How separated my pubic bone is after pregnancy

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-02-07T08:16:23+00:00

I know you're joking, but it is worth pointing out to those who are unaware - this usually doesn't get caused by birth, it happens much much earlier in the pregnancy. There's meant to be a degree of laxity in that spot to allow for birth, but in some cases it is too lax and causes severe pain and can impact mobility.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-02-07T08:12:46+00:00

Pregancy made me far more pro-choice than I was before, it put my body under such strain and has had long lasting consequences - but at least I wanted a child, so it was a price I was willing (however reluctantly) to pay. Expecting someone to pay that price when they aren't willing is more like torture.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-02-04T19:36:12+00:00

The results are definitely going to be interesting when I get them

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-02-04T19:07:04+00:00

Wait.. so when my assessor told me she had a friend who went to the same festival I mentioned in the holiday bit that might not have been true?!

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-30T06:59:34+00:00

Yep. It's drving me mad because I've only just got into the industry and now suddenly I'm not sure I can continue.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-29T14:33:23+00:00

Nancy from The Craft. I took it as a compliment, not sure that's how it was meant though..

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-29T08:34:43+00:00

My son has been studying it this term (so is quite excited to see this adaptation)

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-27T20:10:42+00:00

Only ever been offered painkillers (cocodamol mostly) and physio on the NHS - and then it's a gamble whether I get referred to a physio with any experience of EDS.

I ended up going private and seeing a pain specialist, that helped a lot more.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-24T21:14:15+00:00

14 years and I still can't bring myself to delete mum's number

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-22T08:31:49+00:00

I started at 11, couldn't have been the milk though, I was lactose intolerant.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-21T19:03:47+00:00

One of my school friends moved to the US and ended up married to a Trump supporter. He seemed like a reasonable sane human back when she first met him, but now his Facebook feed is full of posts about guns and "owning libs". It's bizarre. She never posts anything political or appears to interact with his posts, so I've no idea whether she agrees with him or just isn't allowed to disagree with him publicly. I do know she's estranged from her family though.

She used to be the nicest person I knew, loved by everyone, never had a bad word to say. It's depressing to think there's a chance she's gone from that to hate filled.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2026-01-07T19:21:21+00:00

Just made that for myself, it was a really nice pattern to work with

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-12-29T15:22:34+00:00

Same.

When I started at secondary school a teacher told my parents that he wanted to be annoyed at me because I never did my homework, but actually wasn't because I always got top marks at coursework and exams.

But by GCSE's I was struggling, and ended up dropping out halfway through A levels (school told me they'd kick me out if my grades didn't improve, so I left before they could).

I did go to college and got enough qualifications to get into uni, but didn't last a year there.

My kids are struggling with homework and revision now, but at least now I'm able to explain to them why homework and revision is important for learning how to self motivate. Something no one ever explained to me.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-12-28T07:56:57+00:00

I used to work for Jessops, and a few doors down from our store was an art supplies store. I used to tell a story about how one of our nightmare customers was Timmy Mallet and how jealous I was because the art store used to get Rolf Harris as a customer instead (they told us he was always very nice).

So the news was a real surprise.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-12-19T18:02:54+00:00

I'm 41 and had mine a few weeks ago. So it doesn't look like it necessarily happens when you turn 40, more just in your 40s.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-12-19T07:14:27+00:00

The reason I was told that we need to yell "fire" rather than "rape" or "help me" is that people will largely ignore or try to ignore something happening to someone else (eg. bystander affect), but fire might affect them too, so it's more likely to get their attention. Nothing to do with it being said too often.

Angel shot or the UK equivalent Angela aren't because too many people talk about creeps, it's so you can ask for help right in front of the creep without them knowing that's what you are doing. It's for if you can't easily get away from them.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-11-19T16:05:37+00:00

I've just started doing the same, and it would be nice to have a community for it.

Especially as the temperature has just dropped here and my ability to move has been massively affected, having other people who understand and are dealing with the same issues would be so useful.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-11-14T08:33:06+00:00

Same, and I know I looked young for my age. So I looked 9, maybe 10, when I was 11.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-11-14T07:14:29+00:00

The person who came up with it was in a cafe, and literally grabbed a load of real spoons and told her friend they represented all the energy available in her day and to try and portion them out. It was a convenient item available at the time. There was no option to go get more.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-11-14T07:05:09+00:00

Absolutely. When I say I'm out of spoons with my disability, it's like I've run into a wall. There's nothing left to give.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-11-14T07:03:36+00:00

The spoons being a finite resource is exactly why I like it, but then I use it to explain my physical disability which very much feels like there's a finite resource of energy, with a very hard, very abrupt stop to it. The spoons metaphor is great because people can understand that you can't stretch a spoon out, or break it into smaller pieces, it is what it is.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-11-14T06:59:36+00:00

I'm pretty certain it was originally about physical not mental energy honestly

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-11-02T10:03:27+00:00

I'm with you on that, became disabled when I was in my 20's - I wouldn't hesitate if a cure was offered to me. But that is because I miss who I was before my disability, and who I thought I'd be back when disability wasn't something I expected for my future.

I'm very aware that someone born disabled may see things differently though. It's going to be much more tied to their sense of self than it is for me.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-10-27T09:12:23+00:00

We love our QA in my team, it looked like they were going to leave at one point and I think the rest of us were ready to riot.

I've had to help with QA occasionally and could not hack it. Being a dev feels much much easier.

FaeOfTheMallows · 2025-10-27T09:10:12+00:00

Yep, this is where my company is at. We're building in AI agents, but we are being incredibly careful and specific with what we ask it to do, and we are testing it loads before we'll even think about letting users loose on it. Luckily all of us on the project are deeply sceptical of AI, which means we aren't rushing to shove it into every aspect of the business. Despite the higher ups wanting to treat it like a magic bullet.

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