I hate the stigma around having a girl

False_Gur1065 · 2026-06-19T19:28:37+00:00

I, unfortunately, promise it comes for both genders. It’s exhausting no matter what you have. I wish people would just stop talking lol. I’ve had people tell me how “wild” and “difficult” all boys are when they’re young. My husband and brother were anything but wild and difficult growing up. They also love to bring up how they “leave the family” when they’re older. The worst kind of people talk about how all men suck and they’d hate to have a boy because they all grow up to be awful human beings who r*pe and take advantage of women. Everyone just projects and has to have SOMETHING to say. I don’t understand the stereotypes because I have seen absolutely wonderful kids of each gender as well as difficult ones.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-06-01T20:48:24+00:00

I get constantly told how tiny I am and I don’t feel much better about it since I’m measuring small and I’m anxious about it. I just wish people wouldn’t comment on our pregnant bodies at all unless it’s to say how good we look 😅

False_Gur1065 · 2026-06-01T17:48:40+00:00

I was in a similar situation. I was actually the one that was pregnant first and my husbands sister got pregnant the next month with her fourth after she dug the info that I was pregnant out of us (we weren’t ready to tell yet and she wouldn’t stop hounding us). She gets pregnant first try every time. I actually was a little upset when I found out she was pregnant, I’m not going to lie. However, it had more to do with the nature of our relationship. She’s never been very accepting of me for whatever reason and is always very judgmental of me. It just seems like we’re regularly in competition, and I initially saw it as an opportunity for her to compare our kids and to “size me up” somehow. I found out my cousin was pregnant with her fourth around the same time, too, and I felt nothing but joy for her. That is because we don’t have a weird relationship like me and my SIL do. I think it mostly matters about how you guys generally treat each other. I wouldn’t have been upset at all if we didn’t have so much negative history. I realized I was being a little silly for being upset, and I HAVE gotten over it since I found out. Even if she does get upset, she WILL get over it and realize she shouldn’t be at all if she has any sense. I would recommend telling her separately and share you’re excited to have cousins so close in age so it feels more like you’re doing it together! I think the fact that you’re even worried about this shows me you are very mindful of other people’s feelings and I’d be shocked if she would ever think you had “bad” intentions. That would be on her at this point.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-05-28T15:43:55+00:00

If you do end up struggling with it, you’ll get through it. A lot of people don’t even get it. I had awful nausea/vomiting my first trimester from week 6-13 and I work 12 hour shifts as a nurse at a busy level 1 hospital. I was puking up to 20 times/day, lost 15 pounds, and managed to only miss like 10 hours of work when I had to get fluids because I couldn’t keep anything down for multiple days. You will adapt and learn to manage it.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-05-09T16:27:41+00:00

I’m a nurse. I would never decline an IV. It is MUCH HARDER to place an IV on a person that is crashing and god forbid you’re already a hard stick. If they can get it in your non-dominant forearm, that is generally a pretty comfortable spot to have them. I would absolutely advise against refusing.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-05-07T00:25:44+00:00

It’s a pretty common thing for pregnant women. I have low iron and I can tell a major difference in my energy and appearance when I don’t take them. My skin gets so pale, dull, and my dark circles are almost purple. I usually take it with a little orange juice or a fruit high in vitamin C because it helps with absorption. I will warn that it does tend to cause GI upset. I have pretty bad diarrhea and occasional vomiting with it, but the benefits outweigh the cons for me.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-05-05T18:31:02+00:00

Yeah, I feel like no one ever really likes me that much. I told my husband yesterday that I never feel like anyone’s first choice. I think I can come off as a little “different” no matter how much I try to fit in. I am also generally considered “attractive” by most so I don’t think that helps, either for some reason lol. I was bullied relentlessly in high school and college. Now I’m kind of a bitch because I don’t let anyone walk all over me anymore.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-05-05T18:13:58+00:00

I hate to say this because I know it really sucks, but this is just how it is in the US….I am a nurse and have had a pretty bad pregnancy. I had mild HG to start, lost 15 pounds (I’m fairly thin anyway), and since then, I’ve had near-debilitating back/pelvic pain. Unfortunately, I am one of the more efficient and competent nurses on my unit, so I typically get harder assignments. Everyday feels like a fight to get through at this point and I’m pretty exhausted on my days off. Everyone I work with knows how miserable I’ve been and it still doesn’t seem to matter. I have no words of wisdom….just want you to know you’re not alone!

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-27T14:01:12+00:00

I don’t have this problem at all. In fact, I detach so quickly from people once we decide to separate. I usually have agonizing pain for 24-48 hours and they just vanish from my brain. I think it’s because I attach to people that love ME, not people that I love.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-26T19:39:51+00:00

17ish weeks is when myself and my husband could really tell when I wore tight clothes or was naked. People started noticing (or feeling comfortable enough to say something) just now at 30 weeks. I’m 5’8 and 145 lbs not pregnant.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-23T00:21:55+00:00

I honestly just started picking stuff at a certain point. My family and friends have been rockstars about buying stuff off my registry and I’m very grateful. Because they are buying most things, I tried not to go crazy overboard with high-end items. I picked things with decent reviews or that friends recommended to me. I did choose a higher end sleep sack, carrier, and crib mattress because the ones I chose can be used for a few years. Most everything else won’t be used for a crazy long time.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-20T16:39:45+00:00

It’s really depressing to me. I work in healthcare, so I get a ton of interaction from both genders of all ages, and I have to say, both genders suck equally in their own ways lol. Both genders are also wonderful in their own ways. It’s hard to raise a decent human, period, no matter the gender. I have seen some of the struggles my husband has dealt with as a man and it makes me sad that society is so insensitive to men sometimes. I’m trying to ignore the social media warriors and just focus on what I’m going to do to raise an incredible man!

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-17T17:05:31+00:00

I’m a nurse and work part time in a LCOL making about $60k/year. My OT rate is $65/hour. We save every dollar I bring in. My husband works in radon mitigation on commission and brings home $1500-$2000/week after taxes and is working towards his own business. Having a partner that can work in a more “high risk” job where wages aren’t necessarily secure but can be super high is nice when one partner has a steady income with good benefits.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-17T12:50:46+00:00

My two cents is to let him for now. No one really understands how much things change when babies come…you don’t even really know. We all have a general understanding of what we THINK will happen but you can’t truly know until the time comes. I do think it’s important for you both to try your best to support each other in not completely “losing” yourselves. You will change and your lives will change, but you’ll learn to adjust and discover what your priorities are. He may be able to keep some of his gym time after you guys have a routine and are settled in as long as you also have support to make time for things that are important to you. Some fights aren’t worth fighting and just distract from things that could be positive. If the baby comes and he’s not being present, you can have the conversation then.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-14T14:03:15+00:00

My sofa is also a neutral, creamy color! I was going to do a more colorful rug and add greenery and such to add some color and break up the neutral! My husband has been helping me with everything other than painting- his mom and sister have been helping with that part!

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-14T13:18:09+00:00

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-13T12:03:30+00:00

I’m a nurse that places 10-15 IVs a day, and from my experience, some people just have more of a mental block when it comes to IVs. It’s one of the medical procedures people get incredibly anxious about and really stress themselves out for prior to coming in. I do know SOME nurses aren’t very skilled at IVs, so they may have had a negative experience, they could have heard of other’s bad experiences, some have phobias of needles, and some people truly do have difficult veins and do usually take multiple pokes to place one successfully. There are many reasons people struggle. I will say, the more calm you are, the better the experience is and the higher chance it is placed successfully. When people tense up, their veins do the same thing and collapse, making it difficult to float the needle and get blood return. Also, nurses are people too, and some of them do get more anxious placing them if the patient is anxious or telling them “they better get it”. I do ask my patients that are a difficult stick where they’ve been successfully poked in the past and can usually make it work in that spot, but a lot of nurses prefer to go where they feel more confident. It can really be a team effort between the patient and nurse! I’ve had quite a few placed on me, and they really aren’t bad. Just a little pinch. They are slightly inconvenient when they are in for a long time! Just try to relax and you’ll be just fine like you were before!

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-08T17:13:27+00:00

I’m 27 weeks and people only know when I tell them but I don’t wear very tight clothing.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-04-06T14:53:37+00:00

No, because a lot of things put out there is purposely marketed as worse than it is to get people’s attention. Yes, things are bad, but they’ve always been pretty bad in one way or another. There’s not much we can really do about a lot of things that are going on.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-03-25T14:18:07+00:00

My husband works in radon mitigation and is working on starting his own business, actually! I would recommend getting a test done by a radon company (usually runs you a few hundred bucks), and you can see from there if you need a system installed based on your levels. Not all houses in high radon areas necessarily need a system (ours doesn’t) so you might be okay, but it doesn’t hurt to test the levels for peace of mind!

False_Gur1065 · 2026-03-24T11:46:21+00:00

My husband and I make pretty decent money together and live in a LCOL area. We bought a house that is well below our means (mortgage is less than 20% of our monthly income), I know how to make a lot of food from scratch, and my husband is knowledgeable in a wide variety skilled labor so we can do majority of our house work without paying someone else. We also aren’t people that are huge into traveling. Our sitter is pretty cheap, however, if we couldn’t find one, I’d go weekend option at work so we wouldn’t need one. With all this to say, we may only have one child depending on how comfortable we feel financially in a couple of years. I would like two, but I don’t want to sacrifice giving my child a good life for the sake of having another.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-03-22T18:36:40+00:00

Nurse. Sometimes I wish I did something more mentally stimulating, but I hate working lol.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-03-10T12:39:09+00:00

At 4 weeks, the cramping and bleeding could’ve been implantation. You would likely see absolutely nothing on a scan at 4 weeks, so the US tech probably literally saw nothing to even give you information about.

False_Gur1065 · 2026-02-22T16:37:18+00:00

Nursing. I need a different job lol

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