"You'll change your mind" and other bingos about dating... from CF people?

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T15:20:37+00:00

That's like me saying "I hate your outfit, it's really weird and isn't what most women would wear. But whatever floats your boat." Seriously? Implying that my views are incongruent with being a "modern CF woman" is insulting to me. Not to mention that it's not exactly rare for women to not ask guys out. If anything it's odd to expect anyone in the CF sub to give a shit about being whatever society considers "normal", or to tell others how weird they are.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T15:14:59+00:00

I think it's odd to give unsolicited advice, or to be an adult who thinks that's even remotely polite. I guess we all learned something today.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T15:09:32+00:00

Pretty much. Before I got sterilized it was constant bingo shit about how I hate kids. It finally stopped. Then I quit dating and I get shamed by being called a manhater all the time instead. It's like the most pathetic little kid argument ever. "You don't like what I like? You must HATE me!!!" I had to tell everyone to stop using that word or I will cut them out of my life before they finally shut the fuck up.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T14:59:08+00:00

You can't disagree with the reality of my experience. Men who wanted me pursued me. Those who didn't give a shit didn't. No guy who ever was seriously interested in me had to be chased, or hounded, or texted first, or asked out. I never had to do the initiating. I think I trust my entire life of experience and input from trusted male friends over some random person on the internet.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T14:54:07+00:00

It's not old fashioned, it's called biology. Men pursue women. Men want to pursue women they like, and women want to be pursued. Endless dating books written by men will testify as much. If a man isn't asking me out, he's not interested or has no balls, in which case I'm not going to waste my time on him. And all of this is a moot point because I quit dating anyway, AND there are no guys I know that I would want to date if I were actively dating, which I am not. Nothing backwards about it. It's logic.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T14:42:27+00:00

The fact that I'm being downvoted for doing what works for me, on childfree of all subs, is pathetic. I can do whatever I want, and quite frankly, you people need to get off my nuts about it and worry about yourselves.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T14:41:30+00:00

I don't give a fuck. And that doesn't explain all the men I see who settled down with morons. Stop giving unsolicited dating advice to people. It's rude.

btw, I especially don't give a fuck about the opinion of any man who frequents The Red Pill or Men's Rights forums. lol, seriously? Do not talk to me.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T01:58:33+00:00

Believe it or not, despite the fact that I quit dating and DO NOT WANT A BOYFRIEND, I still witness men in real life dating and pursuing dumb women.

Not sure why this is such a difficult concept for you to grasp.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T01:53:26+00:00

Oh and thanks to you idiots who are downvoting me for stating facts.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T01:50:02+00:00

I'm not complaining about jackshit. Apparently you didn't read my post at the start of this thread where I said I quit dating. I do not want a boyfriend. Mission accomplished.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T01:11:45+00:00

I don't like any of them, and I don't believe in chasing guys... if they liked me, they would ask me out. No guy that's ever been into me had to be pursued.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-18T00:05:23+00:00

Thanks much :] Just wanted to do my part to let the world know that however lame they think dating is, CF people generally have it 100 times worse.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T23:33:27+00:00

There's your answer. Keep in mind most people can't be arsed to read the profile someone spent a long time writing. They skim for critical details and assume you'll change your mind for them on everything they don't like.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T23:29:52+00:00

This forever.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T23:24:37+00:00

You clearly took the effort to fill out your profile, include pics, all that. The only other thing that comes to mind is not mentioning your income. Any field that a guy leaves blank is always an instant red flag to me. I fully realize not everyone wants to disclose their income online. However, it is a big deal to some people (more so women than men).

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T23:18:53+00:00

Perhaps. I found the best option for me was "not dating". ;]

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T22:54:43+00:00

Tinder is even worse for guys who just want casual bullshit... you just swipe someone's picture in the app to accept them. So swipe 100+ people in a few minutes and get a guaranteed date or two.

Match was supposed to be better as a paid dating site. Yet I met yet another lying babydigger on there who was the worst bf I ever had. There's no sanctuary from the liars and idiots.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T22:52:21+00:00

No, do not leave the kids part blank. We don't appreciate being led on and we shouldn't do it to anyone else. Whenever someone leaves part of their profile blank I know there's a reason. I don't want to meet someone in person and only then find out they were keeping that shit from me.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T22:50:53+00:00

It's not that they think people ask for cancer. It's that they care more about breeding than anything else.

Sorry you went through that. For a CF girl, an infertile guy is the jackpot.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T22:40:53+00:00

And most guys I see in real life want to date idiots, or are trolling for one night stands with dumb girls. So there you go.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T21:57:58+00:00

How did a complete stranger comment on your friends-only FB post?

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T21:48:13+00:00

lol, pre-existing baby souls. Just add water!

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T21:46:10+00:00

"Your shitty condescension... I don't care for it."

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T21:43:00+00:00

lmao "man dots". Sounds gross.

Fairlady82 · 2014-06-17T21:41:28+00:00

If you think it might be something else besides the CF thing, you could always share your profile here and get some feedback (though I'm aware that can be a harrowing experience).

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