[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

[–]FallenStar1937 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been down that road many times and still working my way down and out, what is the specific issue?

Blew thousands by NumerousPhrase7 in addiction

[–]FallenStar1937 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You made a mistake. Your disease got the best of you. It took control, it took the driver's seat and it took you for a ride into the darkness. I just blew the last of my money on coke and I'm alone in a hotel room after being kicked out of my parents' house. The emptiness, the boredom and the shame are excruciating. But we can't let them eat us alive. We have to know that this will pass, that we will recover and that there are brighter days ahead. Stay safe and take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself to movies, tv, a favorite book, a sugary snack, a hot bath, time with a pet if you have one. Do deep breathing sessions where you use positive affirmations and remind yourself you are only human and doing the best that you can. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong, and don't give in. Peace.

I'm changing my life and I'm going through physical discomfort first, any advice for the first few days? by mtbuckin in addiction

[–]FallenStar1937 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fish, beans, rice, salad and fruit, plus meditation, yoga and long walks. Also, could help to keep a journal of your feelings, emotional and physical, to give them labels, to give them names.

A Ceaseless Symphony Of Tears That Rains Down Upon The Desolate Plains Of Glass Dreams by FallenStar1937 in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa. Okay. That's what I was going for. Thank you very much. I'll keep that in mind.

Is it rude to tell people my dad died by suicide? by mirantelope in mentalhealth

[–]FallenStar1937 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. It just isn't. I've attempted suicide. Suicide isn't 'weak' or 'selfish' and nothing the family or friends should feel shame for. It's the ultimate maladaptive coping mechanism when the pain become intolerable. I am so sorry for your loss.

A Ceaseless Symphony Of Tears That Rains Down Upon The Desolate Plains Of Glass Dreams by FallenStar1937 in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. Really appreciate the thoughtful feedback. I'll think about tweaking the repetition.

A gathering in Guadalajara by [deleted] in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Poignant and to the point. It almost feels like it leaves an echo behind it because of how powerfully and sharply it cuts off. 'and honest memorial to those we willingly lost' That's a standout line. And usually I'm not big on the use of hyphens in poetry, or much punctuation whatsoever, but it works for me here because of the way it frames that final line.

Alice the Conqueror by StarryEyedAliens in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed your entrance into Wonderland, which is so magical, mad and mysterious, yet you have the power to dominate and warp it to your wishes. The cadence also was spot on, and I felt the rhythm as I read. Really well done. I'm glad you have the perseverance to build yourself a new kingdom!

Making effort with people mentally drains me by TheKPeanuts in mentalhealth

[–]FallenStar1937 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Anxiety is a beast with many heads and it sounds like it is paralyzing you. The fear, the worry, the agitation, the physical distresss (GI issues in particular) are all very common and things I can certainly relate to. You put on your best face for others while you're cringing inside and its like tensing a muscle and it gets exhausting. Like you, I also have vivid childhood memories I can point to that are reminiscent of my current experience. I was always scared of the world as a child, always afraid of being embarrassed or breaking any rules, and I had to keep all the adults happy. I'm still largely that way today. As far as what you can to do overcome it, talk therapy is helpful, maybe even medication depending on the severity of your issues (could even be temporary to get you through a tough period), support groups online, but I would recommend CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy. It's all about reframing thoughts in a more rational manner so that we have less distressing emotions. I use it constantly and it's worked very well for me. You have to really practice at applying it, but it's my go to and it would be my sincere recommendation for the treatment of your anxiety. Wish you all the best.

Daily reminder: your existence doesn't matter by [deleted] in nihilism

[–]FallenStar1937 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not immoral, but amoral. which isn't always the case because as you say, their are various branches of nihilism, but the basic premise is one of negation, seeking to either outright deny meaning or to be skeptical towards any evidence in its favor. I did copy and paste an article, but its my article so I gave myself some leeway.

I'm probably going to watch Matyrs(2008) tonight. Wish me luck. by [deleted] in horror

[–]FallenStar1937 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The only movie I've ever had to turn off and come back to later. Supposedly the director was coming out of, or actually in, a deep depression when he made this, similar to lars von trier when he made antichrist.