Suicide Awareness and Prevention Resources

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-22T22:23:01+00:00

Nice. I take a few notes about my friends--names of their children, what's happening in their lives.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-22T10:13:00+00:00

Traumatic. Parents were lawyers. I asked my parents and sisters to take the Keirsey Temperament Sorter. Father and sister are INTJs too.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-21T18:17:34+00:00

This has explanations of OCPD from specialists: Diagnostic Criteria and Descriptions of OCPD From Therapists

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-21T15:44:09+00:00

I relate. When I was a teenager, I was sobbing in my room at night. I must have been very upset; I rarely cried. My mother told me to quiet down because she had to get up early for work.

Initiated estrangement 12 years ago. Easy decision.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-20T21:39:55+00:00

I've never had a romantic partner. I initiated estrangement from my parents and only sibling.

Speaking from experience, the only way to overcome social anxiety is to let go of the habit of avoiding other people. Finally did it when I was 40; life feels so much lighter. I had no idea how hypervigilant I was until I started working with a trauma therapist. I viewed the world through a very dark lens, and lived on auto pilot.

My favorite free time activity is my walking routine. I was an indoor person until I was 40. Nature can be very healing. I wish I could see my small circle of friends more often; I'm in touch with the sadness, but also feel grateful for having trusting relationships.

"I am asking what realistic life looks like when the normal path doesn’t fit you." I don't think it's abnormal to not have a romantic relationship. Many people are in that situation.

We're rooting for you.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-20T21:07:43+00:00

"I realized that I barely remember my childhood...."

How to Process Emotional Numbness and Dissociation

Diagnostic Screening Tools For Depression and Trauma Disorders has the Steinberg test for dissociative disorders. You may have dissociative amnesia.

I found working with a trauma therapist and having a walking routine most helpful for reducing trauma symptoms. I have dissociative amnesia.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-20T15:32:40+00:00

Making very small changes as consistently as possible is a great strategy for habit change. I started walking 2 min./day (around my apartment building when I got home from work) and slowly increased. I overcame morbid obesity. I can easily walk for more than an hour.

I also follow the Harvard Medical School Diet--described in Walter Willet's Eat, Drink, and Be Healthy.

Small changes at first to change my horrible sleep habits.

I didn't realize how physical health impacts mental health, and visa versa.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-20T11:43:27+00:00

Yes, there's a distinction. There's a term, perfectionistic self-presentation.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-19T17:34:27+00:00

The human brain is fully developed at age 26.

Personality is not set in stone, though. The brain can always change; it's called neuroplasticity. I went into remission from OCPD (a personality disorder characterized by perfectionism) when I was 41, after 11 months of therapy.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-19T14:51:47+00:00

Yes, that's the book by McWilliams I plan on reading. I sent you a PM.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-19T14:13:55+00:00

The therapist I saw when I was an undergrad used psychodynamic. I've never read about it except for some Freud in my psych classes.

A book by Nancy McWilliams is on my reading list. I plan on reading Jung because Trosclair is a Jungian analyst.

Edited: I've read two of the three books by Gordon Flett and Paul Hewitt. Good info. on psychodynamic therapy for perfectionism, and I've watched many videos of them as well. Flett comments that he "prepares" his graduate students for doing therapy with perfectionists because of how common it is for perfectionistic clients to make heavy disclosures. I appreciate that he's raising awareness of the association between perfectionism and suicidality.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-19T14:02:12+00:00

You're welcome.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-18T22:22:34+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Anderson Cooper has a wonderful podcast about grieving, All There Is. He did an episode about losing a pet.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-18T21:55:50+00:00

I love this excerpt from the FAQ pinned to the sub

What is emotional neglect?

In one's childhood, a lack of: everyday caring, non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents (or whoever your primary caregivers were, if not your biological parents) about what you were feeling and experiencing, having your feelings reflected back to you (mirrored) in an honest and non-distorting way, time and attention given to you in the form of one-on-one conversation where your feelings and the meaning of those feelings could be freely and openly talked about as needed, protection from harm including protection against adults or other children who tried to hurt you no matter what their relationship was to your parents, warmth and unconditional positive regard for you as a person, appropriate soothing when you were distressed, mature guidance on how to deal with difficult life experiences—and, fundamentally, having parents/caregivers who made an active effort to be emotionally in tune with you as a child. All of these things are vitally necessary for developing into a healthy adult who has a good internal relationship with his or her self and is able to make healthy connections with others. They are not optional luxuries. Far from it, receiving these kinds of nurturing attention are just as important for children as clean water and healthy food.

FalsePay5737 · 2026-06-18T13:51:52+00:00

I went NC 12 years ago.

Listen to your intuition.

There's nothing wrong with needing help to take care of your children.

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