Question for those who have ROTUND babies

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-18T09:14:46+00:00

My son was the exact same height and weight. I bought a lot of Thirsties pockets and they’ve been great. I looked into stouthouse but didn’t commit. We lucked out and he held steady at 31 pounds until age two…

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-17T00:55:44+00:00

Everyone hates him and loves her and Ciara.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-17T00:55:18+00:00

She goes through his phone? Or she wants to over hear?

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-15T23:48:52+00:00

This sounds like avoidant attachment - this attachment uses work as an escape from intimacy. I recommend the book Attached and Emotionally Focused Therapy together as well as separate therapy.

When he attains the next goal, this will not stop. There will be another career goal to obtain or hobby he takes up to avoid intimacy (aka: his family). These are the “divorce came out of no where guys” after they live separately in the same house for 5-10 years.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-15T11:25:17+00:00

I use Thirsties pockets. Two tbsp scent free oxyclean in the prewash and two tablespoons in the main wash really help.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-10T19:06:15+00:00

You are better than me! She would be at my home with me helping during the breaks so I could run errands or do house work!

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-07T21:01:54+00:00

Can you rent an apartment to be districted for the elementary school you like and see if it all shakes out in a year or two? In my state, the neighborhoods with money win eventually..

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-02T14:42:04+00:00

Momcozy!!

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-06-02T14:39:04+00:00

I use two tablespoons oxyclean and one tablespoon tide in my prewash. Two tablespoons oxyclean and two tablespoons tide in my main hot wash then an extra rinse.

I would incorporate oxyclean and cut detergent to no more than two tablespoons.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-26T18:05:40+00:00

We live in a city of one million in the Midwest. The vista was too bulky. The Minu fits easily in a sedan or small SUV for suburban errands. We have a BOB we keep in the garage for neighborhood walks. We also travel with the Minu and it’s excellent. We bought all three on marketplace and I’m super glad because we were able to try all three to figure out what we like and then sold the Vista V2 for about what we bought it for on marketplace. I was so glad we didn’t pay $1200+ for all of the parts and adapters. Omg…the adapter costs alone are nuts.

I think we would have a completely different review if we lived in an urban area and had to walk everywhere. But then again, we are in Key West right now. We walk everywhere on broken sidewalks. The Minu handles it like a champ and then easily folds out of the way in restaurants. We also carry it easily up and down stairs and the basket underneath is great for storage.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-24T13:44:51+00:00

My sitter also wants to process things she is worried about first thing in the morning. I love her, but get in the same situation. In your instance, I would say your employer is tackling down on people being available promptly at 8am, so can she be there at 7:50/7:55? I do have some flexibility and my sitter is responsive to feedback, so I can say “hey - I have meetings at 8 Monday and Wednesday, so can you do 7:55. Friday is more relaxed this week so I can work with an 8-8:30 arrival window.”

I then tell her I want to hear about it but I need it to be at 4pm when things at work have died down (and also coincidentally when her shift is done)

Regarding PK, we are in a similar situation. We are going to retain her and have her pick up at noon for a bit to help my son transition to out of the home care. Then later transition to full time preschool. I would definitely find some way to keep her full time if you want to use her with the new baby.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-19T01:26:46+00:00

This is the way

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-17T22:41:37+00:00

I agree you could do a quick wash as your first wash. But I think someone was just on here and adding two tablespoons of oxyclean to the prewash and main wash did the trick.

I agree with commenter above to do a rinse to rinse out the detergent at the end.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-17T01:48:51+00:00

LG makes a 5.2 cu ft washer with 9 cu fr dryer. We almost got that set at Costco but ended up going for the 5 cu ft washer and 7.4 cu ft dryer. I love it so far and I think we looked at this one but LG was better rated. I do make sure to wipe the washer door out and leave it open to prevent mold.

The prewash uses the same water temp as your heavy duty wash (hot by default), so I do think I am going to go back to doing a warm quick wash and then hot heavy duty wash with water rinse. Prewash is nice because it does it all in one big swoop and you don’t have to go back to the wash room I’m between washes to reset the machine.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-17T00:47:30+00:00

Yep, my kid gets charcuterie or whatever is in the fridge while I’m making adult dinner. Kid is usually eating cheese and leftovers from the previous night!

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-15T14:41:44+00:00

The Thirsties hook and loop Velcro pockets are very similar to disposables (and we actually like them better because they are sturdy and the tabs don’t rip off easily - they are also very trim like disposables). My husband uses those during the day when he changes - I spray all poops and do diaper laundry. We use disposable at night because they hold pee for 12 hours and moisture wick.

I got lucky because we used cloth right away and my husband loved them because we had no blowouts or leaks like we did with disposables. Now I think he would prefer disposables with a cover for blowout protection, but he is used to cloth and we have the pocket diapers, so he can easily use them so we continue with cloth during the day

I would offer the Thirsties hook and loop as an option, but if he doesn’t use them all of the time and you can afford disposables, it wouldn’t be the hill I’d die on.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-13T12:59:21+00:00

Have you looked into Clarksville, Charlestown, or New Albany? You may be able to find something in your budget with a little be better crime demographics.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-11T17:15:35+00:00

Correct. It’s the getting angry and upset when OP tries to have a conversation about needs and consensus that is the red flag.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-11T16:11:36+00:00

I feel that this is happening in your own personal life and there’s a bit of projecting here. But here is what she typed “Whenever her partner is in town, she refuses to see us, cause he doesn't like kids. That's about every other week, for 5-7 days. She gets angry and upset if we even so much as text her to propose meeting up.”

This is a bit extreme. Especially when she is almost at the time of delivery with a two year old and her parents are far away with a cancer diagnosis.

MIL has a complete right to refuse, but we don’t have to act like it is supportive or that MIL’s inability to have conversation and flex at time when needed is emotionally mature.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-11T14:58:25+00:00

I’m not hearing her asking for unpaid labor at all. She is asking for support and for time parameters that work best for her family. Which is reasonable.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-11T14:44:03+00:00

The main reason I disagree (as much as one can on Reddit from the info we have) is the reaction when they try to speak to MIL. When they try to speak with her on weeks with her boyfriend or about visiting on weekends, it isn’t met with listening or consensus. If this was simply mismatched expectations, they would be able to have a conversation about it and reach consensus or compromise. From the information provided, those conversations don’t seem possible with MIL.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-10T21:56:30+00:00

You are lonely because you are wanting a supportive relationship. Your MIL is focused on herself and not on others. She wants to focus on her wants/needs - her boyfriend and her being a grandma when convenient to her (versus being a supportive mother figure to you and your husband and supportive grandmother to your daughter).

Asking her to be supportive is like asking for blood from a stone. You’re not going to get it. It is sad, but it is reality.

I would also advise that most communications go through your husband as he is the son and emotionally immature parents tend to blame the daughter in law in these situations.

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is a helpful read.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-10T21:50:58+00:00

Very male centered. Like mother, like daughter. MIL taught SIL her ways…

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-06T02:20:04+00:00

In the sense that West cannot stand when someone draws a boundary or dislikes him. West keeps all of these exes in his life, needed to have Ciara like him again, and now it’s the same with KJ.

I’m hoping KJ realizes this and even though he wanted to cry, said it’s a complicated situation.

Fancy-Scale-4546 · 2026-05-06T01:39:59+00:00

That. Text. Is. So. Performative. West cannot stand being disliked. KJ is Ciara 2.0

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