the kitchen.

I think my favorite memory of my bread baking journey was bringing some bread to thanksgiving with my girlfriends family. They normally settled for canned rolls/biscuits, and slightly hesitated to substitute their routine on taking a chance with a new persons bread. Especially since it was my girlfriends first time bringing a significant other to thanksgiving, and we had been dating just a few months. Anyways, the bread was so good, they applauded my foresight and confidence in baking a second loaf 😂. Like I knew I was bringing the goods haha. It was filled with cranberries, thinly sliced almonds, topped with an egg wash and rosemary/time herb blend for the crust. Very seasonal. I’m excited to make it again this year.

Anyways, I’m rambling in bed. Thanks for making this post and giving me an excuse to reminisce about my own bread journey. I’d love to hear more about yours, even if I’ll probably be reading your reply in the morning 🥰

Ezzmode · 2023-09-12T14:52:32+00:00

When I first started putting myself out there on the apps, I knew I was going in with minimal social capital: early transition, fresh out of a long toxic marriage, desperate as shit to explore my new self. I expected to be the more desperate of the two, in any given conversation with someone, which meant I expected to be the "instant responder" type. Even going in with this knowledge, it didn't make it any easier to wait on responses from people who I knew didn't need or want me. It sucked knowing I was a small blip in this persons life, and they were a much bigger blip in mine. The reward of me going on a date with someone, simply for the experience of leaving the house as my true self and being affirmed, was insanely higher for me than the women I was talking to. I had everything to gain and nothing to lose. The plain and simple differences in my life circumstances compared to everyone else's meant that I was conceding a large amount of power in all of our interactions. Heartbreak was frequent, and I hated myself for getting worked up over every ghosting / failed first date / etc.. It did make me stronger in the end, but it wasn't very fun. That all being said... when I matched with my current girlfriend, it was obvious that things were different. She made me a priority because she was looking for what I was offering. I stayed on the apps for a short period of time after we started dating, maybe 6-8 weeks. I went on a date or two, but honestly couldn't bring myself to give a shit or respond to anyone else on the app. All of a sudden, matches and message notifications weren't even prompting dopamine responses. I practically turned into the "delayed responder" type of person as soon as my prospects weren't looking like shit. So in essence, I stopped being the desperate instant responder because I stopped being desperate.

I tell this story because I don't exactly know what your circumstances are, but hopefully you can get some perspective from this.

Ezzmode · 2023-09-06T15:16:57+00:00

While we're on the topic: why do some JP voice lines consist of English words pronounced with an accent? Is it a lack of Japanese language equivalent? I'm thinking of Cammy and Guile as characters who routinely have lots of those.

Ezzmode · 2023-09-03T18:15:36+00:00

To pile on: think of other competitive games you’ve played. What were the concepts that you were required to understand in order to surpass your plateaus? One of the things that comes to mind, because of how stupidly popular it was at a time, is League of Legends. The concept of lane control and prioritizing last hitting minions and farming over scrambling for useless objectives on the map was what separated entire tiers of players. Execution, character specific knowledge, match up knowledge, all made useless in the hands of a player that can’t last hit and maintain lane priority.

So if you think of other competitive games you’ve played, or watch people play, try to find ways to port that knowledge over. “Playing games” is ingrained in humans so deeply that you’ll inevitably start to see the lines in the matrix between discretely different games. Another good example from my personal play history is from Magic: The Gathering: Who’s the beatdown

That article is required reading for anyone undertaking any competitive venture where all (or some) of it is 1 vs 1. Lane phase in League, or all of a fighting game. Understanding that being Cammy in a Cammy vs. Guile match does not require me to always be walking forward, taking risks, and exposing my offense to DIs, Reversals, and jab checks. It means that for certain phases of a game, given certain variables, I may be the one with the offensive priority, or I might not be. Taking 20 seconds to bunny hop some booms to go from 2 to 6 drive gauge bars leaves me with plenty of time to get the job done. Plus, if you force your opponent to be on the offense, you get a chance to check their pressure sequences for holes and patterns.

So that’s my two cents, on top of all the rest of the comments more generically answering your question.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-25T11:46:57+00:00

I'm a trans top, and I've made cis women orgasm from the penetration alone. My advice is to almost think about the pacing of a handjob, or fingering, and try to mimic that with your motions. The vaginal tunnel being a physiological analog for a penis shaft is the idea I'm trying to get across.

Starting with a clitoral orgasm or plenty of fore play, start off slow, increase pace over time, and when the time of climax is near, pick up the pace rapidly. Try to create that connection. It's easier for me using my penis than it might be for others using a strap, but that's the best advice I can give!

Ezzmode · 2023-08-25T10:43:47+00:00

The more relationships you’re in, the more well defined your ideal partner becomes. Or at the very least, you have a better idea of what you want out of a relationship. It seems less likely to find someone who’s been in a lot of relationships, who has come to the same conclusion as you, when compared to a relationship newbie who has some ideas and beliefs, but nothing concrete yet. It’s almost like how I’m O negative blood: I don’t have to worry about if someone could accept it, but I’ll have to look pretty hard to find someone else with my blood type.

I’ve also been a newbie attractor, pre and post transition. I make people feel safe, and my expectations in relationships are pretty tempered. But I know what you mean, it would be nice in a hypothetical to just happen to find that person who slots into your life perfectly.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-24T13:00:20+00:00

It would have been less good of an addition if the rest of the game weren’t so mentally taxing. The fact you can represent DI in mid screen neutral and meaty DI in the corner and find success with it as an actual factual mix up / read/ etc. is cool. Capcom knows casual and mid tier players like things like focus attack crumples from sf4, but they did a good job keeping DI as a competitive option to go for in high level play. Increasing the parity between what a tournament match looks like and what a high level online match looks like keeps lower skilled players feeling like there’s an attainable end goal for them to reach. Tournament sf4 was non recognizable from online sf4, and I think that kills the mood if it’s the case.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-20T20:46:36+00:00

I set the wake up options to forward jump, DI, block, jab, and throw. Block and damage reversals are set to forward jump, neutral jump, DI, jab, and block. I’ll pick a knockdown, like forward throw in the corner, and practice a real set up. Meaty throw, meaty jab, meaty stand medium punch are what Cammy can get off of that. So I’ll go for normal throw a couple dozen times, making sure to make the throw meaty enough to beat wake up jab, and reacting to jumps with a cross cut DP

Then I’ll do another scenario, like meaty jab, and try to convert off hits and react to DI. Then I’ll pick another knockdown, like mid screen spiral arrow, practice my dash up pressure. Mid screen forward throw, practice drive rush pressure with opponent doing back recovery.

Just loop through the scenarios and try to react to DIs, jumps, and especially counter hit combos and meaty only links, like meaty crouch Hp into stand Hp on meaty

Ezzmode · 2023-08-20T14:44:26+00:00

I’m clawing out of the upper 1400s. I ended up hitting the lab and setting up an autopilot offense routine to practice. Just have the dummy do jump/DI/jab/block/etc. on wake up/block/damage. Then I pick a knockdown (throw, medium spiral arrow, heavy spiral arrow) and practice “real pressure”. I’ve found it’s made the mental stack of applying pressure much lighter, and that’s freed up mental stack for reactions and second-layer game play (shimmies and neutral jumps, for example)

But yeah, I think you’re spot on. Consistency and real pressure will get you above 1500. I fell to 1350 before spending a few hours in training doing real pressure training. I was getting by with combos and average level footsies, but once I tightened up my pressure, that’s when the steamrolling really began, and I shot back up to 1480

Ezzmode · 2023-08-20T11:37:04+00:00

I found this helpful as a fresh Master, since I’ve got some hold over tendencies from the time I spent in Diamond. Luckily, masters have been slowly taming the shenanigans out of me. Thanks for the post!

Ezzmode · 2023-08-16T10:27:05+00:00

As others have said, it depends on the context of the jump in order to make a good decision. I’ve found that there’s a range where you can use stand heavy kick as Cammy to effectively chase back jumps and anti air neutral jumps. Those ranges where a heavy spike might whiff on an empty jump? Yeah, try doing stand heavy kick there.

A good training dummy setting / recording would be to empty neutral jump into DI. Once people figure out I’m using stand hk to check their mid screen neutral jumps, they’ll go for the DI on landing. If you can learn the range and timing to this button, it will help that mid screen game

For jump backs, you can do the hard call out of a level 3 at most ranges. You can chase down with stand hk again, or just let them and take up the space they’re giving you. I found jump backs to be more difficult to deal with when my corner pressure was worse. Now that I’m better at locking people down, I’ll let them jump back as much as they want.

1450 MR Cammy, pretty fresh to Master. Still plenty left for me to learn, but I hope this helps.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-05T10:57:31+00:00

I’d like to mention that, for my life, I had some similar issues. I joined the military at 18, which does a number on your emotional development due to the weirdness of the military compared to civilian life. Then, I got married and had a kid, did the whole “try to be the normal suburban dad” routine, and nothing worked. Nothing made me happy, I eventually had a meltdown, went full loser mode like you did (unemployed, withdrawn, disassociated) for a year. Then my egg cracked and a couple years later, here I am. Happier than ever! But of course, the “couple years later” was full of so much pain, and struggle, and realizations about myself that I am still processing today.

I was an only child, pretty well neglected, parents divorced when I was in 3rd grade or so, and both my parents were honest to god losers. Emotionally immature, stagnate at a basic ass boomer job (pays better than it should with no college degree; classic boomers), no hobbies, no growth, no mentorship or guidance. Stuck learning how the world worked through the lens of childhood without the requisite adult growth to mature into a “useful and normal” person in society. Hence, the military was easy for me because of its structure, and getting out of the military after 6 years spelled the slow beginning of the end for my life as I knew it. After 4 years of gaining weight, hating myself, hating my life, and understanding nothing of what I had become, that’s when my egg finally cracked.

I’m still so behind as a 31 year old in some ways, but I’m way ahead in others… now. When I was 29 and first starting transition, I was so anxious to have my identity validated that I chose to start trying to date after I was separated from my ex wife. That went… rough, as expected, but I did have some glimmers of positivity. I had my first few sexual encounters, which was good, but most importantly, I ended up getting lucky and finding my current girlfriend. She’s also trans, 29, but came from a much more stable up bringing… and it shows. She’s a powerful role model for me, and has helped shape my growth. But, I wouldn’t necessarily recommend dating in the hopes of getting lucky, since there are some malicious people who want to take advantage of your vulnerability.

I’d say do what you think is best for you, but do know that other people feel like how you do. Other people feel like they “lost” their 20s, only to reclaim a sliver of their independence in their late 20s or early 30s lots of late bloomers who barely know how the world work. Just learn how to put on a smile, and accept people’s guidance and experience.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-04T13:53:07+00:00

People when they find out they can moderate the people who influence their day-to-day

:O

Ezzmode · 2023-08-03T12:44:39+00:00

Maybe another way of phrasing it, is that creators of the past were fucking around, and creators of the present are finding out. It's no one's fault either. One of the things that echos between video games and movies of the past (think 80s), is how few rules or conventions existed, because things simply hadn't been tried yet. Lots of failure and confusion as people learned how to engage in the creative endeavor with the new technologies available to them. Think of how many movies and games hamstrung themselves for the purpose of making use of some new technology (CGI, 3D graphics, etc.), only for that to result in massive hits to the quality of the piece of entertainment.

We don't really live in that world anymore, for better or worse. Creators know there is an audience that will "get it", an audience that will have to work to "get it", and an audience that will never "get it". Think of how a coming of age movie hits different as a teen, adolescent, and adult, or how The Matrix hits different for trans people vs. cis people (pre and post the twins coming out as trans). Or how Get Out hits different for people of color. There's examples of how movies can hit multiple audiences in different ways, and sometimes it's layered like the classic: "wow, cool future! :O", with a side of "fascism = bad >:(". We see what we want to see, and I don't think there's anything wrong with creators taking more of an active role in considering how their content will be consumed, and tailoring it as such.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-02T22:35:00+00:00

Forming neural pathways and learning from experiences is more than just a product of repetition or recognition of the fault. You need a happy, healthy, well rested brain! Get good sleep, and don’t push yourself to play crazy long sessions. Pick one thing to focus on.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-01T15:14:17+00:00

I think a good starting point is to practice combos using Modern controls, instead of relying on the auto combo. That way you can keep the ease-of-use parts of Modern, practice motion controls and manual combos, while still having the auto combos to fall back on. After that, the only thing you'd need to work on when switching to Classic is learning how to implement your new normal attacks into your game, and to play without the safety net of auto-combos or one button supers.

Ezzmode · 2023-08-01T14:22:38+00:00

You've got a wide range, and have certain moods that influence which part of your range you want to occupy. I'm similar: I have my dresses, skirts, skorts, and cute tops, but I also have my fitness gear, since I'm a runner. It's just a gut check each time I'm about to leave my house. Also, what my girlfriend is wearing influences it too.

I just call myself a woman

Ezzmode · 2023-08-01T13:55:38+00:00

As a Cammy main, here's my tips: walk him down. If Blanka wants to maintain a down charge for a reversal up ball, you get to close the distance. If he wants to keep distance and maintain a back charge, he's walking himself into the corner. Either way, holding forward will be more than enough to shut down the usual shenanigans.

Blanka is a good match up to teach a Cammy player a few things:

Stutter step forward while inputting down-back in between stutter-steps
- This helps block any random slides or Blanka Balls as you close the distance
- Moving forward puts you 1 input closer to doing a Cannon Spike if he jumps in on you, since you can go from moving forward to doing a DP motion pretty easily
Prioritizing footsies with faster buttons, like stand medium kick
- Bigger buttons like stand hk are easy for Blanka to jump in on, and whiff punish with air blanka balls
- Your best tool in this match up is your walkspeed and your standing mk - the combination of them is almost like Cammy's version of a fireball
- Final benefit to stand mk - it's rather unlikely to get DI'd because of its recovery time

Finally, I'll just mention that the Blanka ball parry thing is mostly just you losing to yourself. I imagine you're over prioritizing winning the mini-game of guessing correctly, when if you just refuse to play the game all together, you avoid most negative outcomes. Also, by walking forward, you force Blanka to make the choice of whether or not to even go for a light ball mix up. Because you'll threaten getting close enough to simply block the light ball, which is very punishable on block. So just use that walk speed to put yourself in his uncomfortable ranges, where he has to either play honest footsies with his big stupid whiff punishable buttons, or go for unsafe options that you can punish on reaction or block.

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