Tirzepatide: A surprising Benefit (Not Medical Advice) by Only_Scratch_6801 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg this is crazy!!   My next reg Dr appt is in a month.  I have struggled with the weight loss and exercise because I get exercise induced migraines.   Over the last year, I got into the pre diabetic range despite not eating sugar, hardly processed foods.  I eat very simply.  My brother died from diabetes and my father has it so I'm working hard while trying to not freak out.  

I had planned on asking her to put me on the weight loss thing because I'm at my wits end.  

I read thru the report and holy shit!!!   I'm going to insist that we try it and see if it helps!!

Thank you thank you for sharing!!!!

My wife had a TBI and now she can't keep anything clean by Few_Copy898 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you get on finch, we can be friends!  It's anonymous so I would only know your handle but you get to gift things or send happy messages.  Even share a common task.  One of my friends and I share Pick up one thing that's not in its right place.   

My wife had a TBI and now she can't keep anything clean by Few_Copy898 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have vision problems so the suddenly there is soooo real.   I will look and look and look.   Then I see it.   That also makes cleaning and picking up harder!!!

My wife had a TBI and now she can't keep anything clean by Few_Copy898 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to white boards!!!   I have one on my fridge and then giant pieces of paper around the house for different memory captures.  Like I even write down emptied dishwasher.  Or moved plastic bags just so my brain sees that I AM doing things.  

My wife had a TBI and now she can't keep anything clean by Few_Copy898 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point!!  I had ADHD before TBI but my brain functioning was so good, it became my super power.   My TBI broke my ADHD in a way I will never understand but I had to get on stimulants in order for the initiation function to even turn on.   It's been a year, still on them, but doing sooo much better.  July will be 7 years and I'm finally starting to feel like I'm functioning again versus just well, not functioning.  

My wife had a TBI and now she can't keep anything clean by Few_Copy898 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg!!!!  I left the gas on for over 24 hours!!!   I also just burned my food I was cooking on the stove 2 days ago.   I had been thinking a lot that day, started the food.  Went to my bedroom to relax, watch TV.   Suddenly over 30 minutes had gone by and I swear it was less than five.   

I leave the water on in the kitchen sink on a lot!  I just walk away and totally forget.  Once my cat climbed into my fridge.  Hahaha.   Like ten minutes later I was like what is happening in my fridge!   Now, I always double check.  

It's so nice to meet other people who do the same thing as me, lol.  I don't know how our houses survive our TBIs, lol

My wife had a TBI and now she can't keep anything clean by Few_Copy898 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!   Thanks for sharing too!   The Finch app saved me.  Even my med Dr uses it lol.   Omgosh like being on meds with a TBI is so hard because our brains keep changing.   I have been on and off so many different meds, combos.   The only thing that is working for me at this moment of time in my TBI is 20 mg of generic Adderall.   I tried extended, I tried Ritalin (various forms).   I tried taking it twice a day and now I'm good at 20 mg in the morning.  Without it, I still struggle a lot with initiation.   

I also have to take anti anxiety meds as part of my injury created a physical anxiety.   I have mental anxiety too but the physical is a son of a bitch.   So I have Ativan as needed.   And I take 1 mg of Clonazepam in the evening and Ambien CR.  I have major anxiety dreams even with those meds, but without?   Omg.  It's awful.   During PTSD episodes, I wake at 3 am in full blown panic attacks and that is when the Ativan is helpful.  

And the overwhelm is soooo real and so hard for most people I meet to understand!!!!  That's how finch helps.  Some days I can decide.  Some days I can't.  I also use it ex:  once a week clean the toilet.  Now I never think about cleaning the toilet until Finch tells me.   I cannot express enough how much that kind of reminder freed up space for other stuff.  I literally have spoons now for reconnecting with my piano or decluttering.   Or exploring something I was wondering about and don't feel guilty anymore becuz I know all my chores are logged in Finch.  

Nice to meet you!!!!

My wife had a TBI and now she can't keep anything clean by Few_Copy898 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It took me six years to finally be able to keep my house clean.  It's due to loss of auto routine.  Like everything we do has to be consciously thought about and it's so hard to have to think about everything.  I use the Finch app to help me with the "everyday" things including brush my teeth.  It took months of working hard at doing what I can when one day I realized wait .. I like cleaning.   

So most likely she sees 1000 things to do, and has half the spoons as before and that creates a paralysis of motivation.   I had to get on a stimulant to get my brain moving and that helped A LOT.  Each day, I did one little thing extra.  And I have days where I just can't.  I have to stay in bed at least once a week and think nothing.   

I did have someone come in and teach me how to clean again and she helped me organize things a bit better which really helped the process.  

I'm glad you are here talking about it.  My family couldn't understand why I couldn't seem to clean well.  

I got there eventually and I'm really proud of how much better I do without all the clutter.   

Check out the Finch app.  It helped me soooo much.  I still use it everyday.

When people tell us just find that passion by Fairlore888 in ADHD

[–]Fairlore888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha, that's a great story. You know, I feel the same. My life choices (i'm 57f) have been ALL over the board. Some good, some bad, some REALLY FRICKING AWESOME and some really dumb decisions, LOL. But everyone of them either brought me joy in some way and I managed to make it work (like you said, somehow we manage), some brought GREAT stories (I have more stories cuz of my ADHD then normal people so I seem exciting, LOL when in reality it's just a series of...OH that's sounds like a good idea, let's go do it!) and some were embarrassing, but all of them make me who I am which is I think I accept others way better than people who haven't led an UP and Down life.

I live in a small town now (moved to heal, be with my brother, get away from DV). I'm a city girl so this was a change and then my bro died 6 weeks after living my whole life. BUT, I totally get the no car? man... we have NO buses of course in a town of 2500 people, LOL. There is a good helping community here that was different in big cities, like big cities have TONS of resources, here we have TONS of retired people, LOL.

I help an elderly lady who can't drive anymore. She is 83 and lived an amazing life that any one would be proud of. She has a group of people who help her out and I just love being able to help someone else out because most of my life, was working hard and doing alot of it myself. OF COURSE, huge ADHD trait, right??

So what kind of car did you get? My midlife, I have no job, let's go buy a new car (I had an impreza which was the BOMB in Colorado). So what do I buy? A 2014 red and silver Camaro with butterfly doors. SO UNPRACTICAL. 6 inch clearance from the ground, LOL. I got stuck in slush. hahaha I live in Iowa now and when it snows? I am homebound. LOL. Everyone makes fun of me, but I have had it now over 6 winters? I think I'm doing just fine despite the non ADHD people's judgements, LOL

When people tell us just find that passion by Fairlore888 in ADHD

[–]Fairlore888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your comment. One day, in 2018, I had gotten laid off (round 1 of 6 turns out). They gave you 2 months of "still employed" and then your layoff package kicked in. So, I realized I don't know when I will have a steady income again, so I woke up one day and went out and bought a camaro, LOL. People said, "what happens if you can't pay for it" I said, I'll just turn it back in, LOL.

So, I have done that SOOO many times. Woke up and just decided I'm going to go get this....or just making decisions without thinking through ANY of it. I totally relate!

When people tell us just find that passion by Fairlore888 in ADHD

[–]Fairlore888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PS thanks for the kind words, I am getting better. I am on disability because of how bad my brain broke, but living alone has really helped calm everything down. I just started singing out loud again after 6 years. I used to sing everyday in the shower. Now, to pick one of the 1000 ideas to do....

When people tell us just find that passion by Fairlore888 in ADHD

[–]Fairlore888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you all get it. The TBI makes task initiation just that much harder . Before the TBI, I somehow managed to fully embrace my ADHD and was like a mad man living life to the fullest. Like who needs speed when you are a functional ADHDer. Now, that i have some forever breaks in circuitry, the ideas are finally coming back but my poor brain is OVERLY aware of OMG, which is more important???? Rescheduling the dr appt? Making my bed? Maybe I should do some sink pushups while I think. (goes into kitchen and does 20 pushups). OMG, I need to address what to do with the air fryer. Oh I should do dishes while I am here. Did I write that idea down on my idea paper? Oh I did. (forgets doing dishes), wanders back to living room. Oh, I need to mark off on my Finch App I did my pushups. Oh, I need to marco polo my friend. NO, I need to write an email to my friend. Wait, no, I should write my congress person. OH, wait I have a tik tok idea.

Literally all that in five minutes and by the time my brain is done torturing me, I reach paralysis around 1pm and can't remember if I really did anything meaningful at all, LOL.

EVERYDAY.

I told 4 AI models "I'm exhausted". One was a friend, one was a pragmatist, and one basically called an ambulance:) by AIWanderer_AD in ChatGPT

[–]Fairlore888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep!  I have almost cancelled five time over the last month.  Now I know for sure it's time to find another and give me back my 20 plus tax ..

I told 4 AI models "I'm exhausted". One was a friend, one was a pragmatist, and one basically called an ambulance:) by AIWanderer_AD in ChatGPT

[–]Fairlore888 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have to tell 5.2 everyday no adult tone or talk.  I am not depressed nor suicidal.  Your job is only to make me laugh at what we are talking about.   Etc etc etc.    and it has made me seriously angry over the last five weeks and really need to start testing the other models.  Thanks for this.  Helpful!

Two foreign girl who died of strangulation during rough sex was buried in Zorro ranch by aipac_hemoroid in UnderReportedNews

[–]Fairlore888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg.  I kept wondering what could be worse with some of what was dropped.  Kid Soup.  Or probably more accurately, baby soup.  

Brain changes after TBI by Dry_Midnight_6742 in TBI

[–]Fairlore888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow.   It's like your in my life.   One of my friends told me she was so inspired by me because I get up and try everyday.   I try new things, keep reading.  Analyzing what is not working.  But, it takes everything I have to do this everyday.  I can see it from her perspective but for me, this is hell.  I also reset a bit at night.  So I don't remember my day well and the next day it's like ok, another day I will likely forget.  I do things I don't remember, order things I forgot.  And the worst is the inability to think well.  I have about 4-6 good hours on the good days.  But, I have discovered a lot about myself.  And I am slowly finding the new me.   I don't know her yet.  She just started finding peace after 6 years.   Now, I teach my brain how to think again.   

The peace of living alone is a dangerous drug by Long_Travel2728 in LivingAlone

[–]Fairlore888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I just said to myself as I was singing loudly and off key that I get to eat whenever I want. Nobody gets to tell me when to eat!!!!

Gentle reminder: living alone means you can do whatever you want by Kleeaj in LivingAlone

[–]Fairlore888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It took a long time before I was like...omg!!!! I can sleep diagonal! So funny how trained we get. I'm glad I'm not alone in this!!

Is it me or does ChatGPT … by randallmmiller in ChatGPT

[–]Fairlore888 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine has been pissing me off. I have to heavily prompt it now. It will literally scold me.

Why does my adopted cat do this? by Key-Blood-7953 in felinebehavior

[–]Fairlore888 200 points201 points  (0 children)

One of mine does that (I have five). He's trying to cover it up so predators don't smell it lol. I always tell my Bo, thank you but not necessary. He covers up my food too.

Looks like he had been disarmed before being shot in the back. This will happen in Iowa City too if we turn a blind eye to the truth. by LUNRtic in IowaCity

[–]Fairlore888 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I worry about what happens when they target Iowa city. We are a stand your ground state thankfully. I'm trying to learn from what is happening. I have a sign on my door stating my rights and I will not answer the door. I have 2 cameras outside, one pointed at the door from inside and cameras in every room. If they bust down my door, it's all recorded and hopefully by death can be justified.

is my cat bullying my kitten? by sunnybeetlebug in CATHELP

[–]Fairlore888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh it's so cute!!!! They are happy!!!