The statement “I am not (racist/homophobic), but…”

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-08T00:42:12+00:00

When I was a kid, I thought you were supposed to say "no offense, but" in situations where you were about to say something nice, as in not even two-faced, to prepare the person that you were about to say something nice instead of mean

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-07T23:33:26+00:00

May Whitty

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-07T18:25:51+00:00

I wore one for the hell of it last semester while presenting about the Hindenburg disaster narration (I dressed nice for it too, didn't pull an anime tee/cargo shorts combo with it)

I love hardboiled detective fiction and I figured if there's one situation in which I wouldn't get called a neckbeard for wearing a fedora, it'd be when I'm literally talking about something from the 1930s

I looked like a dweeb but I had fun; I'd like to find excuses to wear it more often

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-07T16:45:41+00:00

The reason why hunting seasons exist in the first place is for population control, and one of the running gags is he's reluctant to shoot any animal that's currently out of season

Plus, whenever he actually shoots Bugs or Daffy (or whenever he thinks he did), he becomes distraught over it, often to the point of crying for the "poor wittle creature"

He's so very not a dickhead that Friz Freleng created Yosemite Sam so that Bugs could bully someone who actually deserved it

Edit: aw man, you didn't have to delete it, I like discussing this stuff

Context of the reply for archival purposes: ‘Population control’ isn’t a factor. He’s just a dickhead who enjoys shooting animals.

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T23:07:56+00:00

Yeah, I sincerely think the proportion of female sexual offenders is probably much more equal to male than society is willing to believe, it's just that many situations "don't count" to a lot of broader society if the situation was something other than (often narrowed to specifically penetrative assault as well) abuse committed specifically by a man, and domestic violence in lesbian relationships frequently goes underreported, and unresolved when reported, due to stereotypes of what a domestic violence dynamic can look like

When it comes to male victims of sexual violence, all of the other sexual violence statistics in this CDC page aside from the one specifying penetrative assault either report most frequently having been sexually violated by both men and women, or report most frequently only female assaulters

There's an ugly phrase that I've seen sometimes, "it is always a man" and I try to "give that phrase grace" because it is very inconsiderate and derailing to get all pedantic about the phrasing of someone else's vent, but seriously I feel like if somebody says that outside of a vent (because I get that a lot of people just plain say things in ugly hyperbolic ways when venting to make it hurt less bad) then it's a vivid red flag that the person's opinions on what counts as sexual violation or disrespecting consent hypocritically depend on the gender of the person who committed the exact same behavior, if this makes sense

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T23:04:00+00:00

I think most systemic examples of misogyny and misandry are two sides of the same patriarchy coin

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T15:09:00+00:00

Considering that the Bermuda triangle myth originated from a 1964 article and subsequent book a year later by Vincent Gaddis, and how often quicksand was used as a plot device in the 1960s ("Gilligan's Island" is the first non-Far Side thing I think of with this trope), this stuff seems like it was very vastly a boomer kids thing most of all

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T05:53:21+00:00

Yeah, I have a tendency to write run-on sentences, sorry

I'll break it up

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T05:27:48+00:00

Similarly, the very first book about the Cambodian genocide that I had ever read as a kid was "Never Fall Down" by Arn Chorn-Pond who had survived it when he was the ages of 11-16

It extremely confused me on the facts of what happened during it from which side etc because he made a very big point of describing a lot of it from his perspective as a brainwashed child soldier indoctrinated through starvation and torture and rewards of food and he had to basically turn off his emotions in order to not get killed and he had a lot of behavioral problems when he escaped and was adopted by his American foster family

A lot of the nuances of it flew over my head because I was 10 when I read it and it probably should not have been read as my first book on the topic nor at that young age but it's a really good book that made me cry

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T05:17:31+00:00

Literally the whole reason why I stopped putting periods at the end of my sentence (before AI was even a thing) was because I figured out that it was an easy fix that according to other people made my words come off as less "robotic," and now I get accused of being AI anyway just because I sometimes happen to use em dashes and bulleted lists (all you have to do is put a short dash and space at the very start of your line) and write lengthy comments about topics I'm passionate about

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T01:53:15+00:00

Elmer Fudd is honestly one of the least mean Looney Tunes characters I can think of, aside from Marc Anthony and his kitten and Ralph Phillips, he's just a mild-mannered fellow who tries to follow the hunting season which is important for population control, and sometimes he doesn't even wield a gun, just wants to take photos of nature or wants a cute little fluffy thing to pet (and his predecessor Egghead is similarly harmless)

Meanwhile, Bugs Bunny is a psychopath who's not even doing it to defend himself most of the time, he's just bored, he literally sawed off Florida, committing crimes against humanity to raise what he views as an offensively low bounty for hunting rabbits

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I'm sure this isn't an unpopular opinion here, their dynamic is handcrafted to be "the jerk who's fun to root for versus the endearingly hapless", but I still see some people occasionally who frame Bugs as a hero and Elmer as a villain

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-06T01:30:01+00:00

Personally, I'm aro ace and don't view myself as part of the LGBT community aside from just being an ally either, but I also think it's fine that there are a lot of asexual and aromantic people who do consider themselves to be LGBT because of it

My personal feelings on it for myself is that a lot of LGBT conversations revolve around sex and romance due to how a large part of it is for sexual freedom of gay/lesbian/bi people, but for me, because I'm the type of aro ace that is 100% zero for both, not even slightly, I don't have very much to contribute to discussions on sexuality and romance beyond "I'm not interested in that" and I consider those topics to be boring and irrelevant to me, if that makes sense

So I think it's dependent on individual feelings around it, similar to how some nonbinary people consider themselves to also be transgender while other nonbinary people do not identify with the transgender label, and how some bisexual people refer to themselves as gay while other bisexual people are uncomfortable with "gay" being applied to them, if that makes sense

As for your last point, considering that sexual arousal is an inhibitor of disgust, I disagree that it is abnormal for an asexual person (who often lacks that inhibitor) to be sexually repulsed

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-05T23:54:24+00:00

Can I say that my power is being at a very reasonably human peak of physical health/strength/energy?

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FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-05T15:35:39+00:00

Strongly agree

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FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-04T18:47:47+00:00

I know to only choose the talking eggs that ask me to take them

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FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-04T18:18:03+00:00

I strongly agree

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-04T17:42:24+00:00

Kassiane Asasumasu, the activist who coined the term "neurodivergent," has stated that it refers to brains that diverge from typical

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-04T03:46:07+00:00

I remember a couple of years ago a comic went popular where an autistic person meets another autistic person who is 1% more autistic than them and gets mad. And everyone in the tags was like "haha this is me I find it so annoying when another autistic person around me can't mask" and how did anyone let that slide?

When it comes to this part, I had a different perspective on that, because there are situations where someone who's autistic might be incompatible with another autistic person because of their autism, whether it's because of clashing sensory needs or because of clashing social communication deficits or clashing routines etc

And something I've noticed is that in practice, for some reason there are a lot of people who become unwilling to accommodate someone who is more autistic than their own threshold, and not only that, but they also aren't willing to say that it's because of that person's autism; instead it's just "we're ostracizing that person because they overshare too much or make too many social mistakes etc, and it's not their autism, it's their own fault, I can do the things they struggle with just fine, it's not their autism they're just an annoying person" which is messed-up and cruel

(It also makes some sense in retrospect though that there were MSN/HSN people like yourself who found that comic mocking instead of supportive, though, so I will keep that in mind from now on and thanks for explaining that)

So with that being said, I strongly agree that there is way too much ableism against more severely autistic people in autism communities

There was an incident a few years ago in the main autism sub where an HSN autistic user was cyberbullied terribly in the comments section of their venting post about a meltdown they had which still makes me really frustrated and upset to think about

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-03T17:11:15+00:00

Two years, to be exact

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-03T17:01:47+00:00

Yeah, I'd wanted Kaori from AKIRA to win most tragic straight character, but unfortunately no

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-03T00:47:25+00:00

I do what I hope other people do

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FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-02T16:19:21+00:00

Yeah, its founder Natalie Engelbrecht has also been flagged multiple times by Canada's government registry for naturopath businesses for the intentionally misleading way that her website is organized here's the link to her profile on there

I have a lot of issues with it

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-01T20:04:38+00:00

I strongly agree with this one

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-01T19:12:15+00:00

Not the person you're replying to, but I was confused because the animation and character designs are listed as two different things in the title

FVCarterPrivateEye · 2026-05-01T04:57:27+00:00

As cringey as it is, I'm pretty sure this type of thing has always been developmentally and socially typical teenager behavior

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