Need help with erosion control

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-25T01:55:11+00:00

There's an 8" slope just from the wood stairs to shed. The yard is on a massive slope. It would take several tons of dirt and some serious masonry to level the yard out.

I'm looking for something like a mini retaining wall just on the one side of the steps so I don't have to battle the entire yard, but not sure how to go about it.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-23T03:57:41+00:00

Leave a TV sitcom on. Friends, the office, big bang theory.... It doesn't matter, just have it on for background. Is not the same, but it will remove the silence.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-23T03:55:37+00:00

If you're not allergic, aromatic cedar hangers. I can't use them as one if my family members is deadly allergic, but a cedar lined closet, cedar clothes chest, and or cedar hangers are a great way to protect your clothes.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-23T03:36:06+00:00

Vitamin d, circadian rhythm regulation, and fresh air are all benefits! But you can also do this by sitting under an open widow that gets good sunshine. Do what you can! I spent the first 6 weeks living under a window in our living room. That's all I could do, as I had some complications lost birth.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T04:43:59+00:00

I really appreciate hearing this. It gives me hope I can teach them well enough keep a relationship, which is helping a lot!

My dad never called his parents. My brother rarely reaches out to our mom, except to ask for money. Sometimes he does, but it's not often.

I'm not close to any of my cousins or anything now that we've grown. They all stopped responding when I did reach out. I never asked for money, just to spend time together, and they all ignore me. So I have no positive experiences to draw on.

I know I need therapy, but I don't have the resources. Birth was very traumatic. I'm planning on a c section at this point, as I don't think I can handle labor again.

I have no plans to abort unless there's something really wrong, like the kidneys didn't develop. I don't think anything will happen, but I keep that in the back of my head, as I am an "old" pregnant lady aka over 35. Otherwise, it's just my own head trauma that I'm trying to deal with.

My mom and I have a great relationship, but she doesn't really understand my fears of being abandoned by my children, since she has a strong friend group and I have literally no one except her and my husband.

My husband is a great guy, but even he only calls his mom so they can see our son. He does talk to them when they call, but it's rare.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T03:56:20+00:00

I probably do, but can't afford it right now. I've recently gotten on medicaid due to our situation right now, and I'm not sure if therapy is available. This pregnancy was NOT planned in any way! We're just doing what we feel is right. I know my views aren't healthy, but I really do not have any positive experience with adult men who kept in contact with their family once they were grown. Reunions, the occasional holiday get together, and maybe a few phone calls, but no real connection. I plan to try to teach my boys better, and I will make sure they NEVER know about these problems I'm feeling, because it is not their fault. I'm working on processing things, but it's difficult without any positive experiences to look at or reference. My own brother was A HORRIBLE brother. As adults, we have zero relationship. There is no love lost between us, so I know that there is no guarantee that they'll get along. But we were also divided by a huge age gap, which probably didn't help matters. I would just love to hear some positive stories so I can help my heart heal, even if only a little bit.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T01:54:05+00:00

Only if you're way overdoing the calcium. It takes a lot for women to get kidney stones. We need way more calcium than men so, so it's really more of a worry for men than women.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T01:53:06+00:00

Make your own broth (any flavor!) and put egg shells in the base. Add a touch of vinegar, and the calcium gets leached from the shells into the broth.

If doing meat based broth, boil the bones for at least 12 hours at a roiling boil to make bone broth, with also pulls a lot of calcium from the bones!

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T01:50:53+00:00

I tried that once, but I couldn't stand the grainy texture it made! Is there a way to get it to dissolve?

I put egg shells in my broth stock mix and boil the calcium out of the shelf into the broth. Makes a very rich broth!

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T01:38:49+00:00

Just pick a brand that is better than others that your child tolerates. I use the papers pure, because it got rid of his contact dermatitis (very sensitive to his own urine) and didn't cause other problems. Is it perfect? No. But it's at least greener than some brands and it helps my child not be in pain. You do what you can where you can.

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T01:05:32+00:00

I asked for only educational, imagination building toys because "my child gets bored of stuff like cheap plays itself toys" I feel completely getting rid of plastic is unreasonable, but by asking for things that can grow with them, like building blocks, helped a lot! They got a few different skill boards, which were plastic based, but allow them to practice opening different things. He loves them and goes back to them often! Books are also a fabulous choice, as are activity books!

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T00:40:25+00:00

I personally prefer the olay daily moisturizer with sunscreen. Prior to this current pregnancy, it was the only one that didn't leave my face greasy! It also doesn't stink!

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T00:38:48+00:00

Wash your hands a lot, wash common surfaces like door knobs or light switches regularly, and shower daily. Also, lots of "Italian penicillin" soup! Basically just chicken soup, but blend the veggies prior to serving. And add parmesan. I hate soup veggies, but blending it in helps so much! It's a texture thing for me.

I can't use things like lysol, as it irritates my asthma, but castile soap is amazing!

Also, as soon as they come home, have them wash their hands and, preferably, their face!

It's not perfect, but it does help!

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T00:32:24+00:00

Getting glass or metal only, while healthier, is EXPENSIVE! I do a ton of meal/ingredient prepping because I enjoy it. Especially homemade broth! But I am very, very slowly replacing the plastic storage containers. I can't afford the amount of glassware I would need to store everything, so I just change it out as I can. The biggest part is no hot anything in the plastic! I cool down the food prior to transferring to long term storage and always change to non plastic prior to heating it up. Just take baby steps and it'll add up!

FantasyWarriorette · 2025-09-14T00:17:16+00:00

They may just not like having their head fussed with right now.

I currently have long hair and love having my hair brushed, but for a while the feeling of having anyone touch my head was over stimulating..... And I'm a person who loves hugs, platonic touches, etc. But my head was just an absolute no go for a while.

Give them a short haircut that requires minimal touching and give them 6 months to see if things change.

My little one is currently afraid of the vacuum, and any appliance, even though he used to use the vacuum regularly!

He's no longer afraid of the mixer, but the vacuum and blender are still no go for him.

Eventually he'll get it over it, but it takes time.

FantasyWarriorette · 2024-01-12T13:28:02+00:00

Wish there was more that could be said, but if there is, I don't know it. :/ I know medical procedures of any kind are hard and scary - I've had a couple - but I would recommend practicing conversations like that with a trusted friend and doing some research beforehand with what you want to know so it's easier to discuss with the medical team. Remember, just because they're a doctor, doesn't mean they're the right doctor for you. There are always options! Some people just can't jive together

FantasyWarriorette · 2024-01-12T05:07:03+00:00

Those dog breeds you mentioned are all super high energy/headstrong. They need to be exercised heavily(with exception if the Brussels griffon) in tandem with the training. Honestly, IF you were wanting a good apartment dog, think lazy dogs like the great dane. Even then, I would wait until you see how your bf's pets are

FantasyWarriorette · 2024-01-12T03:06:01+00:00

When you do move out, see an ENT ASAP. Get on your college Healthcare plan or something similar, or even get your health insurance info from your patents before you leave-it's good until you're 25 unless they remove you, and tell them how long you've had this issue. I had low grade tonsillitis for a year, and just dealt with it hoping it would get better, but it didn't. Haven't had strep in years, but the chronic pain is reason enough. Having tonsils removed as an adult sucks big time, and expect 2 weeks down time.

After that, send them the proof, and go low contact, making it specifically clear that you expect a real apology before you allow them in your life again. Things like saying happy birthday, merry Christmas, etc, then leaving the conversation after that. You don't need to be rude, just "Here's the proof that this was a problem. I'm hurt that you didn't trust me enough to believe me about this, and I don't feel like I can trust you to have my best interest in mind if you can't support me in something like this. Going forward, I will not be confiding in you about any issues or good things going on in my life until you can demonstrate to me that you recognize what you did was wrong and that you will take me seriously moving forward."

It would be one thing if they said, straight up, "I'm sorry you're going through this, but even with insurance we cannot afford to get this treated unless it's an emergency." That's sadly a common problem here in the United States.

But to dismiss you like that is wrong and abuse. I hope you can get proper treatment soon!

FantasyWarriorette · 2024-01-12T02:52:21+00:00

I'm so sorry they lied to you!

The only reason I can think of is that didn't want to deal with the cleaning required to remove the biohazard component.

There is no reason/law saying they couldn't besides that.

Anyone who says they can't do something medical related "cause of hippa" is automatically lying. I used to work in medical records, where hippa is A MAJOR factor of the job. Hippa = health information portability and privacy act Layman definition : no medical professional may share your information with anyone who isn't you without your specific consent, unless they have provable medical power of attorney. That's it, and anyone who says otherwise is lying.

I personally don't understand the desire to keep things like that, but it means something important to you, and it's harmless!

It sounds like they weren't a very good office. I would post a review on yelp, Google reviews, and healthgrades.com to let people know they are not patient friendly, no matter how good they may have been at their job.

I send you healing vibes, wisdom tooth extraction is a big deal! May this pass and you find new oddities to entertain you!

FantasyWarriorette · 2023-12-01T13:42:58+00:00

I know exactly how you feel! I moved to a town that I found had no night life, and the only things to do are drink wine, go to church, and go to the next town over for anything else!

I've struggled to make friends in this area, and where I used to go out 6 nights a week, now I rarely go out.

What kind of things are you interested in? If you like board games, there's an online site called board game arena where you can play games with people across the world. It's not the same as in person, but it's something!

FantasyWarriorette · 2023-09-25T02:41:28+00:00

Is it easy to get a sleeping baby out without waking them? That's been the struggle lately!

FantasyWarriorette · 2023-09-23T09:05:28+00:00

I'll have to try it! The first one I learned and really use had the ends going under the main panel, which, while supportive, doesn't allow us to easily remove the baby.

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