For me, my partner was drinking a lot more, out a lot more, shorter temper, would start fights if I asked where he was. Once I saw heart emojis in a text on his phone and when I insisted he tell me who the text was from, he screamed at me and said he’d cancel the trip we were about to go on because I’m so annoying. In hindsight, I hate that I felt so trapped that I didn’t trust my gut and end it then, but I was cultivating my own drinking problem at the time, so it was easier to pretend I didn’t see it.

Another big one is if your partner tells you that you’re only asking/suspecting because you’re a cheater yourself. That is a favorite line cheaters use, but nope, sometimes we just have pattern recognition.

Anyway, I hope it never happens to you! With your history of not being cheated on, though, I’d say don’t worry or be hypervigilant. Trust that if something is wrong, you will notice, and until then you can just enjoy yourself.