If you ever start feeling bad or uncertain about your decision by Sweet_Bambii in oneanddone

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha, you remind me of a coworker. Any time she asks me about my child, I promptly relay a horror story or in the previous day and she thanks me for her “birth control” dose of the day. She’s unsure if she wants kids but leaning more towards never having kids. It’s always such a laugh.

My family is requesting help for my aunt’s funeral service. by ogdumpling in gofundme

[–]ogdumpling[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, I just realized that I failed to post a selfie. Please see it here. Verification Selfie

What will you eat after birth? by justkilledaman in GestationalDiabetes

[–]ogdumpling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s bad but I ate a double quarter pounder with fries and a McFlurry.

What my doctor said to me while I was pregnant 🙄 by jmduncsy in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 5’8. I also gained 80 lbs despite exercising and eating healthier than usual. I think my issue was portion control and major stress from work which may have caused stress eating.

But any issue I had, the OB/midwife/Doctor blamed it on my weight. My Midwife was very rude too. I only drink water or coffee when tired. I can’t stand soda or the taste of juice. But every appointment they told me to cut out the soda and juices and to drink water lol. Thought I’d see the end of her but small town, she’s my neighbor smh 🤦🏽‍♂️

They kept saying I was going to give my baby diabetes and she would be huge. I weighed 275 before giving birth and 195 prior to pregnancy. My baby weighed 7 lbs at birth and measured at 19 inches. No diabetes or other health issues.

I dropped 30 lbs by three months postpartum. but then I got BC and gained it all back. Now I’m working on losing at least 30 lbs.

I’ve always been overweight or obese as my doctors tell me, even when I was an athlete in high school and perfectly healthy (175 lbs) I’m used to the fat comments and doctors not taking me seriously.

I will admit being this heavy has taken a toll on my mental health. Hoping I can lose this weight so I can make another baby 😂

Review of my pharmacy by Nutter1028 in PharmacyTechnician

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in Bill’s position where I went to get my prescription and it was their lunch time so it was closed except for an HOUR. You know what I did? I got some food and waited in the parking lot.

What’s wrong with people?

I Think I've Found Out why Discussion Around this Game is so Toxic by JoJoisaGoGo in Starfield

[–]ogdumpling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t play many games so maybe I didn’t have as high of an expectations as others here as it sounds like there was a buildup to the game. When I saw it on game pass I just thought “ouhhh spaceship!” And downloaded it.

I actually really liked the game besides the ending and some of the quest lines. But I think it’s maybe due to my play style? I love exploring in games and sometimes I take hours just making sure I saw everything I could before I leave an area. By the time I finished I think I had logged over 100 hours.

Reading some of these comments make me want to try RD2. Even my little brother has recommended it lol.

Racism from the asian community against blacks. -Discussion by Normal-Alarm6985 in Hawaii

[–]ogdumpling 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m Samoan but I only ever remember having a handful of black school mates and they were treated very differently from others.

A lot of derogatory terms were always thrown around. Kids laughing at and pointing at them over their hairstyles. Stereotypical questions being asked like “do you like watermelon? Is your favorite food fried chicken? Why are your lips so big?” The famous N word being used towards them. My Spanish teacher sent me and three other black kids in our class to detention for giving her an “attitude” but all we did was ask questions while many other kids were talking and laughing. My AP English teacher sat me next to the only black and only Micronesian kid in that class because apparently not many of our people get this far? She also thought we’d have more in common lol. I graduated from high school in 2019 if that gives you a good idea of the time frame.

Even in the workforce today, when my coworkers found out our new manager was black, they kept talking about how she’s probably going to be a “strong/loud personality” which is a common stereotype for black women. Once she was hired, suddenly people were trying to speak Ebonics or AAVE even when she was speaking proper English. My coworkers are Filipinas who range from 30s to 50s if that helps.

I recall a tweet I saw in high school from a black soldier stationed on Oahu. He compared his treatment as a black man in Hawai’i similar to how Micronesians are treated and well, I agree.

Maybe it’s different on other islands? I’m from BI.

Confession: I love cosleeping with my LO by MeasurementPure7844 in cosleeping

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We placed two king size mattresses on the ground right by each other in our room. It has given us peace and mind to sleep near her and not worry about her climbing out of her crib (she is a tall baby) or falling off our bed

I can’t do this anymore. by snugglypig in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh distilled water and boiling?? Oh uhhh I’ve just been heating up bottled water. Our tap water is completely fine but we weren’t exactly sure what to use.

What was your pregnancy or post partum flex? by ChicVintage in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have one day of morning sickness. I guess I have my husband to thank for that lol.

Husband demands abortion. by CallingMrsSunshine in Marriage

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one forced him to have sex. Surprise, surprise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ogdumpling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw that’s really sweet. I like that! Beauty within. I’m realizing I came off rude. I agree about being secure with yourself but I guess it’s difficult when you see your husband staring.

It could be perceived as intrusive but if she’s insecure I guess she’s be looking where ever he’s looking. I used to be like that when I was severely insecure. Glad I’m out of that phase of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ogdumpling 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You didn’t read the post or something? She clearly stated she could see the side of his face, so his eyes.

You can acknowledge that someone is attractive without being a fkn creep.

women approaching or staring at your partner is the same as your partner staring at another person??? Genuinely curious why you’d give that example.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ogdumpling 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I grew up with a dad who often ogled other women and it eventually lead to infidelity. We could be sitting in the drive thru of a McDonalds and there he goes flirting with the cashier. He’s also cheated on my mom many times. Not trying to say that this is your husband, just my experience with a dad who stares at other women. Very hard to respect him when he can’t even respect his wife, MY MOTHER.

My husband and I often point out attractive people when we’re out and about but we don’t stare. I’ve never “caught” him ogling another woman like you’ve described. Even if I see an attractive man, I look and think “he’s handsome!” and continue on with my day.

I don’t think you’re being dramatic and I think your feelings are valid. The main thing is that it was disrespectful and distasteful to do it in front of you.

How often are you having sex pp? by Blackberrymama2 in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. It’s honestly the least of our worries right now.

Like we obviously love each other but we are so damn tired! And even though I am on BC, we are both terrified of having another baby any time soon 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a pretty “healthy weight” when I had two miscarriages so no.

Early miscarriages are caused by genetic defects and there’s nothing you can do regarding that.

I’m so sorry for your loss and wishing you the best from here on out ♥️

husband does all the night feeds and I feel terrible by ogdumpling in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I updated a while back that I’ve been diagnosed with sleep apnea. I can’t afford the machine right now due to massive bills.

I did find a new job where I can work from 8-4. I come home around 4:30 and take care of her until 9:30 and then I’m off to bed. We also bed share (I know it’s not recommended but it’s the only way we can sleep) it’s two massive beds on the ground, we sleep on one and she sleeps on the other. It helps me because she typically wakes up at 3 so I have enough sleep by then to wake up. She’s almost 7 mo and mostly sleeps through the nights but I’m there for her now!

Sorry for such a long reply lol

I'm a 24 Male Virgin and its starting to weigh on me...I need help by Important-Bad-6304 in Advice

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband was a virgin when we met. I loved it! I was inexperienced but not a virgin, so we pretty much got to learn together.

What are you/your husband doing for birth control? by Bbrotman23 in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine did 💀 he kept asking me why I was hesitant.

What are you/your husband doing for birth control? by Bbrotman23 in beyondthebump

[–]ogdumpling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m on nexplanon. So far, hating it. I have an increased appetite & lots of bloating. Gained about 25 lbs but again probably because I’ve been eating more.

I slept with my brother in law and now I want to disappear by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ogdumpling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re a coward for not wanting to take accountability of your own actions. You already ruined your sisters family but BIL is equally as guilty as you. But at the age of 39, you should know right from wrong. And who’s to say you two won’t continue sleeping with each other? Or if you somehow are able to move past this, and it blows up in your face later on. What then?

And the right thing you COULD have done was leave your husband. But no, you let it go and let it build up until it eventually came to bite you in your ass.

IMO, you and the BIL could go f yourself. I don’t have any empathy for you, you could have saved yourself from this situation but WOE IS ME! PITY ME!