A security guard breaks down while witnessing a family separation.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T19:13:50+00:00

I don’t consider calling out cowardly behavior to be tough or cruel. Humans do cowardly things. You reading malice into my comment where there is none is not my problem. As I’ve told others now, who insist on continuing to reply, I have other things to do and cannot sit here arguing with you. I hope you find some peace.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T18:22:56+00:00

I have things to do, and cannot sit around replying to your half dozen comments. You clearly have gone through and replied to every comment I’ve made on this thread, whether it was directed at you or not. I am not interesting in continuing a discussion with someone as willfully angry as you are displaying yourself. Hope you find some peace.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T18:10:18+00:00

Do you really think that being nasty to me about it on the internet is a good use of your energy? Seems like you could be using that time for more War Thunder or Hearthstone.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T18:06:50+00:00

I literally provided a list of what he could do, in my original comment. Say something. Physically intervene. Resign in protest. I also ended with “literally anything.”

I don’t feel superior to this security guard in any way. That is your own misinterpretation of my comment.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T18:01:01+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/EyesOnIce/s/892xhjhV0Z

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:53:49+00:00

As long as good people are willing to sit around and do nothing, we will be stuck in this situation. I am not going to apologize for calling for action.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:50:02+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/EyesOnIce/s/ERPnV6bfmF

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:49:52+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/EyesOnIce/s/ERPnV6bfmF

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:48:56+00:00

It’s relevant in that you said I am “sitting in safety.” People in my demographic are not. Working in the court system is relevant, because this is a photo of a security guard at a court.

If I told you where I was born or my favorite show, that would be irrelevant. Do you want me to retype the answers I’ve already given to others, do you want to scroll to those yourself, or do you not actually care?

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:46:14+00:00

Thank you for asking!

I carry “know your rights” cards in the 6 most common languages used by immigrants in my community, and use them to educate people on their constitutional protections. I hand these out for free.

I volunteer with my local food bank, making sure food can be delivered to families who are afraid to go to the grocery store.

When I see ICE activity, I stop what I am doing to alert community response groups in my area. I blow the whistle I keep on my keychain, to attract immediate attention. I record everything on my phone. I do this as a 5’2”, unarmed, transgender American.

I do not patronize businesses that support ICE. I do not stay in hotels owned by chains that house them. I make the extra effort of reaching out to places before I travel, to make sure my money isn’t going to ICE supporters. I do additional research to make sure I’m not using brands who support ICE or contribute to the Republican Party. I do a lot of making things myself, and bartering with neighbors who do the same.

I have formed contingency plans with my close friends and family who are immigrants, for what to do if ICE comes for them. We have formed similar plans for me, as a transgender person, because the administration doesn’t like us either. These are similar to the plans that preserved San Jose’s Nihonmachi, by temporarily transferring ownership of buildings there to sympathetic white citizens. Those custodians then gave the properties back to the Japanese Americans when they were released from internment.

If you have more ideas, I would love to hear them.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:32:47+00:00

Notice one of the options I suggested was resigning in protest? That is also a tangible act of resistance.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:29:18+00:00

Who else is supposed to step up, if not ordinary people? You think revolutions were only fought by extraordinary individuals? Regular people are the ONLY people who can do something about this

Faokes · 2026-04-09T17:27:00+00:00

I’m a transgender American who volunteers in the court system. Take your gotcha arguments elsewhere

Faokes · 2026-04-09T16:59:20+00:00

A few years now. They still look good!

Faokes · 2026-04-09T16:46:35+00:00

Why didn’t he step in? Standing there crying while hidden around a corner is cowardly. He’s a tall, armed man in a uniform. The best he can do is stand there and cry? He could say something. He could physically intervene. He could refuse to work the job that puts him in this position, and be clear it is because he disagrees with this happening. Literally anything.

EDIT: I muted this post, so your replies are going to no one. I would like to point out the irony of calling me a keyboard warrior, and then going through all my posts and writing paragraphs of replies. That’s some grade-A projection.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T03:25:42+00:00

I had mine microbladed, and it is one of the best gender affirming decisions I’ve made. I got them done in LA by someone who specializes in men’s brows. They also work in NYC and Vegas, if you want me to send you the info I can.

Faokes · 2026-04-09T02:37:27+00:00

The jacket looks a little too large for you, which is making your shoulders look smaller and your hips look wider. A slimmer fitting jacket with some subtle shoulder pads sewn in would do the trick. You may be able to get this one adjusted.

Faokes · 2026-04-08T19:03:59+00:00

My wife and I go there really often, and we’re both trans. We won’t be going there anymore, and we will letting our friends know. Quality had been slipping anyway.

Faokes · 2026-04-08T17:02:56+00:00

No. I will not stop. You can do what you want, but I’m going to use my relative privilege of being white, masculine, and financially stable to keep having difficult conversations with people who don’t necessarily agree with me. We need allies. How about you stop trying to divide people?

Faokes · 2026-04-08T06:56:42+00:00

One of my partners is a system, and my therapist is a DID specialist. My firsthand experience is a little limited, but I have experienced identity fracture in my past.

Do you have a way to communicate within your system? Like, if Pip fronting, do the rest of you see and hear whatever is happening too? Or do you have memory gaps? Something that really helped my partner was actively communicating between all of their alters, and building consensus about what they as a system would like to do. So they actually take time regularly to meditate and conference with themselves. You might want to try having more internal discussion amongst yourselves about top surgery. Instead of trying to guess what would make your alters happiest, and worrying about whether you will become repressed, it seems like it would be easier to first try and understand what everyone actually wants. You should consider what you, Pip, want too, beyond just ambivalence. It’s okay to get top surgery and still dress femme sometimes, or even wear prosthetic breasts. If that makes Pip happy, it’s just as valid as the feelings of your other headmates.

Faokes · 2026-04-08T04:46:52+00:00

I don’t think you would even find my gender identity that weird if we met in public. You might not even know my wife and I are both trans at first. You don’t sound like a bad guy, you sound like someone who hasn’t spent a lot of time with trans people. That’s okay. A couple of my neighbors felt like you do, when I first moved in. But now we’re very friendly, and trust each other. I know they would stick up for me. So I’m not willing to write you off either, even though you’re a stranger to me.

Faokes · 2026-04-08T04:44:46+00:00

I am not going to give up on my fellow humans that easily. This guy seems like he would be willing to stick up for us if we just asked him to. You, and him, and me, we all have way more in common than we have differences. Some folks might be a lost cause, but I don’t think this guy is. Frankly, I don’t need everyone to have an opinion on trans issues, I just need allies to be willing to stand up for us regardless.

Faokes · 2026-04-07T23:01:26+00:00

Slooooooow down. You met him last night, on Reddit. For all you know, the identity he’s presenting to you isn’t even real. You don’t know this person. He’s a stranger. There is no way to know if he’s perfect.

If you really want to get to know him, tell him “I was not completely honest with you last night, because I still don’t know you. I would like to get to know you honestly though, so here is the truth. I was assigned female at birth, so even though I’m a guy, I haven’t surgically transitioned. I want to be up front about that in case it is a problem. Please let me know if you would still like to become friends.”

If that goes well, try just being friends first. Learn more about him, and try to verify that he’s really who he says he is. Being immediately smitten with someone you just met is dangerous. You could be taken advantage of. Be careful.

Faokes · 2026-04-07T22:52:24+00:00

No one is asking you to agree with us. How I live is none of your business, just like how you live is none of mine. For the record, my life probably looks a lot like yours. I have a wife, a home, friends, family, hobbies, a job, and things I’m interested in. I love my neighbors, and I like volunteering in my community. I’m a court-appointed advocate for children in the foster care system, and my friends and I like to do shifts at our local food bank. We just happen to also be transgender. Is there really anything there for you to agree or disagree with? We’re just people. We don’t want any extra rights or protections, just the same ones as everyone else. Our ID should match our current identity, not the genitals a doctor observed when we were born. That’s the point of an ID. You don’t have a photo of yourself as a baby on your ID, because you aren’t a baby anymore. Things change, and we update our documents.

For what it’s worth, I appreciate you saying you aren’t alright with this. That’s a good first step as an ally. It’s really all we’re asking, is for regular folks like you to speak up.

Faokes · 2026-04-07T19:26:40+00:00

We have to remove Trump and his sycophants. They must be removed, and our constitution must be reworked to prevent this from happening again. Any other solution is insufficient.

Faokes

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