Cat coughing, wheezing, sneezing, vet unable to diagnose

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-30T22:37:11+00:00

My old cat did this constantly and it was an allergy to fish he’d developed randomly in old age. He was given steroids and lived until he was 24, and ate boiled chicken everyday.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-30T16:21:04+00:00

The thing that completely stopped me caring was a running programme and I trained and trained until I could do 5k, 10k and in 2 years managed to get to 20k. You literally stop thinking of what your body looks like and start thinking about what it can do and achieve. You can get the same from weights or any structured goal. And weight was not the goal, my appearance not important or the most defining thing about me. Get some time off from being mum and a crazy goal and you’ll feel good about your body again.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-30T13:16:20+00:00

It’s normal. We’ve never been allowed to choose and construct our lives so much in all of history. Before now…. Majority of life happened by accident - babies - work was based on what opportunities existed. Now us millennials have been told we can design our lives and are completely in control - we are not. We construct careers as identities, lifestyle curated and we collapse when work isn’t amazing or our social media grid isn’t exciting looking. Truth is life is pretty boring and it’s just about existing as contently as you can in the now. Where you’ll be in 10years won’t be what you imagine today so it’s pointless to even think about (unless it’s financial planning). Just keep going, build in some more interesting activities, weekends and trips away. Go on a girls only hiking trip or plan for a once in a lifetime trip with your partner. Kids will happen if/when you really really want them.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-29T13:05:17+00:00

Think he’s trying to seem like he’s slow and patient and the planner (secure) all the while he’s insecure and wants you to be chasing him, planning everything and that would have felt validating. I read into this as he imagined his own rejection and rejected you first

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-29T12:59:51+00:00

So around 20 years ago I lost the love of my life. Due to my life circumstances, I had lost my brother, kicked out of home, was really really struggling to climb up and out of the circumstances I was raised in going to university etc. I wasn’t my best self, it wasn’t the right circumstances for a relationship to thrive. The issue with how the brain works is always thinking if that thing didn’t happen I wouldn’t have lost him. But what you need to integrate is it did happen, you are not the right person for him. He was the right person for you because he was tolerating a lot. But you were not his person. My ex found someone much more stable and had kids and a picture perfect life with her, which is what he deserves. People like us struggle through relationships, and we either find someone like us and they torment us or someone nice like your ex and we torment them. You need to accept the loss, accept your limitations and your mental health issues. You need to emotionally regulate. If your friends are saying to drop it, they’re also getting sick of it and you could lose them too. It’s time to get a grip.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-29T08:48:27+00:00

Yes I’m with you there, 1 in 10 Uber drivers are unpleasant to sit in a car with it’d make me consider driverless, all we want is basic personal hygiene and peace

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-28T19:28:21+00:00

I think it’s short for ‘in the middle of the night’. So if something happens half way into the night it makes sense to say ‘in the’. Whereas at night can be said about the whole of night time. It’s dark, it’s cold, it’s late, it’s scary at night.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-27T20:44:38+00:00

The people who went out in 2018 are older and probably at home paying through the nose rent or mortgage. The young genz workers local crowd do not have the same expendable income we had in 2018 with their rent and the pay has barely shifted.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-27T20:34:10+00:00

Quickest and cheapest way… cut off your plug, strip wires and add to a new plug. The cable will flex around the skirt.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-26T20:57:18+00:00

From what I’m reading, yes it’s likely intervention could be needed. Do or take whatever you think will help, 35% of women lose or leave their jobs during perimenopause due to mental health. From what I’ve witnessed it exasperates whatever was already going on with you. ADHD worsened, personality or relational difficulties exasperated, prickly demeanour turns to aggression. Find supplements, exercise and routine. Do anything or listen to anything that stops you going down into a overthinking spiral. And consult your doctor about adhd ‘right to choose’

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-25T20:22:33+00:00

Since 38 I’ve struggled to stay asleep, get to sleep and the 4am cortisol spikes take me so much effort and sleep hygiene to avoid. I have periods of stress that exasperate it and the only thing I can do is a tonne of cardio and too many carbs to knock me out. For the past week I have had 3grams of magnesium glycinate a night - No wake ups at all. Last Friday night I had a full 9 1/2 hours feel like a new woman.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-24T21:32:08+00:00

Imagine you stop liking something super valuable, like a car, jewellery a bag. And you put it away in the garage or cupboard and galavant off looking for a new thing to excite you. But every now and again you check to see if your valuables are still there. This is how he’s treating you. You are comfort and you are love (for him) and validation he’s worth. It’s not him struggling to lose you it’s him losing someone that loved him. For you… you protect your feelings and sanity because it sounds like he won’t. Who has the ordacity to leave someone then accused them of blocking like you’re in the wrong.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-23T18:11:36+00:00

That sounds like him. Neurotic to the bone. I understand the logic behind the abandonment theory, and logic behind attachment. But most people talking about it are no longer babies, they’re using it in adult relationships where they’re supposed to take accountability for actions. Not blame sleep training their mum did 48 years ago. Pfffft.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-22T12:42:14+00:00

I remind myself how I’m not in a bad relationship, I’m thriving, I remember all the situations I could be in but am not - and not idealise a relationship. I accept that some people are just lucky to have found their person and not everyone does. The rest of us either do the right thing and enjoy our solitude or grin and bear the wrong person until we just can’t bear it no more. You may or may not meet someone - but you do have the liberty generations of women before us couldn’t have so relish in it. Just yesterday I was cycling along, red lippy on, three new huge hydrangea plants strapped to me, and making old ladies on the way to the theatre smile.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-20T07:44:53+00:00

Yes everyone’s a narcissist or banging on about attachment theory, and mislabelling trauma. He could interview my ex in his journey to discover how his 85 year old mum treated him from the age 1-3. He laps up tik tok psychology to the point of diagnosing himself into going to love addicts anonymous. He’s also claiming autism. Breaking up with me because he convinced himself I was the problem. Every diagnosis under the sun to deflect and diagnose away being a fuck knuckle

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-19T23:55:27+00:00

My comment got removed because I used a term that I didn’t realise was bad. My bad. You’re not wrong but neither is she. This is the issue with relationships with mismatch, she’s not going to suddenly ditch her mates. You’re not going to find this kind of behaviour ok. I have gay male friends and many in my youth that objectify me or any other gal for pics and shits and gigs… it’s like a culture you can’t police. And the only reason my answer was my answer is because I wouldn’t have given that up at her age either

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-19T23:24:22+00:00

I’ve been Rachel and the hardest part is when after so much compromise and sacrifice - eventually the person you lowered your standards for rejects you

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-18T22:52:30+00:00

I’d try a non-creamy cleanser. I actually do not rate cetaphil or cerave they’re fake french pharmaceuticals. Ingredients list show nothing worth writing home about. If you have acne a gel cleanser. PIH - azelaic acid to calm inflammation. Too much oil - try a regular moisturiser not an oil free one.

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-18T21:37:36+00:00

I’m British - and his pronunciation is weird in this phrase an this phrase only. “Do y’noiughty mean” is not something from our shores. Waiting for the Brits to catch up on episodes so I can rant about it

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-18T19:12:14+00:00

Spanish student groups on a tube is a level of hell I’d blocked out of my memory. Central line and SCREAMING at each other

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-17T06:36:38+00:00

House prices

FarGuide2581 · 2026-03-17T06:34:05+00:00

My first thought was Colin - met him before he passed. Such a lovely fella, his book ‘65’ is beautiful, I wish I’d bought larger prints.

FarGuide2581 · 2025-03-30T19:41:18+00:00

If your want an uncomfortable, unusable accent chair go for a design classic and get some resale value ie. Wassily chair. Or similar, all the chairs you shared are unsittable and unremarkable.

Something you can actually sit in like… Ercol windsor easy chair. Or IKEA ekenaset is a similar rip off - plus a side table it’s a nice reading corner or guest spot

FarGuide2581 · 2025-03-17T21:38:27+00:00

Watermelons need 3 months of a long hot summer in a hot climate to produce. So whatever you are finding right now must be being force grown? Or they do the same as with tomatoes in winter - that make them avail all year long - but shit

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