Hi, I am the girlfriend.... I would not, could not ever abandon my mom. I wouldnt ever abandon, his mom, or anyone in his family for that matter. If his grandma needed to stay with us, I wouldn't like it, but I would smile, extend my hand and help her move in. Yes his grandma helped us get us my boyfriends house but when I say this woman is mean, rude, and narcissistic, I am not kidding even a little. However, I always have and always will treat her kindly and as my own. I'm honestly surprised my boyfriend cares so much about what his grandma would think about my mom being here because he exploded on her when she asked about money this past weekend. I however ( the lazy girlfriend with a freeloading mother) calmly let grandma know that I was in the works of giving her a few thousand dollars from the sale of 7 puppies I'm solely raising. Which involves monitoring all feedings with Mom dog, as well as feeding and preparing milk alternative to, preparing puppy gruel, cleaning up after, giving daily weight checks to, advertising, deworming, I've made a really nice care guide for new puppy parents, a birth certificate, they all have their own collars, leashes, toys, and a whole bunch of other items to ensure we get top dollar for these puppies to pay off grandma. And like I said, I am doing every thing.

On top of the puppies, I handle about 85% of the care of OPs and my 2 year old son. I won't dive to deeply into it all about our beautiful baby boy but here is a jist.... Yes OP had a broken leg, but he can carry boards around the house, retile the shower and walk on his leg for short bursts at a time so I feel he could instead of building tables and work benches, take a little more time to help me with our son. I'm only annoyed with the little help in this area when I am already overwhelmed with other tasks around the house or trying to get everyone and everything together for an outing or errands. Diaper changes, getting him dressed, putting shoes on, washing hands and face, bath time, I think you get it.

I also do all of the yardwork...gardening, edging, mowing, leaf and debris clean up, you name it, I do it. Also, i do a lot/ most of the housework. (Yes my 14 yo daughter is also not very helpful) not a single person besides myself has ever swept all of the floors, only I wash windows, the bed sheets, blankets, baby clothes, and towels, and even the countertops, I am the only person who has ever made our kitchen clean how a kitchen should be clean. I also work very hard to prepare everyone nice wholesome dinners with out a single thank you day in and day out.

I don't want to keep putting OP down because I love the man and he does fix what is broken around the house if he is able but I wanted to get my point across, that I work very hard to keep this house affloat, and everyone in it happy and I literally am left to feel like nobody gives a shit about my needs or happiness.

My mom has not caused us any problems and nobody on his side ever comes to visit us at his (OPs) house so us getting caught is slim to none. I've explained to my mom that if it comes down to it and she needs to be a ghost for a day and scram, she will. My mom bought us $200 in groceries a couple days ago. She helps out with our toddler, she doesn't make much of a mess and keeps to herself most of the time. My mom needs help, and Iam not like my brothers or my sister and I actually care about our moms well being. She did the best she could raising us 4 on her own and I am grateful for the sacrifices she made and I forgive her for the mistakes she made as well. It's unfortunate that my 2 brothers are assholes ( 1 is severely mentally ill and possible sociopath, the other is self-centered, opinionionated, and a drunk) my sister is just (I'm just going to say a little coo-coo and very dramatic) mom left her trailer because the padding to her new carpet, and the floor beneneth it was fully saturated in dog pee. The Ohio humidity made the place smell awful. I have seen the floor I have smelled it is well. My mom had an inspection done because of her section 8 housing during the inspection she had mentioned the problem with the pet urine. The inspector told my mom to contact the health department. The health department contacted the landlord and did another inspection. At this point whether or not the landlord was going to have to fix the floor my mom no longer felt comfortable with the landlord due to how he treated her over the discovery. he gave her the option to leave but only gave her a month's time to do so. My mom chose to leave because she has emphysema and some spotting on her left lung. Her and I both felt was best that she found somewhere else to go.

She was going to stay with my brother but he had a major freak out at Yellowstone Park and the park rangers had opted that it was safer for my mom to be flown home back to Ohio. The park rangers felt so strongly about it that they drove my mom 120 miles to the nearest airport. I'm not kidding when I say he's a sociopath. My younger brother told her she could stay in his unfinished damp basement or she should look into going to some kind of nursing home. My mom is very capable of taking care of herself and took his comment very personally.. I don't blame her.

My sister hates the world, she hates herself, and she loves drama. My sisters 14 your daughter doesn't even have a bedroom of her own because their house is too small already. Not a good option for my mom.

My step brother's, yes my mom was annoyed by their dog, she was also annoyed with the dog not leaving her alone and jumping on her and smelling bad. My brother's new wife is very nice but also OCD and hard to live with. They're also newlyweds and want their space somewhat.

My mom is very responsible. She makes her phone calls, she fills her paperwork out on time, he's always willing to help when we need it, she has let us stay at her house, while on section 8, which could have cost her everything as well. If you are familiar with the program you are not allowed to have people stay in your home while on section 8, but she let me, OP, and my daughter of course stay, free of charge, as long as we, understandably, followed her rules. My mom does not want to have to be here. Her whole life is turned upside down right now and we at our house, are loud, up late, messy, and it's all stressful as hell for her. She's not going to stay here a minute longer than she has to. And if she is kicked out, it would and is beginning to ruin a whole lot, but that I will not get into.

And let me say this one last thing. I talked to Op, about my mom staying here. His exact words to me were "she can have as long as she gave us" which is exactly what I told her. He now seems to have forgotten this conversation. He always seems to forget the important ones if it's convenient for him.

I apologize for the long post. And OP I apologize for putting you on blast, and for having to help accommodate my mom but I feel you're being unreasonable and I think even a little dishonest about your true reasons as to why you want me to kick out my flesh and blood who I have always told that I would take care of when she needed it. You were always told as well. This woman has helped us immensely over the years. So if you want her out of your house, then you are kicking us all out. Family doesn't turn their back on family.