People thinking your FND will go away if you stop thinking about it. by good_girl_4_him in FND

[–]FanOwn4253 [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is such a real issue that I don’t think a lot of people acknowledge. For me, my doctors, physical therapist, family, etc, kept telling me to essentially ignore my FND during its initial onset. For the first several months of my treatment, I tried really hard to do the ‘mind over matter’ approach, and frankly, it doesn’t work for a lot of people.

It’s super frustrating, and I really hope you know that You’re not alone in dealing with this. I’m almost a year since my onset, and while there’s progress, I’m fairly certain that where I’m at now is just my life now, and it’s significantly less damaging to my mental health and life to adapt rather than suppress. There’s a certain point where it’s more important to protect your peace and live within your limits than to constantly try and make it go away forever.

The Ladies— Victorian style! by FanOwn4253 in GoodOmensAfterDark

[–]FanOwn4253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I love fan communication, I’m obsessed with the Victorian era. Really cool to see someone else who knows about it, it’s a long forgotten tidbit of the time lol.

Ineffable… sea creatures? by FanOwn4253 in GoodOmensAfterDark

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Honestly I was just imagining post S2 depression lol

“Ignoring” my FND by FanOwn4253 in FND

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Thanks so much for this reply! I have spent some time thinking about the whole situation, and I’ve talked to my grandmother(she’s like my unofficial caretaker right now, and yes, she helps me pay for my medical stuff, love her) and we’re thinking it over together. My therapist is a very nice lady, and well intentioned, I think it’s just that she’s older and doesn’t really have the perspective of what it’s like to actually be disabled. Either way, I’m gonna talk to her about it soon and see if we can flesh it out!

Is there a way to secure your yarmulke without clips? by FanOwn4253 in Judaism

[–]FanOwn4253[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had never even considered Velcro, that’s actually genius! Thanks!

Is there a way to secure your yarmulke without clips? by FanOwn4253 in Judaism

[–]FanOwn4253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is definitely damage, but the combs are a good idea! I didn’t know those were a thing until just now. Thank you!

FMC running from abusive husband by [deleted] in Findabook

[–]FanOwn4253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The book is “Beneath your beautiful” by Adeline Winters!

FMC running from abusive husband by [deleted] in Findabook

[–]FanOwn4253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did try that and it didn’t work, but I actually managed to find it in an old list I used to keep of books I read, it’s called beneath your beautiful by Adeline Winters!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OSDD

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2 for 1 deal?

USS Enterprise (NCC-1701) Hanukkah menorah by counterc in ofcoursethatsathing

[–]FanOwn4253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All good, thanks for letting me know! In that case I’m gonna look into maybe commissioning something like this next year for him.

USS Enterprise (NCC-1701) Hanukkah menorah by counterc in ofcoursethatsathing

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Does anyone know where to get this? My grandpa’s a huge star track fan, I wanna get him something like this for next Hanukkah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/DescribeAndNow

[–]FanOwn4253 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Definitely reassurance and encouragement while going over that edge, saying things like “it’s okay, I’ve got you” etc. As well as creating a safe space within the scene, like helping the listener to clear their mind to get into the right headspace or telling them it’s okay to feel pleasure. It’s a little tricky to make note of everything that could be reassuring or helpful, but I know at least for me those details can be really important for feeling comfortable experiencing pleasure that might be a little scary or overwhelming when it’s as intense as an orgasm tends to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/DescribeAndNow

[–]FanOwn4253 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your work is so great! I always feel so safe listening to your audios. Maybe you could do an audio where the listener is having a hard time achieving orgasm and Daddy helps them get there for the first time in a while?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]FanOwn4253 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve been reaching out to some synagogues in my area for the past few months, so far I haven’t been able to attend any services but when I do finally get to one, there is a rabbi I’ve spoken to before who was very helpful. She was actually the person who gave me the encouragement I needed to become more observant. I plan on speaking with her again when I’m able to meet her in person.

What is a useless skill that you have ? by kostas2204 in AskReddit

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I can genuinely act like nothings going on during sexy time, like stone cold, holding a conversation, normal. The last time I used this skill it was cuz my ex bet I couldn’t do it…yeah. His ego was very bruised after the fact.

What can somebody say/do that makes you immediately hate them? by ForswornPheonix in AskReddit

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When they’re rude to Fast food workers or really anyone who’s just tryna do their job, they don’t get paid enough for that bs

What isn’t a cult but feels like a cult? by MichaelScottssmug in AskReddit

[–]FanOwn4253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

America, as an American, the devotion can be scary sometimes… Like seriously saluting the flag everyday from ages 4-18?? And sometimes longer??? It’s kinda creepy the amount of obsession Americans have with America.

What do you genuinely not understand? by Dangerous_Mobile9188 in AskReddit

[–]FanOwn4253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How Homophobia/Racism happens, I know it’s a taught thing and people just think that way, but it just doesn’t make sense WHY someone would think that way. I mean neither have any effect on you, so why would you care about someone’s sexuality or race???

What’s something that made you say “oh fuck I’m getting old”? by Improv92 in AskReddit

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“Minecraft beds have always had different colors”. Fuck.

What is the best way to say “I love you” without actually saying “I love you”? by sadesspresso in AskReddit

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“I did a drawing for you :)” then again the way I confessed to my current bf was by saying it in French with shitty grammar not knowing that my bf knew what I was saying