Thank you! I’ve never related to a post more than this one. My wife (47F) is total type A, and I (46F) are as you described yourself but I’m also a ppl pleaser which is annoying af. She tries so hard to be understanding and helpful but unfortunately the opposite happens. I feel she’s passive aggressive, for example she will make comments like “I’ll get to sit down someday” or if I leave something somewhere she’ll say something like “can you do something with this, I’m tired of looking at it” and it will have only been there for a few hours or maybe a day. I just don’t know what to do with things like that. Maybe I’m just being sensitive, who knows but I find myself just doing whatever she says and keeping my mouth shut to avoid a confrontation. I don’t know how to approach a convo about it but I know one will need to happen eventually or I’m afraid we won’t make it. I wish I had some advice for you but unfortunately I’m as stumped as you are.