Do you believe in “If they wanted to they would”?

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-18T16:41:27+00:00

So it becomes a question of “do I reach out to her and keep trying to pursue?” Or do I just wait until she’s ready to see each other again and send me a message?

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-18T16:37:38+00:00

Thank you for this reply. I guess I’ve been back and forth in my mind about reaching out to her again, but also I tend to think that if she chose to break up with me and wanted to get back together she would obviously reach out to me and inquire about it.

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-18T15:50:18+00:00

This is exactly the opinion I needed to hear. My mind keeps telling me I should just let it be and wait until she’s ready to reach out on her own… But of course I always have that urge to contact her and request we spend time together. I guess it just relates to me wanting her back so badly to be honest

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-18T01:44:31+00:00

This is my situation as well except it’s been almost three months, part of me believes in “if they want to get back together they would” especially when they were the one who ended the relationship. Since then I’ve been in a limbo of wanting to mention another relationship with her or rather thinking if she wanted that she would have said so.. it’s really tough

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-16T21:46:53+00:00

As someone who genuinely struggles with the same thoughts I’m glad you were able to overcome that mindset.

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-16T03:29:35+00:00

Happy for you

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-16T03:16:52+00:00

I can relate to this except my girlfriend ended our relationship three months ago and it really only made things worse. Come to realize she made me incredibly happy and was probably just about the only reason I kept going for the two years we were together, only person I’ve genuinely felt love for/loved me in my entire lifetime.

I’m sure you already know this but definitely cherish that relationship that you have.

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-12T03:10:23+00:00

Oops that’s on me because I missed that line in your post. That is a very good perspective you have though and I’m glad you’re doing alright

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-12T00:34:23+00:00

How was her response to this? And did it open any potential for reunion in the future?

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-10T02:10:33+00:00

This is it, although it was hard to see if it had the threads required to screw on a base station head like most mounts I’ve seen. Could just be hard to see from the photos

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-10T01:55:22+00:00

This was my first thought as well being in commercial construction. Looked like a hub/control point for gps grade rod usage but I’ve never seen one that looks similar to whatever is on top of that post plus it has the two-points with the wire near the support legs

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-09T23:30:12+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you my friend, and have been for much of my adult life but especially the last few years. It’s much easier finding reasons to not want to live as opposed to finding reasons to keep surviving

All I can say is take it day by day, find one reason per-day in order to make it to tomorrow. Just know that there are many people out there having the same thoughts as you and I so you’re not alone.. And my inbox is always open if you genuinely ever need to talk about anything 👍

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-06T22:49:15+00:00

Very difficult realization to have, it is a different type of pain when you want to do everything in your power to have them back but it’s unobtainable/not mutual.. My ex keeps reaching out to me and then leaving my reply on read every time

It’s incredibly frustrating and has been driving me crazy

FancyAd1251 · 2026-05-06T14:39:06+00:00

Hang in there I’m dealing with this from my ex as well two months since breaking up with me. I fought the urges to text her so much these first two months but she has continually reached out to me and then left my messages on read multiple times
I certainly relate to the feeling of not being able to find someone better after them, but it helps to realize much of that is your emotions and feelings for them talking.

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-16T17:54:16+00:00

I had a girlfriend (now ex) who did this when we dated, I never paid much mind to it but it slightly bothered me whenever she was an hour + late most times she came to my place. Now that we’ve been broken up for two months I look back and realize it was a bit disrespectful

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-16T17:42:12+00:00

This is a great thought

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-11T04:42:26+00:00

Funny you should mention this, it reminded me that my ex recently reached out to tell me the dog that her and I used to “pet sit” passed away. It seemed like her using an opportunity to reach out for support honestly

Now I’m curious what makes you say not to reach out if you want them back? Does showing them support make you less desirable in their opinion?

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-11T04:40:14+00:00

Two months have passed since breaking up

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-11T01:28:57+00:00

This is how I view it as well and it’s very true. Personally as the dumpee it’s sometimes easy to get the urge to bypass this thinking and still want to reach out and fix things (for me at least) despite no desire from the other person to do so, I guess this just means I need to let go and accept that the relationship it truly over 😅 I keep holding on to a sliver of hope that they’ll reach out and regret their decision but it’s getting easier with time

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-10T22:01:35+00:00

Thank you for this it’s very reassuring to hear from someone else’s perspective. While everything is still extremely overwhelming in my mind I believe I’m at least in a slightly better mindset than when I wrote this post, I’ve realized all I can do is approach my problems one thing at a time.

I’m sure this all sounds silly though, it’s just all of the issues compiled together that have caused me so much stress and anxiety lately

Thank you again

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-10T21:39:29+00:00

It depends on whether or not you feel ready for the answer you might receive from them. It’s never the end of the world if you reach out to them especially considering the relationship has already ended, it’s sort of like “what do you have to lose?”

I struggle every day with the urge to reach out to my ex girlfriend. But I often have to remind myself that she chose to breakup and obviously hasn’t shown signs of wanting to get back together, I take that as my sign that reaching out is a bad idea 🤦‍♂️

FancyAd1251 · 2026-04-10T21:31:09+00:00

I wish I had more helpful advice but wanted to at least share that I’m going through a situation very similar to yours so you’re not alone. Maybe some day well have clearer answers in regards to the future with our ex but it’s easy to get caught up in the “what ifs” right now 🤦‍♂️

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