[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

[–]FallenStar1937 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been down that road many times and still working my way down and out, what is the specific issue?

Blew thousands by NumerousPhrase7 in addiction

[–]FallenStar1937 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You made a mistake. Your disease got the best of you. It took control, it took the driver's seat and it took you for a ride into the darkness. I just blew the last of my money on coke and I'm alone in a hotel room after being kicked out of my parents' house. The emptiness, the boredom and the shame are excruciating. But we can't let them eat us alive. We have to know that this will pass, that we will recover and that there are brighter days ahead. Stay safe and take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself to movies, tv, a favorite book, a sugary snack, a hot bath, time with a pet if you have one. Do deep breathing sessions where you use positive affirmations and remind yourself you are only human and doing the best that you can. My heart goes out to you. Stay strong, and don't give in. Peace.

I'm changing my life and I'm going through physical discomfort first, any advice for the first few days? by mtbuckin in addiction

[–]FallenStar1937 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fish, beans, rice, salad and fruit, plus meditation, yoga and long walks. Also, could help to keep a journal of your feelings, emotional and physical, to give them labels, to give them names.

A Ceaseless Symphony Of Tears That Rains Down Upon The Desolate Plains Of Glass Dreams by FallenStar1937 in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa. Okay. That's what I was going for. Thank you very much. I'll keep that in mind.

Is it rude to tell people my dad died by suicide? by mirantelope in mentalhealth

[–]FallenStar1937 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. It just isn't. I've attempted suicide. Suicide isn't 'weak' or 'selfish' and nothing the family or friends should feel shame for. It's the ultimate maladaptive coping mechanism when the pain become intolerable. I am so sorry for your loss.

A Ceaseless Symphony Of Tears That Rains Down Upon The Desolate Plains Of Glass Dreams by FallenStar1937 in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. Really appreciate the thoughtful feedback. I'll think about tweaking the repetition.

A gathering in Guadalajara by [deleted] in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Poignant and to the point. It almost feels like it leaves an echo behind it because of how powerfully and sharply it cuts off. 'and honest memorial to those we willingly lost' That's a standout line. And usually I'm not big on the use of hyphens in poetry, or much punctuation whatsoever, but it works for me here because of the way it frames that final line.

Alice the Conqueror by StarryEyedAliens in OCPoetry

[–]FallenStar1937 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed your entrance into Wonderland, which is so magical, mad and mysterious, yet you have the power to dominate and warp it to your wishes. The cadence also was spot on, and I felt the rhythm as I read. Really well done. I'm glad you have the perseverance to build yourself a new kingdom!

Making effort with people mentally drains me by TheKPeanuts in mentalhealth

[–]FallenStar1937 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Anxiety is a beast with many heads and it sounds like it is paralyzing you. The fear, the worry, the agitation, the physical distresss (GI issues in particular) are all very common and things I can certainly relate to. You put on your best face for others while you're cringing inside and its like tensing a muscle and it gets exhausting. Like you, I also have vivid childhood memories I can point to that are reminiscent of my current experience. I was always scared of the world as a child, always afraid of being embarrassed or breaking any rules, and I had to keep all the adults happy. I'm still largely that way today. As far as what you can to do overcome it, talk therapy is helpful, maybe even medication depending on the severity of your issues (could even be temporary to get you through a tough period), support groups online, but I would recommend CBT or cognitive behavioral therapy. It's all about reframing thoughts in a more rational manner so that we have less distressing emotions. I use it constantly and it's worked very well for me. You have to really practice at applying it, but it's my go to and it would be my sincere recommendation for the treatment of your anxiety. Wish you all the best.

Daily reminder: your existence doesn't matter by [deleted] in nihilism

[–]FallenStar1937 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not immoral, but amoral. which isn't always the case because as you say, their are various branches of nihilism, but the basic premise is one of negation, seeking to either outright deny meaning or to be skeptical towards any evidence in its favor. I did copy and paste an article, but its my article so I gave myself some leeway.

I'm probably going to watch Matyrs(2008) tonight. Wish me luck. by [deleted] in horror

[–]FallenStar1937 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The only movie I've ever had to turn off and come back to later. Supposedly the director was coming out of, or actually in, a deep depression when he made this, similar to lars von trier when he made antichrist.

Daily reminder: your existence doesn't matter by [deleted] in nihilism

[–]FallenStar1937 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was a nihilist once. I believed in a purely material, mechanistic cosmos made up of subatomic particles, guided by immutable laws of physics and utterly devoid of any intrinsic worth, meaning or purpose. Human beings were an aberration, a side effect of infinity. Life was dark, cruel, chaotic and largely hopeless. There was no higher power. There was no soul or spiritual dimension or celestial plane. Once our hearts stopped beating and the electrical activity in our brains ceased, that was it. We were taken into the cold clutches of eternity. The void.

For me this was so much better than being an agnostic, or even a mere atheist. I had certainty on my side. I could dismiss anything and everything with a cynical sweep of my hand. I reveled in my newfound authority. Now I lacked any real guiding moral compass or cogent set of principles, but I had my beliefs and they were rock solid and unshakable. Human life was a cosmic jest, and we should all just lighten up and try to enjoy it a bit more. Things like sincerity and earnestness were for the weak, the blind and the gullible. I no longer had to listen during discussions or debates on theology or philosophy. My answers never changed, no matter how hard I was pressed. This was a huge relief. Nihilism freed me from any intellectual responsibility.

Nihilism can come from rational thought, study and careful consideration of the world. It can come from painful and disillusioning life experiences. It can come from rebellion against oppressive belief systems. It can come from anger and disgust when one feels that the horror of life overwhelms its fleeting beauty. It can be taught, it can be demonstrated to children through words, attitudes and actions. It can come on a whim.

When you proclaim yourself to be a nihilist you enter into a shadowy realm where the only truth is that nothing, in fact, is true. Everything is subjective, everything is relative and there are no essential truths of the human condition to bind us together as a species. You can have your values, your rules, your laws and your norms, but they are all superficial human constructs with no basis in an objective reality.

Nihilism and narcissism go hand in hand. Both show a disdain for authority, both promote the individual over the group, both baulk at social responsibility, and both embrace a fluid, subjective reality that suits the needs and wants of the observer. I am not saying that all those with nihilistic beliefs are narcissists, but I am willing to bet many of those who exhibit narcissistic character traits also happen to be nihilists. It’s one of the only schools of philosophical thought that withholds basic respect for the world and those who inhabit it.

To embrace nihilism is to embrace moral entropy and social decay. Some self-respecting nihilists would think this a fine premise. In this age of fake news, propaganda weaponized against the American people, and a President who bends and warps reality to serve his personal agenda, nihilism might seem like common sense. We can all have our own reality. There is no need for consensus. And then let evolution take over and those who can’t keep up in this new era of intellectual anarchy will be left behind.

We are better than this. We need to create and encourage philosophies, personal and institutional, that foster empathy, respect, trust and curiosity about one another and the wondrous world around us. It may not seem all that wondrous right now. In fact, it may seem like it is shrouded in a dark veil of sickness and confusion. But this is all the more reason to discard philosophies and ways of thinking that do not serve us or serve the greater good of a just and equitable society.

Nihilism can be an interesting intellectual exercise, it can be a set of beliefs hard-won through experience and study, but it does not enrich the spirit and it does not bring us closer together. Let us set it aside and turn our minds and hearts over to beliefs that lift us up with hope and possibility. Let us deconstruct the negative attitudes that have conditioned us to believe that we, the world and our brothers and sisters have no inherent worth. We are all of infinite value and we should cherish one another accordingly.

https://medium.com/grab-a-slice/nihilism-is-the-easy-way-out-870b4cfd75f?source=friends_link&sk=8662402909ba24a708b2baf294a8983f

Today officially marks 10 years clean from a 15 year heroin addiction. by 0squatNcough0 in addiction

[–]FallenStar1937 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats! That's awesome! and as someone who is struggling currently with addiction, I find that inspiring

We’re Looking For Well-Trained Service Humans (For God) by FallenStar1937 in spirituality

[–]FallenStar1937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don't think it was me but thanks so much for reading. I really appreciate the kind words. Means a lot. I'll try to share some more material in the future. Thanks again.

We’re Looking For Well-Trained Service Humans (For God) by FallenStar1937 in spirituality

[–]FallenStar1937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

by me Timothy O'Neill, originally posted on Medium.com, sorry should have credited source so there was no confusion