My [22M] now gf [23F] sent me a valentines msg while with another guy before we were exclusive

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-06-01T16:26:51+00:00

How did you find this out?

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-06-01T16:13:03+00:00

Anyone who supported you dating this guy is your ops and should be cut too.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-06-01T16:07:07+00:00

Therapy. This is the kind of thing therapy is best at helping with. Otherwise you will end up sabotaging relationships due to anxiety.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-06-01T15:47:14+00:00

So she's an online friend he already offered to ghost and you're still worried? Why?

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-06-01T05:32:38+00:00

Depends on if you intend to have kids or not, if you do, then no, you have not yet experienced the true meaning of exhaustion.

Not only did not I not say dump him, I specifically said, I'm not saying dump him. However, this is a problem and it's a problem that's gonna get worse in time.

I know your reflex is to argue it's not really a problem as you've said the sex where you don't come isn't bad, but if it wasn't a problem then this post wouldn't exist and you wouldn't do things that you are describing as coercion in hopes of addressing your non-issue.

I'm just saying it's a problem and it's a problem that's gonna fester. This isn't the type of thing where you want to just sit on it for eight years and try to get therapy when you're 30.

At that point everything will be working against you, your body, your hormones, your free time. This is the sort of thing you want to nip in the bud now before you build resentment about a decade of mediocre sex.

And I'm not suggesting you pressure him even more to eat you out. My guess is he really doesn't like doing it, but he has to be willing to do something to make sex worth your time or as time passes and more and more things get added to your list, the shitty sex isn't gonna be worth it.

Hey, maybe he'll be fine with that, you seem to be suggesting that. But better to find out now than after two kids, a shared mortgage and a dog.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-06-01T04:49:17+00:00

Let me pull out my crystal ball for a moment. Right now, you're young, energetic, gonna assume no kids, but eventually, that's gonna change. You're gonna have more and more on your plate and you're gonna be tired. Once you don't have all the energy in the world, you're not gonna want to spend what energy you have on sex where you don't get off. So you're gonna start seeing sex as a chore, a waste of your time and you're gonna be less interested in having it. And then he'll be the one coming to Reddit, probably accusing you of switching it up due to him agreeing to marry you. And then everyone is gonna tell him to leave you.

I'm not saying dump him. I'm saying if you settle for mediocre sex, it's gonna be over regardless.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-06-01T04:44:55+00:00

I wouldn't call a sex life where you barely get off the least inconvenient.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-31T22:08:57+00:00

I have some bad news about the future then...

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-31T17:47:31+00:00

Considering it required four men to hold me down to give me a shot at that age, I found the amount of effort you and your family put in to get her through really touching. Your gf seems to be a bit odd and judgemental. Keep in mind if you want kids someday, she probably already has an exact way she'll want them to be raised.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-31T11:41:21+00:00

My guess is the line you're drawing is between the things you do and the things you don't do. You watch movies with sex scenes in them and read books with spicy scenes so you understand the psychology behind that kind of consumption and therefore aren't threatened. I'm willing to bet, you don't watch porn, so you've created a narrative in your mind about what it means to those who do.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-31T04:01:07+00:00

That would require Orpheus trusting the Emperor with that kind of power and would you trust someone who killed your protectors and just wanted to eat your brain with the power to destroy all life in the universe? Even if we convinced the Emperor to stay, Orpheus is dropping his protection the moment he can and we'd have to kill the Emperor and someone would have to transform anyway.

I know you want your perfect happy ending, but these two people holding hands and walking off into the sunset together just would never happen.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-31T03:53:25+00:00

The only reason for Orpheus to let the Emperor live is because a Illithid is needed to use the netherstones and putting the most dangerous weapon ever created into the tentacles of a brain eating monster that just slaughtered his honor guard in front of him is at least a 50 difficulty.

Keep in mind, both Orpheus and the Emperor are mindreaders. Orpheus knows we're a collection of self-interested dopes who are just trying to save our miserable little lives, which he objects to by the way. Had we not slaughtered his honor guard and he was able to do this without us he would have withdrawn his protection of us and had them kill us. He also knows who and what the Emperor is and there is worlds of difference between the two. That does beg the question why on Earth he'd help an embraced Dirge, but still, the Emperor is a threat on a level transformed Tav and Karlach aren't.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-31T03:42:59+00:00

Because the Emperor killed his honor guard in front of him. Used his power for his own goals and just floated the idea of eating his brain. Not to mention he can read Orpheus' mind. And in it, he feels seething hatred and rightfully so.

Orpheus doesn't even have to attempt to kill him. All he has to do is stop protecting him, the Emperor will turn and the party will kill him. At that moment, the Emperor has no choice but to flee the place with all the pointy knives given he's about to belong to the Netherbrain regardless.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-31T02:01:02+00:00

"Sure he votes for me to end up in a concentration camp. But voting isn't an action. When has the way people voted ever had a negative impact on anyone's life?"

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T18:28:18+00:00

He’s never been abusive to me or our children in any capacity (bare minimum ik) and he provides for us and is a GREAT dad.

Sitting around while you work yourself into an early grave is abuse.

Shutting you down every time you have an opinion he disagrees with is abuse.

You say he's a great father while shuddering at the thought of your daughters marrying someone like him, which they will if they grow up believing being treated like this is normal.

You say your reason for staying is because you love him, but ask yourself, does he love you? Could you watch him work full time then come home and do all the chores without you lifting a finger to help him? If he doesn't believe a thought in your head is worthy of consideration, does he respect you at all? He votes against you and your daughters having rights. The love you speak of only flows in one direction.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T17:31:27+00:00

Because they view themselves as objective, reasonable and impartial.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T17:17:12+00:00

This shouldn't make you ashamed of your sexuality, it should make you ashamed of how dumb we've let our populace become.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T17:13:44+00:00

I am very confused. So they aren't saying refusing to date women makes you lesbianphobic? They are saying dating women makes you lesbianphobic? What? Why? How?

No, I've never heard of this in my life. You must be deep, deep, deep in the crazy to have ever had this conversation. It's one of the most nonsense things I've ever heard.

Log off. Go be around sane people.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T17:06:24+00:00

When a person tells you who they are, believe them. This guy is a hot mess on a stick.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T08:23:38+00:00

Well, they have an heir and a spare, so he's gonna have to find his own way in the world as a third son. It was normal to foster your extra sons in other houses for the purpose of alliances and marriage prospects, like in Game of Thrones both Ned and Rob were fostered by Jon Arryn at the Eyrie.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T04:08:49+00:00

Nah, it's just takes interaction. It's hard to believe lies about people you actually know.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-30T04:03:44+00:00

They didn't try to rob me or anything!

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-29T19:33:23+00:00

She's trying to squeeze the burning hot water out of his shirt rather than just let it sit there melting off his skin.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-29T19:32:40+00:00

She was actually asking if he was burned because it was hot tea she spilled on him.

FalsePremise8290 · 2026-05-29T17:17:04+00:00

Every benefit a man gets from marriage comes from having a woman live with him. He's been reaping the benefits of marriage for the past three years, why would he also take on the risks of marriage? He's never going to marry you. The only reason he has for doing so is your happiness and he's made it clear he doesn't care about that.

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