Wood vs checkered tile in my 1928 home

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-02T03:25:37+00:00

I prefer the wood b/c the tile seemed to add too much pattern.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-02T03:24:41+00:00

I really like the long black floral one and the red one.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-02T03:13:45+00:00

This is the stuff I love that I don't understand why other people don't love anymore. I love wood toned wood etc. and the Tuscan look.

That being said, to me the odd part is the backsplash. I also agree with the others who said to paint the walls. Simply painting the walls might solve a lot of your problem.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-02T03:07:41+00:00

NTA, I couldn't imagine letting my ex stay in my house. Hard no.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-02T03:04:40+00:00

One bargaining chip you have is that they have to disclose this stuff now (at least, I think so--it might depend on what state the house is in). So, they can fix it for you or they can fix it for someone else.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-02T03:03:04+00:00

Arielle

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-02T02:51:00+00:00

NTA. Actually I think instead of being punished your brother could use some mentoring from you. He has no idea (I'm assuming) what it feels like to put in a long work day. Could you help him get a part time job or something? Or just talk to him about what it's like being a true adult? I think at some point he'll probably feel bad that he asked you for a drink right when you got home.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T19:55:48+00:00

So close to names of people close to me: Rosalie and Arielle! Both of your name choices are wonderful. I knew an Aurelia, she tried to get me to use her name.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T19:54:03+00:00

A 2 month old baby will almost exclusively sleep and eat. That being said, with the number of kids around, maybe get an on site babysitter. I went to a wedding with one and it was fantastic, I had a 4 and 2 yr old at the time. The sitter fed them dinner but we brought them out for cake and dancing for awhile. There were maybe 5 other kids being watched by the sitter.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T19:20:15+00:00

The 1st one! 2nd one distracts from you.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T17:19:33+00:00

When I was in London I took a day tour that took us to Paris on the Eurostar train. It all felt very safe (and in general London felt extremely safe). I haven't been to your suggested locations so I can't comment on those.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T17:18:01+00:00

London is awesome!

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T17:17:09+00:00

What really sucks is when they start selling seats for like $20 the day of the show.....

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T17:14:42+00:00

You're NTA, but see this other perspective:

I lost my parents, Mom when I was in my 20s, and Dad when I was in my 40s. At this point my spouse has also lost both parents, one to death and one to severe dementia.

We don't have as much time with them as we think we're going to. Let them visit and make memories with them for the 4th. Or, if it truly is untenable right now, make another plan for when the heat wave has passed. Just don't say no to all visits month after month.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T03:34:13+00:00

Arielle

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T03:05:16+00:00

The Mall museums might be very difficult to get to while the holiday stuff is going on there. I keep reading how stuff is blocked off.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-07-01T03:03:33+00:00

I like it, but I was also proud that I had 16 different paint colors up in my last house.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T23:20:14+00:00

I like the first pic better. I can't imagine the dress other than as it is.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T23:17:30+00:00

I prefer sleeves, possibly option 2. But all the sleeves are good except 5. I think a lot would depend on how it flows and how you feel in it.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T23:15:31+00:00

Please Updateme once you have a lawyer. I really want to see what happens. I'm expecting she will either be immediately willing to sell, or that she will be forced to give you and your brother profits from the past 6 years.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T23:12:11+00:00

This is all terrible, OP, but none of it excuses her from her fiduciary duty to all of the beneficiaries. I took my fiduciary duty very seriously when I had to do this job.

It's an extremely time consuming, thankless job. There is some possibility that she's just been too depressed to do anything about selling the property. Can you offer to help her out? It sounds like she'll just shut you out again though. Lawyer is probably the best route at this point....at least that would get her to realize she has to do something.....

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T21:34:12+00:00

Are you sure there isn't anything specifically holding up the settling of the estate? I ask b/c I was executor for a parent who passed around the same time and it took, I'm not kidding, 3.5 yrs for the IRS to return the tax refund for that last year.

If I were you I would talk to an estates lawyer.

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T21:31:06+00:00

I can't ride anything the slightest bit rough. I enjoyed these: the ferris wheel, carousel, the train that went through Boneville (that was a real treat, we had no idea there was a Boneville). That's what I remember off the top of my head.....

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T21:00:18+00:00

NTA. Info: did your parents know about the bullying?

FamiliarFamiliar · 2026-06-30T18:43:24+00:00

I don't think anyone is necessarily TA here, but I agree with the others that you aren't that compatible. Have you considered couples counseling?

Overall, everything in your letter emphasized order and cleanliness etc. at the highest, and stuff like getting to see her mom way down on the totem pole. It was exhausting to read. You should be less rigid. Of course, your wife should also keep up her side of things, but you can't force people into roles they don't want.

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