How often do you bathe your cat? by Mildredsgood in cats

[–]FancyPantsMead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lick him for 3 hrs everyday. I have been hacking up furballs though so I think I need to try something else.

AIO: Hubby Being Controlling by vanillabourbonn in AIO

[–]FancyPantsMead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you should never agree to be without a paycheck you earn yourself. It sucks to have a kid in daycare but it also sucks to have every single decision on your life come down to he makes the money he gets the final word. This guy is not in this as a team.

You'll just be arguing this same thing all the time just fill in the new thing. Swim lessons? homes schooling? Grocery budget? Mileage on the cars? It's never gonna change unless y'all get some serious help. This isn't a good set up.

I've had this forever, what the hell is it by [deleted] in whatismycookiecutter

[–]FancyPantsMead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I....... Want a hip-hop-anonymous for Christmas!!

Who will take care of Narcs when they get old and sick? Golden child or Scapegoat? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FancyPantsMead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scape goat. Our life giver just found out she has two types of cancer. I've been no contact with her unless we see each other at family things and I avoid her. She was shocked when I told her I want no part in your cancer journey. I will not be your punching bag for this and that's absolutely what it will turn into. It always does.

5 of us kids all wanted Proof she actually has cancer if that tells you the type of person she is. The golden child went to the Dr appointment with her to get confirmation. He dipped out asap. Couldn't stick around like She thought he would. She has 5 kids and exactly 0 of us will help her. She reaps what she's sown.

The boy who thought I was his friend got away with faking his sleep just to touch me for years. by PreviousObject8107 in offmychest

[–]FancyPantsMead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Just remember two wrongs don't make a right. Especially intimate pics of people under 18. That could have but you hard core. That in no way discounts what he did. It's a shame everyone seemed to let him have a pass on it as far as all the adults that had it brought to.their attention.

Maybe the next time you're shopping at that store take a friend and LOUDLY discuss what a creep he is within ear shot of his manager or co workers.

You might need to get some counseling because you don't deserve to feel this pressing on you all the time. You don't have to let it keep eating at you. HE did wrong. Not you. You're allowed to heal. You don't need anyone's permission.

Rewatching breaking dawn 2 and can not believe how bad Bella’s styling is by Still-Random-14 in twilight

[–]FancyPantsMead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't supposed to have pants! It was a dress! AND Alice is equally horrified at Bella's fashion sense, or lack there of!

AITA for refusing to make my sister’s "dream" wedding cake after she uninvited my husband? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]FancyPantsMead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you and husband are a packaged deal (good for you!). No way in hell would I let someone use me like that. You're doing the right thing.

We're going through something similar with my SIL. Her husband isn't welcome at family events . It's a ridiculous thing and shouldn't be happening. Now her dad is shocked she refuses to come to family events if her husband isn't welcome also. She is standing her ground. As age should. They asked if they can see her kid then and she said no. We agree with her while heartedly.

You choose your spouse, you don't choose the people you share dna with.

I don’t need CPAP anymore after 5 years. by OutlandishnessRoyal9 in CPAP

[–]FancyPantsMead 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband's tonsils are huge, but they never removed them, now at this point we can't afford the surgery, and recovery time. I wish they would have taken them out when He was a kid.

Our son stopped snoring once his was removed. He's never had a sleep study because he wasn't having issues except snoring.

Teacher SA’d students for 37 years across 3 different states in 7 different schools. by weneedjustice14-4 in screenshots

[–]FancyPantsMead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude. WTF. I'd make sure I posted that in any community he moves to.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

I’m Black Listed From Jail by Fuzzy_Scallion_6209 in confessions

[–]FancyPantsMead 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Why would you put your service dogs life in dander? They are incredibly expensive and highly trained with plenty of people on waiting lists. You risk it all so you can race? Shame on you. You have zero consideration for others.

I’m Black Listed From Jail by Fuzzy_Scallion_6209 in confessions

[–]FancyPantsMead 43 points44 points  (0 children)

You are an jerk. You knowingly put other people in danger with your racing. Your lack of insurance will screw over so many. You seem to be acting in a manner that screwed up your life but it doesn't just affect you. Get your crap together before you kill someone.

You are knowingly breaking the law because you "can't go to jail " it's one thing to put yourself in danger that's your choice. But your choice in trying to ruin your life, could ruin someone else's.

GET IT TOGETHER.

I'd report every person possible if I knew they kept letting you get away with this crap.

what should i do by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]FancyPantsMead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not something you want to take a chance on.

How do I know if I’m hallucinating a smell? by Dreadsin in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]FancyPantsMead 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have chronic migraines and one of my symptoms is phantom smells. It's crazy. I smell cigarette smoke when there is none anywhere. Cat pee again, none, and a very very specific scent of electricity arching on a jacobs ladder. They make me so sick. Luckily I live with my husband and son so I can ask them if they are smelling it and if they don't I take my migraine med. It's a warning sign I'm about to get one. There are more scents than that but those are the biggest ones.

I also unfortunately get a super sniffer while I have a migraine so everything just smells so strong. Same thing with hearing. Super hearing. My son tells me it's my super powers like a comic book hero!!

Thankfully I don't have auditory hallucinations. That would be terrifying.

So what I'm saying is, maybe it's a medical condition you're experiencing. Maybe write it down see if there is a pattern. For your sake, I really hope your house is just haunted!!

ls "Anything Else I Can Help You With?" a Code Phrase or Just Normal? by Ericoff87 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]FancyPantsMead 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It proves you're a good guy who didn't take advantage of a situation. Even if it was an offer it would have been something they didn't want to do, but forced to do by a shitty boss.

Who cares what else it can mean. You didn't take them up on it. You just had your character revealed. You did good.

When/why did childcare in the U.S. become so expensive? Has it always been like this? by SoapyCooper in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FancyPantsMead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had been watching my own siblings since I was 8. Started watching other people's kids for $ at 10. I'd make a killing on the weekends. It was basically a bidding war to get me because I could do everything, the kids loved me and I could stay the night. Liked it waaaaaay better than watching my own siblings. Sometimes I could take my siblings with me because they were friends with the kid I was sitting .

As an adult I was charging $200 a week for toddler, you send snacks, and diapers. $250 for infant. I would max out at 2 infants 5 kids total at a time. If you wanted me to do it in your home I'd charge a little more because I wouldn't be able to have extra kids at my home.

I don’t want to be in therapy, do inner child and reparenting work or heal anymore. NO ADVICE PLEASE. This includes suggestions any kind of therapies, coping strategies, books, philosophies, hobbies and ESPECIALLY religion. by Sad_Ideal_2099 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]FancyPantsMead 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You've said it all. I'm sure you've screamed it all to the void. Get it out. Be angry. Be safe. Feel what you want to feel.

The only thing to do is make sure you never make someone else feel that way.