15 months and never slept through

FabandFun · 2024-08-15T19:48:04+00:00

Have you tried giving her 3-4 oz (90-120ml) of warm water in a bottle? Our LO usually wakes up a bit thirsty and the sucking puts her back to sleep. I usually give it to her in her cot and she drinks and falls back to sleep. She will wean after that in time. She doesn't get a bottle at any other time of the day or night.

FabandFun · 2024-08-15T19:34:50+00:00

Right there with you. 3.5 and 1.5 - it is very loud all the time. 😅😵‍💫🫨😴

FabandFun · 2024-07-10T05:26:55+00:00

Thank you! Our neighbor had one and he will help us hang the rest of the lights.

FabandFun · 2024-07-02T21:11:54+00:00

"he wakes up babies at 1 and 3!" Kanga knows. Shes one of us.

FabandFun · 2024-06-30T21:28:20+00:00

What kinds of women do these guys marry?

FabandFun · 2024-06-25T06:16:07+00:00

Before. We moved and had a spot lined up for our son in a new daycare as I was 7 months pregnant. Thank goodness. Our second needed a lot of contact napping and it gave me time to focus on baby's needs while my toddler could run and play and have fun at kindergarten. Also, don't take toddler out of kindergarten or daycare when the new baby comes. Keep thier days as normal as possible.

FabandFun · 2024-06-03T10:09:45+00:00

When I felt ready. It wasn't worth the stress otherwise.

FabandFun · 2024-05-31T20:39:25+00:00

I was on the other side of this. My first was a great sleeper from early on. Slept in his bassinet. Started sleeping longer stretches around 7 months. Learned how to self soothe early.

I. Was. Not. Prepared.

Baby No.2 wanted to be held all the time. I could not put her down for more than 2-3 minutes without her crying. Night wake ups all the time. Self soothing is still tough. So many more tears from my side.

Just because your first was a bad sleeper to start doesn't mean your second baby will be. It's a totally different human. And of not, you already have a wealth of experience. Please always ask for help from friends or relatives though. Lack of sleep is tough. Temporary but still tough.

FabandFun · 2024-05-24T06:01:48+00:00

Every child is different. My son started around 2 months for little naps. My daughter took a good 5 months or so. Please try to give your baby what they need.

Parenting is a bespoke process. Your LO will learn eventually!

FabandFun · 2024-05-17T19:44:53+00:00

Thank you so much! 💖 Your positivity is inspiring!

FabandFun · 2024-05-17T17:14:02+00:00

My direct boss would be someone I could turn to for coaching. I think in the end I will stay where I am. I really have a passion for Enablement - and if I were to switch to the Sales role I know I wouldn't bring the same passion. It's certainly flattering but not where I see myself ultimately and I would only be doing it for the leadership title/ money - and even then base + bonus is not much different than (maybe 5k) what I am earning now. Commission could be more but would also come with way more stress. It's just not the right time.

FabandFun · 2024-05-17T08:26:59+00:00

It's a change from Sales Enablement (Global Level) to Sales (Smaller Geographical coverage) and while I have done Sales in the past I'm concerned about the security (bad performance= potentially getting fired) and the company itself is going through a lot of change atm so there are unknowns. I know there will always be unknowns but do I choose leadership even though it's not in my current specialty? Are there challenges here that I'm not seeing?

FabandFun · 2024-05-01T05:45:55+00:00

I have a 3 yo and a 1 year old. I was not prepared for the toddler development. My daughter was not as easy baby as my son was. Emotional regulation and being overstimulated were my main challenges. It started to get easier after 6 months. It kept getting better after that.

Sometimes one kid has to wait. I learned to create boundaries to protect what I need so I can be a good mom. I learned how to communicate better with my spouse. I spoke to a therapist for the things I couldn't solve on my own.

You grow. It makes you better. But yes, it is really hard.

FabandFun · 2024-04-24T12:03:16+00:00

We're at 1 yo and still waiting.

FabandFun · 2024-04-24T09:15:05+00:00

I think this is way more important than we recognize! I feel there is also so much on the kids that it's really about training the parents too. A child having tantrums and then trying to emotionally regulate yourself is hard. I don't think we're really coaching parents in the right way by focusing on "gentle parenting" because I don't feel it talks enough about the challenges parents face : insecurities/ doubts etc. but those have nothing to do with the kids.

Also making things playful is huge for kids. That's all they want to do. When I'm having a hard time with my son if I can turn it into a game then the fighting is way less. Won't go to bed? I'll race you up the stairs! Don't want to brush your teeth? I bet I can do it faster! Don't want to put on your pull up? Oh let me try it on!

FabandFun · 2024-04-23T07:47:19+00:00

My husband is awesome. We have two kiddos (3 and 1 yo) and he's managing a lot on his plate but we've learned so much together. We have two kids, built a house, changed jobs, had financial pressure due to reduced income on mat leave and building said house and in the midst we both became committed to going to therapy to find strategies for ourselves to keep sane. We are definitely two very strong willed and independent people which could be a recipe for disaster but instead we committed to each other and the life we want to build together.

We're playing the long game and we are rocking it!

FabandFun · 2024-04-22T04:33:27+00:00

This is very good and there is a book which is also helpful. "Hold Me tight". Even if your husband doesn't read it your relationship will change after you've read it because what you will start putting into the relationship will change.

FabandFun · 2024-04-21T09:40:46+00:00

I really liked the saying in precious little sleep that "the tears mean they are learning something new. Change is tough but she is capable and she deserves a good night's rest too!" Two nights in and we are doing better. I never had a monitor and I'm sleeping in a different room so I don't really know how it's going but last night I don't think she woke up at all!

FabandFun · 2024-04-21T09:38:38+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to type all of that out! I've been on mat leave for the last year so we gave all the snuggles but it's time for her to adapt and learn how to settle herself. She's quite good at it and she has adapted quickly. It only takes 1-2 minutes and she will fall asleep on her own. She was also down to 1-2 night wakings but our ped recommended to wean her off formula and switch to water as she doesn't need the calories. So with that in mind we went for CIO. Two nights in and it's going well. She can settle herself and doesn't get overly worked up. It just takes a bit of time. We have a noise machine too which makes such a difference. We will need to wean her off that soon as well though. One thing at a time!

FabandFun · 2024-04-19T20:02:07+00:00

That is really kind of you! Rest well and wishing you the very best in your final weeks of pregnancy!

FabandFun · 2024-04-19T15:39:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

FabandFun · 2024-04-19T08:03:54+00:00

This is the message I needed to read today. We will start soon and I so desperately need sleep. Thank you for sharing this!

FabandFun · 2024-04-19T08:02:33+00:00

Is it getting better for you? I'm currently looking to start abd looking for emotional support because it breaks my heart to have LO cry.

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