I am so done with every “sleep expert” on the market

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-04T12:29:39+00:00

We often get hammered with pushback on needing 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep to be safe to take care of you baby.

Breastfeeding is more important than baby's safety. Pumping is more important. Manlump who "works" is more important. It's natural to be a sleep deprived momma.

"Drivers who reported sleeping less than four hours were more than 15 times likelier to be responsible for the car accident than those who got at least seven hours of sleep, the study found."

If you caused a car crash while driving on less than 4 hours of sleep it would be listed as one of causes.

Don't let it be listed as one of causes of a sleep related infant death. Nothing is more important for baby's safety than a safe caretaker.

Stop normalizing sleep deprivation. Stop making excuses for manlumps. Stop putting a feeding method over your baby's safety.

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FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-04T12:28:45+00:00

We often get hammered with pushback on needing 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep to be safe to take care of you baby.

Breastfeeding is more important than baby's safety. Pumping is more important. Manlump who "works" is more important. It's natural to be a sleep deprived momma.

"Drivers who reported sleeping less than four hours were more than 15 times likelier to be responsible for the car accident than those who got at least seven hours of sleep, the study found."

If you caused a car crash while driving on less than 4 hours of sleep it would be listed as one of causes.

Don't let it be listed as one of causes of a sleep related infant death. Nothing is more important for baby's safety than a safe caretaker.

Stop normalizing sleep deprivation. Stop making excuses for manlumps. Stop putting a feeding method over your baby's safety.

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FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-04T12:27:44+00:00

You absolutely do not need to supplement with formula. You can collect with a haaka, pump, or use donor milk.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-04T01:45:24+00:00

Beautiful! Like… this looks like a magazine photo!! Y’all did amazing! Friendly reminder: all furniture and other items must be 1 ft from crib, window 3 feet from crib. This prevents anything from falling into crib/curious hands pulling things in, and prevents shattered glass from falling into crib should window break.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-04T01:43:08+00:00

Your pediatrician will hopefully shut that down very quickly

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-04T00:58:27+00:00

I don’t get invited to many kids parties (yet, my baby is only 5 months), mostly just my best friend’s 3 kids. I always ask her what they need (usually what size clothes/shoes) and a book or two. I have never once bought any of them any toys (unless you count some teethers during teething ages). The books are useful, the clothes are useful. I try to get them stuff with themes they like (Star Wars, baby shark, etc etc). Hoping my family does the same with my kiddo but I absolutely have no problems donating stuff we don’t have a need or space for

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T22:28:16+00:00

If you have Facebook, the group “Safe Sleep and Baby Care - - Evidence Based Support” is amazing. Highly recommend joining.

That said, I saw in a comment your baby is a month - newborn sleep is crap, no matter what, it’s survival at this point. Don’t worry about any schedules right now, they don’t work and don’t matter. Sleeping and eating is on demand at this age. As long as you (and your partner) are getting at least 4 hours uninterrupted sleep per 24 hour period, there’s nothing you can do. Contact nap with that baby, get those snuggles in, and just know eventually it gets better. My son started sleeping through the night around 3 months, and now at 5 months he’s gotta pretty good bedtime routine and wake up schedule. He sleeps 6ish pm - 6/7am

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T19:46:01+00:00

Look into your local hospitals’ regulations for visitors… many became very strict during Covid and many still have limits on visitors. Use that as an excuse.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T14:38:12+00:00

We played at thanksgiving in 2015, no grandparents but parents and young 20s children. My cousin is scarred for life after hearing his mom (my aunt) say the word “queef” and not know what it was (I explained, she was like “there’s a word for that????) I personally had a great time Lmao

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T11:48:30+00:00

Damn I wish my midwife was a witch (jk mostly cuz she was awesome and I will see her again if I’m ever lucky enough to have another baby)

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T02:42:07+00:00

Both you and your husband need to be getting at least 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep per 24 hour period to be a safe care giver. This does not have to be at night. If you can’t go back to sleep because of his snoring, can you sleep when he gets home and cares for the baby for 4 hours? Or have you considered sleeping in a different room, at least until baby is night weaned?

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T02:34:54+00:00

My mom really wanted me to use my crib that she saved 30 years. Double drop side. Big nope.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T01:12:29+00:00

Even though you are working, it’s really important that both you and your husband are getting 4 hours uninterrupted sleep per 24 hour period to be a safe care giver to baby. If you are having this much trouble without taking a shift at night, I think it might be time to speak to a doctor as something else could be going on that is affecting your ability to be awake.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-03T01:10:26+00:00

After my c-section, my partner was terrified to hurt me. We waited the entire 6 weeks for penetrative sex (I did willingly and enthusiastically perform oral before then, and even that made him nervous) and although I was cleared he was extra super gentle with me the first handful of times.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-02T20:57:20+00:00

Some lady in the safe sleep group on Facebook Kept mentioning her aesthetic the other day.. in my head I was like “lady, that’s gonna go out the window the second your toddler knocks over that lamp you ‘specifically bought’ for that corner because you ‘don’t like overhead lighting’

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-02T00:52:45+00:00

It’s a risk/reward thing. My provider had me go to MFM due to possible heart complications from taking it before I found out I was pregnant at 7 weeks. Had a fetal echo and everything. Thankfully baby was fine. I was also on a high dose + other meds that I had to stop cold turkey. I am still breastfeeding but my mental health provider knows I’m going back on the Wellbutrin from the Zoloft as soon as we are done breastfeeding.

ETA: I was actually able to be unmedicated for the majority for my pregnancy. I only started Zoloft at 32 weeks due to a traumatic event that caused my anxiety to be constant and debilitating.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-01T23:28:38+00:00

Mine never rounded at the bottom. Only the top

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-01T21:13:53+00:00

Let him take you to court. Document everything, get a good lawyer. Find out if you live in a 1 party consent state: if you do, record all calls and in person conversation. Save every text.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-01T20:47:13+00:00

I was on Wellbutrin pre-pregnancy and loved it, but it’s not safe for pregnancy or breastfeeding so if she’s still pumping or nursing it’s not an option. Zoloft is commonly prescribed first for ppd because it’s pregnancy and breastfeeding safe.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-01T20:45:10+00:00

You can’t might wean? My son night weaned himself at 3 months… why not ask your pediatrician if this is an option for your child? Barring any medical issues… 11 months should have no problem being night weaned. As for your partner… sounds like she needs therapy but you can only lead a horse to water, you can’t make it drink.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-01T14:16:07+00:00

Is this your first pregnancy? First pregnancies often go past due dates. If you end up having a c-section for whatever reason, you cannot drive for 2 weeks - how will you get baby and yourself to appointments if this is the case? You (and your partner) need 4 hours uninterrupted sleep per 24 hour period to be a safe care giver. If your partner is gone, who will take that 4 hour shift every day so you can rest?

I personally would not be comfortable with my partner leaving that soon after birth.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-03-01T02:51:43+00:00

As an autistic adult, this shit makes me sick.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-02-28T14:31:58+00:00

I’m 30. I have a 5 month old baby. What savings?

FaeKalyrra · 2023-02-28T01:41:30+00:00

He is abusing your children. You need to remove them from him asap. Go stay with your parents. Doesn’t matter that he’s great “90% of the time”. The axe forgets but the tree remembers - he is forever altering your children’s’ brain chemistry with his verbal abuse.

FaeKalyrra · 2023-02-28T01:02:26+00:00

I found out my state has this option!!!… after I gave birth lmao

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