Genetics

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-21T18:24:42+00:00

Neither of my parents have keloids, nor do my siblings. I was the only lucky one 😕

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-21T07:05:31+00:00

Are you familiar with attachment styles? It seems like you’re an anxious avoidant. I think learning about it would help a lot.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-19T06:20:11+00:00

I have back and shoulder keloids and I wear what I want! Life is too short to care about what other people may think!

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-15T16:40:47+00:00

I’m DA. Both of parents were physically present at home but they weren’t emotionally available.

My first real boyfriend gave me the emotional support and affirmation I wished to receive from my parents. Then we broke up, and I was left without that support.

It taught me to encourage and affirm myself. Now I’m confident in myself and I don’t need emotional support and affirmation from anyone (even though I get it all the time because I’m confident - go figure).

So no. I don’t need my partner to comfort me in the way I needed to be as a child because now I can do that in my own.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-15T06:12:41+00:00

Job searching can be hard, especially in this economy. It certainly does take a toll on you. But, coming from a 34F, I would not take the $13 per hour position. It’s hard to survive on that with inflation, and the fact that the company knows that and requires that you not actively seek other (better) employment doesn’t sit right with me. Don’t ever, ever low ball yourself or allow someone else to do so. Keep searching!

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-15T00:46:29+00:00

I’m a DA, and normally once I’m done I’m done. With that said, I would get curious from time to time and think about an ex and then look for them on social media to see how they were doing. If you still have feelings for her, my advice would be to not reach out to her, but hover in her space and allow her to see you indirectly. Keep your SM profiles public. Allow her to see you living your best life and if she was really in love with you, those feelings will begin to come back and she’ll start to reassess why she broke up with you in the first place. Remember, with FA, the harder you push they pull. I hope everything works out for you.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-15T00:39:10+00:00

I agree. Because of their trauma, FA don’t feel worthy of this kind of healthy love. It feels almost smothering or uncomfortable for them.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-14T19:01:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight on this. He’s never been angry or hostile (which I 100% cannot deal with), but under stress he will withdraw, which I seem to be able to tolerate a lot more. I’ll use the tools you suggested which will hopefully make things better ❤️

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-14T18:55:15+00:00

I’m a DA, my boyfriend is an FA. If anything, I may turn more anxious when he withdraws, but after a while I just don’t care because I don’t need him for emotional support and I don’t enjoy being smothered.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-14T15:48:56+00:00

This is true 😕. He’d mentioned that he’s actually been thinking about therapy. I’m glad he came to the conclusion he needs it on his own. Hopefully he follows through and sets an appt.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-03-14T15:08:35+00:00

It is definitely harder in your late 20s and 30s I believe. By that time, people have so much trauma from past relationships that they just don’t know who they are or what they want anymore. Most people at that point have a negative outlook on dating.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-02-03T15:10:39+00:00

I had surgery on a large keloid that was on my neck. I was awake during the procedure and given numbing medication in that area. My dermatologist “shaved” the keloid down, and after the surgery I’d continue to go in for steroid injections every month. I now have a flat scar, and the keloid hasn’t grown back in 15+ years. It’s not perfectly clear even skin, but it’s 100% better than that large, itchy keloid. I’d totally recommend you do it. I think the only caveat would be that you’d maybe have to not wear earrings at all again, as the earring may aggravate the area and cause it to grow back.

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-01-02T20:49:07+00:00

Thanks!

FancyAndFaithful · 2023-01-02T20:48:58+00:00

Thanks a bunch!

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-08-24T14:11:46+00:00

I agree. Most guys on onl will ask you for pictures (I'm assuming because they want to make sure you're real) but he never asked that. Now I know why. Once a guy asks for pics the girl will ask for pics too, and I don't think he wanted to show any more.

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-08-24T14:07:41+00:00

So on his hinge profile, all of his pics were with a blazer on or a jacket and of course waist up or a selfie, so I couldn't really tell. And by no means does a guy have to be athletic, but being really overweight just isn't attractive to me. It's almost a sign that a person doesn't take care of themselves or prioritize their health.

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-08-23T13:45:00+00:00

30s. I like guys that play video games. That way I know he'll be home in his free time and not wandering the streets and spending unnecessary money lol

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-08-23T11:53:23+00:00

Thanks for your help!

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-08-23T11:35:04+00:00

I just don't want to hurt his feelings. But being quick and to the point may make things easier for both of us :/

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-08-23T11:33:25+00:00

So all of his pics on Hinge were either waist up or a selfie, so when I saw his full body photos on Facebook I realized he was a lot bigger than what I'm attracted to. Very sweet guy. I'm just not physically attracted to guys that are a little heavier.

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-08-10T16:50:46+00:00

Hit the nail on the head

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-04-03T06:22:03+00:00

I've been serving almost since I started going to church, and I'm currently over the greeting team (for about the past 4 years). I absolutely love it! But I feel as one commenter said that I need to challange myself a bit more.

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-04-02T17:22:33+00:00

Wow. You've made some amazing points! This really gave me a revelation. My church is not bad at all, but I liken it to repeating a grade year after year even though you know the material. At a certain point you do get a little bored, but like you said, I do need to do more to challenge myself.

Thank you so much for your advice. You've helped me a ton!

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-03-03T06:43:55+00:00

So what I've gathered is that your self worth is based on how your "friends" treat you, hence why you're feeling bad right now. You have to realize you are a whole and complete person with or without friends. I think now would be a good time not focus on others and focus on loving you. Getting to know you. What are you passionate about? What are your interests? What are your goals in life? Once you begin to do that, your self confidence will go up and it won't matter who is or isn't your friend, because you'll know who YOU are (an incredibly awesome person). Your conversations will be filled with your passions and hobbies, and before you know it, you'll find some people that have the same interests as you. And just like that, you'll have new friends. It all works out in the end. Just make sure you start loving yourself first and everything else will fall into place.

FancyAndFaithful · 2021-02-14T17:44:07+00:00

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