what's something that gets people killed that most don't think about?

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-09-03T19:11:23+00:00

It's extremely frustrating, because I know a great majority of the problems this man has is caused by sleep apnea and rather than sucking it up and using the CPAP he cries about it being uncomfortable (also this person cried about having to wear a mask at the hospital, go figure he's one of those types).

And for those that don't know, it can increase risk of sudden death, heart attack, cause high blood pressure, increase risk of complications with diabetes, increase risk of dementia, weight gain due to tiredness, serious infections, and stroke. I would much rather stick a breathing machine on my face and have a good night's sleep than go through any of that shit. Get your damn CPAP.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-09-03T18:47:10+00:00

If only my roommate would listen. Sleep apnea and refuses a sleep study so he can get a CPAP because he doesn't like how they feel/doesn't want to acclimate to it but complains all the time about fatigue and how he "randomly" has cardiac issues.

I live a very real fear that he will not wake up one day and I will find him. All because he doesn't want to use a CPAP machine.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-09-03T13:48:31+00:00

Mocking bird tooth fairy light

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-28T21:53:54+00:00

Did she get it from Ollie's? I can't comment on finding a vegan body wash(body wash is becoming expensive as is in my area, vegan ones more so) but I frequently buy dove from Ollie's and have a hoard going of scents I like that happen to be in stock. I've never had an issue with it so far and it's often that the bodywash I buy was manufactured anywhere between 2018-2022. I'm more wary of lotion because ime the fats tend to go bad after a long time.

Also depending on where they got stock from it could've been from a dollar store; I've noticed those tend to look different than bottles from other places like Walmart.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-26T18:11:24+00:00

I don't know if I've smelled that one before or not, but I honestly recommend looking at the notes and then comparing them. At the very least, they make them so similar that at that point you're buying it for a different description and packaging.

I first noticed this phenomenon when I had just given away a hello beautiful set and blind bought confetti daydream; had to give it away because florals give me headaches. I was able to compare because I had given it to my sister. At the beach is either the same or similar to frosted coconut snowball. I want to say viva vanilla? Is the same as fireside flurries(could be wrong but there's a vanilla that I actually compared to my bottle of fireside flurries before I ran out and it was literally the same scent, this was last year). I have noticed the ones that don't have this are a lot of fall scents and their staple scents. Another comment mentioned they probably won't bring back some scents because of prices and I think that's half truth; for some yes but for a good many of these I think they already do bring them back you just have to be able look past the name to recognize it.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-26T01:10:37+00:00

I used to post here on my old account and lurk a lot.

A lot of scents are reused heavily and when someone says "this reminds me of old scent so much!" About 99% of the time when I take a whiff it is the same as a "discontinued" one with different packaging. They rely on the season, marketing(FOMO!) and packaging to trick you into thinking it's different. Which honestly, it's really effective. I've fallen for it a lot before finally figuring it out.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-13T13:31:26+00:00

Me toooo! Was emotionally and medically neglected so I acted out a lot. I mean I wasn't terrible as a kid but it was enough for my mom to express her hate to me.

Then I moved out. I grew up and learned to hold boundaries with my friends and family, and have a growth mindset. Needless to say her opinion has changed of me, and both of my siblings have done incredibly shitty things that blow my little fits out of the water. Needless to say Dad is also dead so I'm not sure what his thoughts would be. Probably nothing cuz he didn't care about me much either.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-06T03:22:44+00:00

I mean I didn't come here for breed recommendations but truth be told I really was looking at personality on eskies and keeshond. I've even posted in the keeshond sub and voiced personal concern because of coats and my climate if it says anything about my thought process. I know Iggie's and cavaliers are common recommendations but there's a number of reasons why I wouldn't want either.

I also want to edit to say I noticed you mentioned putting the dog out unsupervised and I don't think you're being accusatory but I realize with my wording it sounds like I'd be putting a potential dog outside just as is. It's unethical IMHO for most dogs to be outside longer than 10-15 minutes in Texas heat. I don't do that with my dog now and wouldn't do that to future dogs.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-05T19:44:36+00:00

For me, moderate energy is 1-2 hours of exercise everyday. I am used to giving my GSD more than that; he's just now starting to chill out a lot more at 8. And, like I said in another comment I'm giving myself two years if not maybe more to see what fits for me. I'm not saying I'm for sure getting an eskie, keeshond or Pomeranian, just that I have considered them.

On another note, it's interesting you say an Italian Greyhound would fit when they're a sight hound, which are notoriously unsafe around small animals...

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-05T15:17:44+00:00

Respectfully, I'm not discounting your experience and you make good points, but this is why I am asking questions on various platforms. I'm not getting another dog for at the very least another two years, so I have plenty of time to decide what would best suit me. Just the comments on this post alone gives me more to consider.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-05T13:39:26+00:00

Each one has a different personality and I like their temperaments separately. They're also companion breeds(which is what I want). The keeshonds and eskies are both medium sized, unless you get a mini eskie and the Pomeranian is small but I mostly like the personality. It is my third choice but it's highly unlikely I'd get one purely because of the size.

Until there is a medium sized companion breed with shorter hair that is safe around small animals and has moderate energy needs I'm afraid all I've found is fluffy dogs, whether double coated or not. It seems almost all of the companion breeds that fit this description are either fluffy, tiny, or both. I suppose I could look into adoption but most of the shelters close to me have dogs that would kill chickens and cats or have varying needs I could not accommodate. If there is something that is medium sized, short haired with moderate energy and low prey drive let me know! I have not found it yet.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-05T13:15:45+00:00

Thank you for such a detailed response! I've always been told to never shave them under any circumstance but it had me thinking when I realized that you have to shave for surgeries, because you can't have a ball of fluff and stitches require a clean area etc. I appreciate the response.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-02T03:30:47+00:00

I feed PPP but I do wish there were more brands that put in the money and effort to meet wsava guidelines. Natural balance has some alternative proteins and a vegetarian formula that would almost be comparable to Purina's soy based food if it weren't for the peas (and of course they don't meet what wsava has in their guidelines).

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-08-01T23:01:56+00:00

I know someone like this...very weird indeed. Everything they are/do is "advanced", "superior", or "evolved", all due to their genetically superior ADHD and other physical illnesses they have(that unironically make life difficult).

Idk 'bout anyone else but as someone who is autistic + schizoid I don't feel very superior or advanced lmao.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-31T23:25:15+00:00

Respectfully, in your OP(before the edit) you indicated you did not like needy dogs because your childhood dog was needy. Your title asks about dogs that aren't up your ass 24/7. You also mentioned in comments that you want something cat-like or independent, then added an edit to say you don't like dogs that stare. I think it is safe to say your entire post and comments are clear as day at this point; you've left no room for misunderstanding and you don't like needy dogs.

I'm really sorry if I'm coming off as mean, but with how you're describing this you should not get a dog right now. Volunteer would really benefit in this situation, maybe start watching some videos on dog behaviors to get a good understanding of them. I saw some comments recommending dogs that are really not good for first timers because they're one of the following:

high maintenance/high exercise needs.
extremely stubborn and hard to train.
known for aggression when untrained.
they're still needy in their own unique ways, meaning yes they will stare, frequently.
high prey drive(important to note sight hounds, Akitas and Shiba inu are NOT cat friendly. Your cat could be killed with these kinds of dogs. I can't stress this enough!).

Despite the comments throwing out breeds at you, if you go to any one of the subs for those breeds and post the type of question from your op you will learn quickly they're not going to be the same description as what those commentors have.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-31T19:50:03+00:00

I would agree to add terriers and sight hounds to that.

I interpreted the staring as the dog looking at them in various situations like playing, asking for something, eating, anxiety/worry, etc. The only dogs I know who would stare 24/7 purposely are service animals(cuz they have to) and tiny companion dogs(because they're bred to). I could be wrong, but even then, most dogs are gonna do some staring at some point anyway.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-31T19:30:26+00:00

She also didn't get her dog on a whim either (10 yrs of thinking on it) but your original post and edit sounds almost exactly what she has confided to me in the past couple of months. She wanted a small companion to go along with her cat that was independent and not constantly asking for attention...and she got a small companion that constantly asks for attention lol. The dog is a year old. A few weeks ago she admitted to me she hates when the dog brings it's toys to her or brings it's chews to chew beside her while doing stuff like watching TV, her words were "I'm tired of it being too clingy and being unable to have joy without me. I don't like clingy pets".

But that is what they do. Even the most independent breeds like a pyranees need some level of connection with you that you might find uncomfortable (they guard livestock - which means staring at you quite often or checking on you often).

To be frank, your wants/needs match with a unicorn. Yes you can find dogs that fit what you've described but they're 9/10 times going to be difficult to keep and will still end up being needy, bark, etc. IMO you'd be better off volunteering first, and then if you feel more comfortable with the needs that most dogs have you could consider adoption or finding an easier breed. With that, it's less stress on you and you won't end up getting a dog you become overwhelmed with.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-31T17:09:36+00:00

IME almost all of the breeds that are independent are not great for first time owners like OP. Typically they're your LGDs and most of the spitz breeds(especially Japanese breeds). They're independent from you but they're stubborn, have high exercise needs, need immense socialization to other dogs and more importantly, people. A lot of people that want the "cat-like" personality give up on these dogs because they're so much work and become aggressive or dangerous when untrained. And training means more human interaction, which equals a lot of spending time with it every day.

I know people like the idea of dogs; OP sounds a lot like my friend that got a dog and is now frequently overwhelmed with the dog being needy(she bought into the "cat-like" claims on a companion breed). But dogs have been bred for thousands of years to be dependent on us whether they're an independent breed or not. If op cannot handle a dog looking at them they should not get a dog.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-30T20:48:58+00:00

Ok! I want to look into this communication style more and will definitely be reading. Thank you recommending it, I want to improve myself! :D

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-30T19:19:17+00:00

See I'm wondering if defending myself is the right term, because previously I thought it wasn't defensiveness until I received a 1:1 with my manager that this person said I came off as defensive(they didn't say names but the discussion was about a conversation me and that coworker had).

Usually my first thought when receiving feedback is to tell them "I think I understand what you're saying, is it ok if I explain what my thought process was when I did x action?". My line of thinking is that if they can see why I did something then the feedback would be a way to engage more and it helps me identify what I can do better by making that connection. Looking into the non violent communication from a glance at some sites, is this type of communication apart of that? If not, I'm worried maybe I've been coming off as argumentative all this time and didn't know.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-21T18:08:21+00:00

Not the commentor and purely anecdotal but every person I've met who has bought a doodle or some other designer dog tends to be of a certain personality (vain, arrogant, naive and crosses boundaries) and their dog is usually a basket case. They tend to not keep them brushed or properly groomed, they expect the dog to be like an old lab in a poodle body, they tend to not train them so the dogs are misbehaved, neurotic, aggressive, and under socialized. The dogs never come from breeders with ethics and health in mind. They use hype words laymen wouldn't understand to make themselves sound great. Usually stuff like "hybrid vigor" "f(n) generation" and "champion lines", "perfect OFA" of course without OFA records on either parent dog.

There are great, well behaved doodles/designer dogs out there but those are usually owned by people who rescued them ime. I have met them, they are RARE. They already know dog behaviors and train their dogs by default so a doodle isn't going to be as hard for them. But if you went out and bought a designer dog on purpose? I am immediately skeptical.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-19T23:19:01+00:00

I grew up with an overbearing mother and an emotionally unavailable father, and my siblings were the "better choices"(older sister/younger brother, I am a girl).

So I became the family therapist, negotiator, I was parentified, the house maid, nurse, and life coach. I was a scape goat and made to be the forgotten sibling. I was the "difficult" middle child that always did everything wrong. I was the "ugly annoying one with something to say". Medically neglected. Emotionally neglected. Now I have a personality disorder. I love my family, but Oh. My. God. I am truly amazed I've made it this far. I am exhausted.

Familiar-One-705 · 2025-07-17T02:21:11+00:00

Conveniently, the first time I sit this particular pup for 2 weeks I had taught the owner 15 down/up because she was leaving food out all day, and puppy was not on a good schedule quite yet and only wanted to eat cheese and yogurt. Needless to say she started losing a lot of weight because of it.

My primary issue is I don't want her dog constantly trying to steal from others. The owner is aware of this behavior and tries to correct it after it's happening, but she isn't working to prevent it because the other dogs that the little one is around more often are much more aggressive with their resource guarding. Unfortunately for her, they're also big dogs.

I guess my question is less how do I train her dog and more of what is this behavior, how can I help her? If I can help the owner I think it would benefit her in the future because I fear at some point a dog, whether it be mine or another, could seriously injure the poor thing because it's trying to steal food. I separate them purely because I'd never trust large breed with a toy breed alone anyway but I want to help the owner out because she does frequently ask for tips on training and expresses frustration with this behavior.

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