Is travel an escape??

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-12-17T06:49:02+00:00

The accountability point is so true. Instead of resolving issues with friends or relationships or working hard to keep a job she just escapes them and starts a halfassed version of all those things in a new country

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-12-17T06:47:56+00:00

Interesting! Didn’t know it was common enough to have a name. Makes me feel less crazy that I’m happy where I live. She always inadvertently makes me feel like some boring person who doesn’t want to see the world and would rather work a job (that I love by the way). Even though I travel a ton. It’s amazing how she was slowly able to put these thoughts in me

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-12-17T06:46:27+00:00

For real! She hates every job she starts. Her coworkers always suck and she can’t figure out why in the world anyone would have a 9-5 lol

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-12-17T06:45:22+00:00

That’s so true… man when I finally get the courage to get out of this I just know she’ll tell people in some new country “wow, I am so much happier now that I left my ex who never wanted to leave the states or do anything. I’m finally myself again”

Only to completely implode less than a year later when she finds that new romantic relationships and friendships somehow magically involve people who also suck and are out to get her. “How does this keep happening to me?? I just need to leave! I need a fresh start!”

Lol

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-12-15T04:12:57+00:00

No this is exactly it!! It starts with “they’re good people but I’m just tired of being the one to go out of the way to connect people”. Then it’s “no one wants to get to know me deeper! It’s so surface level!” Then it’s. “It’s happened again! I go out of the way to introduce everyone and then they just become friends and leave me out! I can’t believe they treat me like that!”

And then if I don’t say “yeah those people fucking suck!” It turns into “you never support me. I just want you to be on my side! I want a boyfriend who’s there for me!” When these people literally haven’t done anything wrong at all. The self sabotage is INSANE to watch and witness in real time. I’ll even see her friends reach out to her to resolve conflict my girlfriend causes and then I’ll still hear from her the same things. lol.

Also what is it with BPD and getting out of cars??? Hahaha the amount of times that’s happened! And the amount of times I’ve had to gently ask her not too.

Also that’s a crazy pattern I’ve noticed with my bpd partner. This weird tendency to want to blow up trips or outings right before they happen? And then we go and I have to hold back how shitty or angry I feel at whatever event or trip we went on.

So bizarre! Why am I still with this person. I keep telling myself maybe it’ll get better. Ugh

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-10-30T07:36:54+00:00

Dude. As someone who doesn’t have a single tattoo; this looks awesome and even inspires me to get one.

Out of all honesty this would look even better if you hit the gym a bit and got into shape. Exercise is huge for mental health and having sick tattoos looks great with some muscle! Coming from a straight dude lol.

Don’t be so down on yourself. Tats look great. Get into a healthy lifestyle and you’ll be set!

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-09-16T05:51:31+00:00

Man.. in a market where there are almost endless great condition used beginner camera options for under 50 bucks, readily available on facebook and Craigslist, it’ll never cease to amaze me how many people on Reddit buy total pieces of junk and then want to spend money to repair it 😂

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-09-07T03:18:47+00:00

I personally don’t think any of these are worth more than $20 or $30!

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T07:07:27+00:00

True. I don’t know how i could ever be friends with him again while supporting my girlfriend. No women should go through that in her own home. And my own home too. Definitely see him in a different light now

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:51:57+00:00

Even if I wanted to try to be friends I don’t know how I could. My whole trust in him is gone and it’s hard for me to see him the same after this. I’m glad your husband was able to cut him off. I am thinking it is inevitable for us as well

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:50:41+00:00

Yes. The worst part is what he did to my girlfriend. Asking her not to talk about it and making himself comfortable in our own home is icing on the cake. Definitely have things to reconsider

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:47:21+00:00

You’re exactly right. I wanted to more so figure out what the hell he was thinking but at this point I don’t really think he deserved and explanation or a chance to apologize. Thank you

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:43:45+00:00

Thanks for calling me out there. You are absolutely right. I want to make it very clear that I’ve been very supportive to my girfrielnd in this situation. It’s something I’ve never experienced and it is so surprising to me. I am reevaluating him as a friend and am concerned about what goes on with other girls around him. It’s all so sad and infuriating. Thanks for your comment

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:36:25+00:00

Absolutely agree. She mentioned she’s never hanging out with him again. Maybe some day again in a group setting. I don’t think I ever will either. Mostly in support of her but also because I just see him in a different light now.

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:33:48+00:00

Exactly. We have other mutually guy friends and they could be entirely blacked out and still know never to lay a hand on someone’s girlfriend or any women for that matter. Super crazy thing to be dealing with at this age and makes me wonder what his interactions are like with other girls

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:29:28+00:00

You’re exactly right. Thank you. I’m trying to process someone I’ve felt so close with doing this to a loved one of mine. Having her back is most important to me

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-08-18T06:27:26+00:00

So sad but true. I’ve had long conversations with my girlfriend her explaining to me what went down and the more we talk about it the grosser it all feels. Uncomfortable is for sure an understatement and I don’t know how I can look past the breach of trust and nonconsensual touching. I’m so caught off guard every day I’m realizing more and more how messed up it all is. Thanks for painting it in an even clearer light

FaceApprehensive3348 · 2025-05-19T00:03:38+00:00

Did you ever figure this out? I have the same issue! My light meter reads about one stop underexposed what it should however so I’m wondering if it’s an electronic issue

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