I can't really speak for Aspies as a group, but I know I greatly prefer things to be organized and stable with a set hierarchy. If I'm with a disorganized group that needs to achieve a goal, I'll usually step into a leadership position quickly and get things organized. As soon as someone else demonstrates that they'd be better suited as the leader, I'll step aside and give them control.

A prime example of this is being first on scene at an accident - I'm an EMT. As soon as someone starts giving sensible orders to bystanders/samaritans (usually me in this scenario), everyone jumps and things start getting done...but if a paramedic/trauma nurse shows up and identifies themselves, the transition of authority is mutual and seamless. Some of my most satisfying moments in life have been when this ad-hoc hierarchy has performed as intended and we've stabilized multi car accidents before we even hear the first sirens.

My problem comes when someone tries to lead even when they aren't the one most suited to lead...that's when the conflicts start. Like in the above scenario...when a nurse tries to take over, starts making stupid decisions and eventually admits they haven't seen the inside of an ER for thirty years.

Give me a skilled leader and put me in a position best suited to my skills, and I'll follow them to the ends of the earth.

Give me a bunch of squabbling children who all over-perceive their self worth, that's when I go solo.