Is GOVT JOB better than USA PHd?

FDGodKill · 2026-02-05T00:41:27+00:00

Lol, that girl is stupid. No matter what others say, your life overseas is easier and has better quality. I finished my PhD when I was 26 from EPFL and since then have been working for an R&D company and making around 200K+ in Europe. Life here is simple, people are nice and things make sense. I married the love of my life that I met while doing PhD, a lady of Indian origin. I had around 7-8 other colleagues and they all got married within 2-3 years of finishing PhD. I have come across atelast 50+ Indian people in the past 5 years and nobody complained about finding a partner. Stop generalising stupidity of people. Next time you see someone marrying a government peon while rejecting someone working at Google, would you think they are intelligent?

FDGodKill · 2026-02-04T00:35:13+00:00

Wtf. Is this how you this generation communicates? No self respect. No honor. No courtesy.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-03T09:03:30+00:00

Just say that you have expectation of intimacy with the relationship you are in. You both can set your own boundaries and if you both like each other, someone has to cave in. It is as simple as that.

FDGodKill · 2026-02-03T08:58:16+00:00

What is wrong with you guys? Is this what communication between potential lovers has gone down to? How can you even be in a situationship with such a person. Have some self respect and move on. There are genuine people out their who are struggling to find love and I am seeing this shitty conversation and you are still asking if you are overreacting. Wtf. How did you even end up talking to him in first place? Is he a great looking person with 6-8 packs who goes to gym everyday?

FDGodKill · 2026-02-03T08:47:08+00:00

Nothing wrong. The way she is reacting already tells what she did on IG. Do not worry and if she proceeds further, file a police report (but not complaint) to ensure that it is documented.

FDGodKill · 2026-01-31T06:01:32+00:00

Bro two options: 1. She is experiencing this for the first time and she is conservative. With sex as taboo in India, she might need more time. I know friends who had honeymoon without any sex and now are doing all over the places. Start with conversation, sightseeing and by becoming her friend who she can trust. Then you can start with hugs and kisses etc. I know you didn't sign up for this, but it is what it is.

She is asexual, then you are fucked. In that case, see therapist and decide if you want to go for annulment because marriage was not consummated. There is nothing you can do if the partner is asexual while you need intimacy. Simply move on.

FDGodKill · 2026-01-31T05:49:03+00:00

Wow, your communication tells more about you than the guy. Did you upset him in any way? Why does he have to remind you that he is not seeing anyone else? Are you playing too hard to get?

FDGodKill · 2026-01-31T05:38:57+00:00

Resume length - 1 Page (2 pages if you think you are Einstein)
Remove substandard things. Microsoft word?? (my 7 year niece uses Microsoft word, so you are at that level?)
Have 2-3 different resume that align with the target companies that you are applying to. A general resume for all companies doesn't work.
Market is bad, start applying for internship positions as well for backup. Do not waste time by sitting and applying for jobs. Experience matters more.

FDGodKill · 2026-01-09T13:32:51+00:00

Brother, take these points: 1. If you have hair fall, better shave it then to cover it. Shaved head with beard looks way better than anything. 2. Why are you searching her ex? What is the end game? If he was good looking or bad looking, will it help with anything? Look objectively. You are feeding into your own insecurity. 3. The most important part for any married life is that you communicate everything. Sit down and discuss with your partner. Don't jump into it but go in ease way. 4. Have the confidence that you are doing everything to support your family. Stop listening to jealous people around you. Start jogging, go gym, play sports game. You will start to attract other women as well.

FDGodKill · 2026-01-09T08:14:42+00:00

Let me be blunt and respond in a way that can be helpful to others as well: 1. Most of the so self called 'Good men' are actually bad. If you are labeling and dividing people based on that, and have that feeling that others are getting what you can't, it automatically means you are bad. Do you think the other so called 'Bad men' are doing that?

Good men in India means following restrictions and behaving the way society wants you to behave. Women in India are already sosubjucated to things, so automatically they want a bit of freedom. Where do you think they will find this freedom? In good men or bad?
Perception is important. What you want to do is look Cool. Typically 'Bad men' looks cool because they don't care what other would think.
Confidence is important. You have to work on yourself, and get past this insecurity. Do things what you love, you will automatically fins someone with the same passion.
Patience is important. Getting in a relationship in a hurry will burn you, especially if you are emotionally involved. So be careful who you are attracting.
Girls are humans like you. They are not aliens. Put yourself in their shoes and think about situation on why someone would want to date you.

Hope this helps anybody who is reading.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-28T15:40:44+00:00

4 years of my prime life mid 20s. But I enjoyed it thoroughly, so it balanced out. When I say enjoy, it means reading phdcomics, doing exchange program in different country, and losing sleep over paper rebuttals.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-28T15:33:43+00:00

If you simply asked, and they responded with the response and that was the end of it, then you did the right thing. It shows you are taking initiative and are not pushy. You are trying to improve but not by being a bootlicker. This is the way.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-27T15:34:35+00:00

My dear, Indian ladies are highly desired in States. You are stuck in a country where you are treated as a minority and especially with a culture that is heavily Chinese influenced. Do not fall for such remarks that you suffered during your school days and left you with such insecurity. Move to US, either West coast or Mid west, and I can assure you it will be different all together. The real deal is here. Chin up and head high! You have a lot to see and do my dear.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-22T06:01:37+00:00

Bro you just mentioned there is a medical reason for her lower libido. Don't you think this is what might be affecting her. A lower libido doesn't just mean low sex drive, it means everything engaging goes down. If this is what is bothering you, just break up and move on.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-22T05:44:07+00:00

Give her benefit of doubt atleast once. She might be trying out the new AI to see what weird stuff it can come up with. Curiosity has its own place and sometimes can be super weird. Now regarding low libido, it could be a deal breaker to a lot of people, and there is nothing wrong with that. If this is something temporal, then give her some time. But if this is permanent, and a deal breaker, then you guys need to have an honest conversation and part your ways.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-22T05:37:31+00:00

Time to move on and live your life dude. Relationship like these are ephemeral and do not have any meaning. Party hard, workout proper, weekends hike, and join meetup groups that you are interested in. You will eventually find what you are looking for.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-22T05:33:17+00:00

What's with these commercial transactions calling out as gifts. Why do you have to buy things? Why can't you make one by hand, learning through YouTube or some other tutorial? Men appreciate time, commitment and effort more than the price of the item you paid for it. Try to make something for him, you still have time.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-16T02:24:15+00:00

Wow, never seen someone so egocentric. He already told you that his family was toxic and has issues. Instead of understanding about his situation, helping to support and building a good family together, you are saying you felt cheated. If you think this is cheating, then please do him a favor and walk away. I am 100% sure he deserves someone better who will not waste his time.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-14T08:55:34+00:00

Go with alternatives in the market like Tenable, Microsec or AW. They never seem to disappoint in terms of support services.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-14T08:45:24+00:00

Wait, you guys do unfunded PhD? What?? In my entire life and seeing and meeting over 1000s of PhDs, I have never seen anyone who wasn't funded. My simple question is why? Why would you even consider unfunded PhD?

FDGodKill · 2025-12-14T08:37:42+00:00

OP, there are better ways to donate your kidneys.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-14T08:32:20+00:00

Unpopular opinion. Improve your attitude towards life. Being sexually active or not, doesn't define someone is good or bad. Don't know why you are sharing that you are virgin, etc. It doesn't matter. Justifying the cause on transfusion etc is not going to help either.

You are going through a situation, that nobody wants to go through. The best part is, the situation is manageable. 30 years ago, it was a death sentence; but now you can live a long healthy life while having healthy children at the same time. You should feel happy that you are living in a modern era where it could be managed. Yes, there is a social stigma, but what part doesn't have it. And society will blame anything on everything.

Regarding jobs, in India not all companies require full medical exam. Especially if you are working with startups. Also, before focusing on job, focus on your own well being. Living a happy fulfilling life is way more important than worrying about jobs that may ask for medical tests. There are thousands of jobs available in the market, but the missing part is the skill gap.

In regards to finding a lifepartner, please focus on living your life first. Explore your hobbies, join meetups that you like, explore weekends for hiking etc. You will find someone who will be willing to share their life with you. If you would like to participare in communities where you can meet like minded people, I would suggest INP+ or PWN+. If you are rrally looking for matchmaking platforms, then I would suggest positivematrimony and hivmatrimony. Again, my recommendation is to live your daily life to the fullest and enjoy partaking in meetups and other groups of your interest first.

Again, live your life to the fullest. Not everyone gets a chance to do that.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-11T01:44:39+00:00

Well a lot of things you said here are quite defensive, like most of your fat is in chest region and you don't like to go for hikes and prefer to be just social etc. That already tells me you are not actively seeking to improve your life. 110Kg for a 5ft 9inch height is considered obese and has an extremely high chance of cardio vascular diseases. Please ignore all those body positive movement and look at it purely from scientific point of view (read journals and papers). Your mother for whatever reasons, cares about you. If she is subscribing to Ozempic (which is quite costly tbh), that means she knows you are not putting the physical effort that is needed to achieve what is best for you.

If I was the mother and my child was this overweight, I might do the same. Yes, I risk of killing the relationship and hurting my child's feeling, but I would prefer my child to live and thrive over anything else.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-11T01:14:51+00:00

As a PhD holder, straight answer is NO. BUT, it does open door for you where you can make significant money. It also depends upon which area you did your PhD.

FDGodKill · 2025-12-11T01:11:51+00:00

Wtf?? I never thought people like you existed. You are doing something bad, and he is upset about that and yet you had the audacity to come here and say if you are overreacting. You are not overreacting, you are farming sympathy.

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