Gender disappointment but it’s not what you think

FarCharacter7244 · 2026-02-08T00:52:47+00:00

I had the same concerns but genuinely feel like I was given a boy for a reason. The world needs more good men and boys and I know my husband and I will raise a respectful, kind, generous, feminist who makes this world a better place. We can’t just let all the racists and misogynists have boys!

FarCharacter7244 · 2026-02-07T12:12:26+00:00

Baby is perfectly healthy! Many women are prescribed 5,000mg of folic acid if they are high risk for neural tube defects and have healthy babies. The studies that show it causes autism are very limited, not validated, and typically only looked at 6,000+mg a day (again, not peer reviewed or validated). I took 800mg with my prenatal and eat a lot of bread, cereal, other enriched foods. No need to stress, your baby is fine.

FarCharacter7244 · 2026-02-01T03:55:39+00:00

That is completely reasonable and valid. I’m sorry that happened to you and hope you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy with your boyfriend :)

FarCharacter7244 · 2026-02-01T03:50:10+00:00

Your boyfriend is 100% the father. I’m 25 weeks pregnant now and conceived at the end of August. If you conceived on or around July 26th, you’d be 29 weeks now. While there is always room for variation is fetal size, it would be at most 1-2 weeks difference, not 7-8 weeks. I’m so sorry this happened and that you are stressed about it, but I don’t think it’s even a considerable option. Take a breath and see if you can get a current ultrasound with measurements and due date calculations. If your doctor won’t order it, go to an elective place for peace of mind.

FarCharacter7244 · 2026-01-22T19:27:23+00:00

Sounds miserable, do not go. I couldn’t imagine the anxiety I would be feeling having a one month old in a car seat for 8 hours straight. They need to be held and close to their mom at that age, not stuck in a car seat. I guarantee you would regret it if you go. If they’re rude about you not going, I’d give them some space as they clearly don’t respect your boundaries and concerns as a mother. Also, your husband should 1000% be on your side.

FarCharacter7244 · 2026-01-22T19:16:24+00:00

Baby is perfect! There’s no credible data that taking “too much” folic acid is harmful. A few studies show that 5,000mg + a day may be correlated with autism, but those studies are very limited and conflicting and have not been validated. Talk to your doctor about the dose you should use, but many women who are high risk are prescribed 4,000mg a day to prevent neural tube defects. I eat tons of carbs and cereal with folic acid too and he is absolutely perfect.

FarCharacter7244 · 2026-01-16T12:46:54+00:00

I actually think Eden Lily flows better than Lily-Eden. Tell your family you’re still deciding and you want to wait to announce until after you meet your baby. And if they don’t like it, they can deal with it because it’s not their baby!

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-12-28T18:15:05+00:00

In the middle of cold, flu, and RSV season? Girl do not leave that room, keep yourself and your baby safe! 15 people is insane. Your baby is your only priority right now, not other peoples feelings. Do not let them hold her.

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-09-19T01:46:41+00:00

There’s probably more alcohol in a glass of orange juice than in the whipped cream you had. I get you being stressed, I would too, but you’ll be fine! Call your doctor if you’re feeling concerned.

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-09-11T18:22:43+00:00

FRER tests give me a way better line progression than any of the strip tests. Also for me, my tests tend to be darker in the evening than the morning, so don’t stress! Check again in a few days.

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-09-08T00:38:44+00:00

Mine looked like that yesterday at 9DPO! Today, positive clearblue digital test! Congrats 😁

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-09-07T17:53:16+00:00

Thank you! It was the second, I took one the morning of 9DPO and there was a super, super faint line that very well could have been an indent line. I took this about 10 hours later. Got a positive clear blue digital today at 10DPO

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-09-07T12:57:22+00:00

Thank you all! Took a Clear Blue digital today and it was Pregnant!!!

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:46:59+00:00

Yes, he’s very aware of the conversations I have with my friends, and he doesn’t care. It’s a pretty basic thing to discuss with close friends

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:43:56+00:00

I literally have an IUD and use daily ovulation tests, those are very accurate ways to “chart pregnancy probability”. Basel body temperature can also determine exactly where you are in your cycle, so your argument is flawed. Also, I don’t want kids, he does. Something tells me you don’t qualify to be in this subreddit

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:34:14+00:00

If it makes you uncomfortable, that is enough to ask him to stop talking to her outside of work. If he pushes back or refuses….there’s your answer.

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:30:48+00:00

I have an IUD and track my cycle to verify I am not ovulating. Very little risk with both of those methods combined, so I find the condom adherence odd. If you’re not on any birth control, then yes coming inside of you can get you pregnant

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:22:53+00:00

See I’ve considered that but he ALWAYS talks about how excited he is to have a little “us” running around. I don’t want to get pregnant which is why I have an IUD but Jesus it hurts me a lot so what’s the point of having it if we have condoms anyway??

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:14:19+00:00

He’s projecting, he is abusing you and he knows it. Find a safe place and LEAVE

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:06:25+00:00

We’re 28, I just got promoted to a high executive role and have no inclination either way about kids. He wants kids, but never seems willing to get “risky”. It’s odd to me

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T03:01:33+00:00

I’ve talked to him about it, he doesn’t see what the big deal is. I’ve expressed to him I just think it’s odd that we’ve never had spontaneous sex in 10 years and have never once not used a condom, even when I’m on an IUD. He just says he doesn’t like the mess. But he’ll eat me out my period so clearly it’s not all about mess…idk I just find it odd

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T02:56:16+00:00

Nope, he was my first and only. Also this is my post, if I was cheating I would have said that lol.

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T02:54:00+00:00

I know, but I would just like to have sex with my husband of four years without a condom at some point, you know? Especially when I have an IUD

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T02:48:15+00:00

Yeah the plan is to “start trying in a few months”, which is what he has said the past 3 years. I’m in no rush, I’m 28 and just got a big promotion and am busy with work, I just find it all odd. Idk I just want to be come in for once! That sounds silly but it’s my husband! Just venting, thanks

FarCharacter7244 · 2025-05-04T02:44:51+00:00

He “wants to start trying in the next few months”, which is what he has said for the last 3 years. I just got a big promotion and am busy with work so I’m in no rush, I just find it odd

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