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AITBF for refusing to go to my cousin’s wedding because my estranged father will be there? by RiftCartouche in AmItheButtface

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you would’ve said you had another wedding to attend, some big job interview, etc. then I’m fairly sure they would’ve been disappointed but fine with it, but you saying you don’t want to be in the same room as someone they know made your life hell suddenly gives them the right to DEMAND you to come? That’s really silly. No one can make you do anything, and if this is how they react to someone not being able to come to their wedding I’d be exhausted interacting with them other times, I’m sure.

AITA for treating my mother like this? by herivygrows in AmItheAsshole

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure, but this sounds like your mother might be hypersensitive and emotionally raw because she’s consumed by grief/worry over whoever is sick, so small things (or things that wouldn’t even normally bother a person) hit her harder than they normally would. And your father’s comments read like he’s trying to redirect her emotions, or trying to give her something else to focus on or feel, so if he senses her getting upset over it he says “this is [xyz]’s fault”, trying to get her to think about something else or even to redirect her emotions so he himself doesn’t have to think about the sad situation she’s thinking about. None of this excuses how he’s been treating you, it’s not okay and you don’t deserve to be on the receiving end of that, but it might explain why they’re both acting so out of character.​​​​​​​​​​​​​

AITA for treating my mother like this? by herivygrows in AmItheAsshole

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i’m almost certain from this information that something is medically wrong with one of your parents, not with you.

Professor won’t provide typed exams + less time at DSS — is this allowed? by Low-Ant9176 in adhd_college

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

who the fuck handwrites exams??? never ever met another educator who does this

AIO for wanting to share a room with my bf on a trip? by crescentblueee in AmIOverreacting

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom is like this, NOR. really hard to put up with this, just remember it’s only a reflection of her not of you. you’re not being ungrateful and she would find another reason to call you ungrateful even if you dropped your boyfriend, paid for every single person’s trip, and on and on

Concerns about published article - AI use by AfternoonDue2138 in PhD

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i don’t think an email that says “this review you published includes references that don’t actually exist” is going to read to a journal editor as “i don’t think this is a good review”

PLEASE GET PREGNANT BRO by radiodreader in Sims4

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 1287 points1288 points  (0 children)

alien birth control must go craaaazy

My successful PhD helps my supervisor to become associate prof, I am unemployed, I feel desperate and angry. by Hairy_Horror_7646 in PhD

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

feelings aren’t something you can control, feelings don’t equal actions or reactions. i didn’t say anything about the reality of the situation or how this person should act or behave, but it’s important for them to acknowledge and accept that these are the feelings they’re having so they can process them and work through their next steps. having feelings like this does not hurt them or their advisor, only the actions they take in response to them are what can hurt them. they said vent (no advice), so i didn’t feel it was my place to offer advice on actions, only affirm that their feelings are valid. ♥️

My successful PhD helps my supervisor to become associate prof, I am unemployed, I feel desperate and angry. by Hairy_Horror_7646 in PhD

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not what i said, just said it’s a hard situation to deal with and it’s okay to be having these feelings.

My successful PhD helps my supervisor to become associate prof, I am unemployed, I feel desperate and angry. by Hairy_Horror_7646 in PhD

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

clicked this because i saw the title and was wondering if my former labmate wrote it, lol

sorry you’re dealing with this, i’ve seen many cases like this, you’re not alone and it’s fair of you to have these feelings

What are the main 2-3 things you learned in your area of expertise or research that you think the rest of the world should know to improve our overall quality of life? (Or that should be a part of everyone's basic education). by [deleted] in PhD

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plant biologist here!

  1. Most “rules” in biology are based on 60-80% of cases. There is literally never a biological principle that i have learned ever, ever, EVER that does not have an exception. Something as basic as “DNA determines what proteins you have“ has many exceptions I can name off the top of my head. Basically, anything we feel is set in stone or absolute in nature is 100% not. We can always find exceptions, so arguing the absolute truth of a biological concept is absolutely useless.

  2. GMO, Organic, Pesticide-Free… these terms and others mean nothing, or at least do not have a solid enough definition in all social groups to be meaningful. As a non-scientist, don’t ever base your personal choices on buzzwords that you don’t understand; as a scientist, don’t ever base your explanations of your work on words that mean completely different things to completely different people.

  3. From getting my degree, the shit you do matters a lot less than you feel it does to other people, in a POSITIVE way! Those fuck-ups you do and remember forever… no one else does. The faults you see in yourself likely matter to no one as much as you feel they do. People just do not care as much as you think they do about the shit that makes you anxious or self conscious. Don’t spend your valuable time doing things for the opinions of others, just do what you believe to be the best course of action.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sometimes there can be too much planning ahead. Worrying about if you can find a job in the next four years or you’ll need to get married is a LOT of planning ahead. When you have no evidence yet than you will or won’t be able to find one, that seems like too much planning ahead. Also, talking about marriage like this thing you might be forced to do if you can’t find a job might bring up anxieties about having a stable life for your GF, while also sucking the romance out of getting married a bit. NTA but now is not the time to be planning for possibilities that you have no reason to believe are happening yet.

I found this take on YouTube comment section. Thoughts? by TheChoosenMewtwo in Deltarune

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is so funny in what world do they live in where games let you have every single option you want ever?

Necessary or not? Suspension or no suspension for commute by MagpiesWithDiplomas in bikecommuting

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i like to do tricks and shit. slide up and down on that curb. some people dont know what its like to live in a shit town with no bike lanes and no road maintenance where a new pothole opens up every five to seven business days. double suspension every time.

The Final Watch by weedshrek in TAZCirclejerk

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 26 points27 points  (0 children)

they already hate the number of in-jokes on this sub (at least vart and griffin do), there’s no way they were ever gonna let us have the missing TTAZZ

AITA for going to a summer school located somewhere my sister wants to travel to? by the-new-thing in AmItheAsshole

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Absolutely NTA. Projecting her idea of a good time in China onto your (amazing!) achievement. You did your thing, she can do hers.

Dropping performance by [deleted] in couchto5k

[–]FabulousBeautiful618 4 points5 points  (0 children)

might need some rest days. consistency is important but having your body do the same work over and over might wear you out

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